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After the 70s, we are fifty years old.
Without paying attention, life comes to sixty years old. This means that we have truly entered the old age.
In this half of our lives, we live like Lu Xun's leaping earth. When I was a child, I was innocent, and as long as I gathered together and played a simple game, I was happy; guarding the land of my hometown, I was particularly happy to see the watermelon standing out; when it snowed in winter, I took the dustpan and propped it up with a wooden stick, and I could cover one or two sparrows, and I would cheer loudly.
Later, when we grew up, we found that life is really not easy. It's like a middle-aged leaping earth, with children, who don't dare to speak loudly. In order to make the family happier, I am sick and unwilling to take medicine, just thinking that "if I stay up, I will naturally get better."
I don't know from what day, we have white hair on the top of our heads, and the wrinkles on our faces are particularly glaring.
It turned out that we had been tossing and turning for many years and felt very tired. Where to go in the future, how to do for the elderly, is still a very suspenseful problem, which needs to be considered in the long run.
Jobs said, "The bits and pieces of what you experience will be connected in your future life." You have to follow your intuition and curiosity and learn a lot of things, which will be your priceless treasure in the future. ”
From now on, we must stabilize ourselves, let people's lives become better naturally, do not toss, you are the winner in life. Don't believe in chicken soup for the soul such as "the more tossed the better", you must precipitate the experience of life in life.
02
Don't toss the job, stay up until retirement.
One day, I said in the circle of friends: "Fifty-year-old people, it is difficult to find a job, and age is a hard injury." ”
Someone replied: "Dishwashers, cleaners, brick movers... All welcome, work everywhere. ”
One word for another. Post-70s people, if you still have to look for jobs everywhere and worry about your livelihood, you will have a very difficult life.
Because of his age, he did not have a very prominent ability, and everywhere he went, he was disliked. Only some low-end jobs can still accept you.
But you are not willing, how can you do nothing for a lifetime? But you are not reconciled, what is the use? If you jump ship at will, you may become a person who has nothing to do tomorrow, and there is no place for you.
Preferably, you think of your current job as a "lifelong career." Sticking to the post, doing things in a down-to-earth manner, and being able to retire with peace of mind is the perfect ending.
If you don't have a stable job and have to drift, then find a reliable unit and stick to it. Maybe the income won't satisfy you, but you have to think about the long term.
One of my children, he worked in Dongguan. At the age of forty-five, he quit his job and went to Shenzhen. Only to find that it was difficult to find a job, but the original unit could not accept him. Because of the age, it does not meet the recruitment requirements in the factory.
There is a saying that goes: "You don't want to quit without a job." ”
Any position is difficult, cherish the current work, is the best vision.
03
Don't toss the family, get along with each other.
"Young couples come to be companions", we used to think that this sentence was said to the elderly. Now, you will find that you also need a wife.
Especially those who are in their fifties, the children are not around, the parents can not control you, only the lovers around you, still do not abandon, each other's care.
If you are still looking forward to extramarital feelings, or worrying about former lovers, then your marriage will become very disturbing, and if you are divorced, it is not so good to find a partner later. After all, the halfway couple is not as good as the original match.
For your children, you must take more care of them, but you cannot fight for them.
To be honest, post-70s people are really doing their best to enjoy a good growth environment for their children. He moved his family from the countryside to the city, and then sent his children to better schools.
Our children went to high school and college, and spent a lot of money, but we gritted our teeth and didn't complain.
Now, if you don't have a second child, your children will be in their teens and even college. In the face of children, we must understand the principle of "teaching people to fish is better than teaching people to fish", and we must force our children to be independent and not spoil.
After 70, your parents are still there, you have to be filial piety, don't complain that your parents don't have pensions. Different times have created different lives, and parents have worked hard, but in their old age, they also have to rely on their children.
Set an example of filial piety, although you work hard, you will not be wrong. Man, have a conscience.
Accept everything about the family, don't toss it, and you will find that harmony is something that gold can't buy.
04
Don't toss wealth, learn to cut the door.
In "The Surprise of the First Shooting", there is a rich man surnamed Pan who lives in Hangzhou.
One day, Pan Fuhao was playing by the West Lake and saw a young man with a beautiful concubine playing in a small boat, which was very pleasant.
Pan Fuhao took the initiative to talk to men, only to learn that men made a fortune by refining silver, and he could train broken copper and rotten iron into silver, which was very magical.
In order to double his wealth, Pan Fuhao invited men to his home, took out all the money, and bought a lot of metal, hoping that the man would help him refine.
Unexpectedly, the man made a mistake, took the silver away, and then lied that "the refining failed". Pan Regal became poor overnight.
There is no overnight richness in the world, but there are a thousand falls, a thousand miles, a mistake into a thousand years of hatred.
Post-70s people, the boss is not small, to have a long heart, to make money steadily. Learn to cut the door, your money will naturally increase, more reliable than any other way.
When we were young, we all experienced poor days, and now we must know how to look back, and do and cherish.
05
Don't toss the circle, go it alone.
Teacher Chen Guo said: "The motivation of socialization is to build a relationship between interests and future use, and to build connections, which is fundamentally to use each other, or in a group of lonely people who are warming each other." ”
As we get older, we have to learn to do subtraction, and circles don't care about size, but care about sincerity.
High-quality circles can make you more powerful. When you retire, you can still have three or five confidants, it is precious.
When you are very tired, you can still go home and eat well; in the workplace, there are a few colleagues who can talk; and there are usually a few friends who chat together, which is enough.
The circle is bigger, the socializing is more, the time to eat and drink is also more, the waste of time is not to say, but also hurt the body.
Later, go your own way and let others say it. Insist on being true to yourself, whether you are gregarious or not, don't worry.
06
Someone said, "I was already very poor, so I tossed it around." If you succeed, you are rich, and if you don't succeed, it's still poor. ”
This sentence has a certain truth, but for people after the 70s, it is not very practical. We have also tossed and turned, and when it is time to work hard, we are not idle.
From now on, it is important to move forward steadily and get better naturally. Different ages, to face different realities, to do different things, can not be unconvinced, arbitrarily toss the existing achievements out.
From home to home, we have experienced enough, and we are tired. No one knows what will happen in the future, but we must calm down and face it calmly.
Don't toss and turn, live quietly and quietly, it is a blessing.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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