"When I was very young, my parents were particularly fond of quarrelling, and my mother always said that she had wanted to leave for a long time, but it was for me. Until they divorced, the father only gave 2,000 yuan of child support, the mother was stupid, how to live two thousand yuan, a person there crying. I said don't cry, I won't get married anyway, just the two of us. ”
Sun Li and Deng Chao are well-known model couples in the circle.
The two husbands sang with the wife, and there were no scandals after 11 years of marriage, the family was happy, and the career was happy.
It is hard to imagine that before meeting Deng Chao, Sun Li was actually an unmarried person.
When her parents divorced, she grew up with her mother.
Watching the father remarry and have a new wife and daughter.
She hated her father and her stepmother.
The hurt of her original family made her close her heart and dare not believe in love.
But the care and love that her stepmother has always had slowly opened her heart.
After the relationship eased, the two people were like mother and daughter, which became a good story.
01
In 1982, Sun Li was born into an ordinary family in a shanghai alley.
Dad Sun Zhihong opened a small watch repair shop, and mom Teresa Teng worked as a salesman in a department store.
Although the family situation is ordinary, it is also easy to eat and wear.
For the arrival of their daughter, the couple was full of joy.
I want to put the best things in the world in front of her.
When he was a child, Sun Li had bright eyes and bright teeth, and was lively and active.
In the first grade, he showed a different talent for dancing.
Teresa Teng found out about her daughter's dancing talent and chose to support her strongly.
Gritting his teeth, he sent his daughter to the Children's Palace for special dance learning.
But the cultivation of hobbies also means burning money.
The extra expenses caused cracks in this ordinary family.
Sun Zhihong believes that her daughter is still young, and there is no need to add unnecessary expenses because of her temporary interests and hobbies.
But Deng Lifang felt that since her daughter had talent, she should not waste it.
The couple often argues over this.
The fierce quarrel often frightened Sun Li to the side and did not dare to make a sound, and could only cry silently.
She once said, "The deepest memory I have in my childhood is that my parents quarreled, and they were always arguing." ”
Young Sun Li didn't understand why her parents always had to quarrel.
In order to make Mom and Dad stop arguing,
She could only redouble her efforts to learn to dance.
Each time it was the one who came first and left the latest in the Children's Palace.
The hard work and sweat have been exchanged for countless honors and medals.
She longed for her father to understand her efforts, to see her achievements, and not to argue with her mother because of it.
But all this is of little use.
Dad couldn't understand all this, and he never understood her and Mom's insistence.
Dancing was just a waste for him, and the huge expenses had already made the family start to make ends meet.
The couple's salary was almost entirely spent on Sun Li's studies.
The cost of the dance is like a heavy mountain, pressing over the family.
In 1993, Sun Li won a chance to perform abroad with excellent performances.
In those days, it was a glorious thing.
An opportunity like this cannot be missed and will not come again, and Teresa Teng will never allow her daughter to miss such a good opportunity.
But how can the cost of going abroad be affordable for an ordinary family like them?
In order to let her daughter go abroad, Deng Lifang even did not hesitate to borrow money.
This move also completely triggered the contradiction between husband and wife.
Sun Zhihong did not agree to her daughter learning to dance, let alone borrowing money to let her perform abroad.
He firmly disagreed with his wife's proposal.
He even said that if you want her to go abroad, we will divorce her.
But in Teresa Teng's heart, nothing can compare to her daughter's future.
Even though her husband threatened divorce, she took her daughter abroad to perform without looking back.
The performances abroad went very well,
Looking at her daughter's sparkling appearance on the stage,
Teresa Teng only felt that all the suffering she had suffered was worth it.
In 1994, the mother and daughter returned to China happily, who expected to receive a divorce agreement from Sun Zhihong as soon as they returned.
Over the years, when couples quarrel and quarrel, they have not used divorce as a threat.
Deng Lifang thought that this time it would be the same as before, but she did not expect that her husband was really cruel.
Looking at the divorce agreement, she suddenly collapsed to the ground.
Tears are like pearls with broken threads, and they can't be stopped.
She hugged her daughter and cried, never imagining that the couple would finally come to this point.
Looking at her ignorant and tender daughter in her arms, she forced herself to hold back tears to find Sun Zhihong.
"I don't agree with divorce. Even if you want to divorce, you have to wait until your daughter is older. ”
But the man who has an iron heart to go can't keep it.
Even if she is soft and hard, Sun Zhihong is still unwilling to let go.
The loving couple of the past therefore went to court,
In court, looking at a husband with a cold face,
Teresa Teng finally died, and under the mediation of the court, the two ended their married life for many years.
After the divorce, she returned home with a one-time maintenance payment of 2,000 yuan from her ex-husband.
Seeing her daughter's confused look, I couldn't help but feel sad.
Sun Li stepped forward, hugged her crying mother, and sensibly comforted, "Don't be afraid, Mother, with me, I will earn a lot of money in the future, and I will definitely let you live a good life." ”
Her daughter's childish vows made Teresa Teng's heart sour and swell.
For the sake of her daughter, she must also cheer up as soon as possible.
But it's not easy for a single woman to raise a child.
What's more, she also had to bear all the costs of Sun Li's dancing alone.
So that my daughter can continue to dance.
The mother and daughter moved to a tube building of less than 10 square meters.
It's hard to turn around in a small space.
Teresa Teng went to the department store as a salesman during the day and cleaned the company introduced by a friend at night.
Looking at her mother who was so tired, Sun Li seemed to grow up overnight.
She understands that only if she becomes good enough, she will not live up to all the efforts of her mother.
But the hemp rope is always broken, and the bad luck only finds the bitter person.
Fate did not easily let go of the peaceful life that she and her mother had so hard to get.
Soon after, Teresa Teng suffered a wave of layoffs, and the life of the mother and daughter was even worse.
Looking at her haggard mother, it was difficult for Sun Li not to resent her father.
02
Not long after divorcing Sun Li's mother, Sun Zhihong met his current wife, Huang Yuling.
Huang Yuling's youngest grandson, Zhihong, is two years old and has also been divorced, but has no children.
The first side of the two was very compatible, and it didn't take long for them to enter the palace of marriage together.
A year later, the two gave birth to their youngest daughter, Sun Yan.
Looking at the picture of his father's family enjoying himself and his family, Sun Li only felt as if there was a cloud of anger burning in his chest.
Coupled with the huge contrast, Teresa Teng's words of resentment from time to time,
Let Sun Li push all the sins onto Huang Yuling's body.
If it wasn't for her, Mom and Dad wouldn't have divorced, and she and Mom wouldn't have become what they are now.
As the Spring Festival approached in 1997 and the day of the family reunion, Sun Zhihong thought of his eldest daughter.
He consulted with his wife and wanted to take Sun Li over for a few days.
The sympathetic Huang Yuling agreed without saying a word.
In order to make a good impression on Sun Li, she also specially asked Sun Zhihong and bought a new dress for Sun Li.
But Sun Li, who drilled the tip of the bull's horn, did not appreciate it.
In her heart, Huang Yuling was the source of her and her mother's misfortune.
She threw away her new clothes and yelled angrily at her stepmother, "My mother and I have come to this point, and we all blame you for this bad woman." ”
He was obviously in normal love with Sun Zhihong, but he was saddled with such a name, and Huang Yuling was also very aggrieved.
She wanted to explain, but Sun Li didn't want to listen at all.
Watching the good family banquet become like this, Sun Zhihong was also angry.
Looking at his father, who was yelling at him, Sun Li wiped away his tears and ran out without turning his head back.
Her father's desperation was like a thorn, deeply rooted in her heart.
She resented her father and didn't even want to see him.
Where there is an overnight feud between father and daughter, Sun Zhihong has long felt guilty about his eldest daughter.
Watching their mother and daughter struggle to survive, his heart was not good.
But Sun Li was now like a little hedgehog, not willing to let him get close at all.
Sun Zhihong had no choice but to ask his father to secretly help their mother and daughter.
When Sun Li came to look for his grandfather, he would always deliberately avoid his father.
Obviously, it is the closest blood relationship, but it is not as good as the stranger on the road.
Sun Zhihong's heart was very uncomfortable.
After graduating from junior high school, Sun Li entered the amateur theatrical performance team of soldiers in the Shanghai Garrison District of the Chinese People's Liberation Army.
Once upon a time, the little girl who had been playing on her mother's back had grown taller than her mother.
One day, when her mother carried herself again, Sun Li's feet were already mopping the floor.
She was no longer the child who needed to hide under her mother's wing.
A big reason for joining the army is to take on the responsibility of the family for my mother.
After learning that Sun Li was going to join the army, Sun Zhihong's heart was also very excited.
He brought his wife and daughter to send off Sun Li.
But as soon as Sun Li saw them, his face changed.
Before Sun Zhihong could speak, she issued an eviction order first.
Her ruthless words made Sun Zhihong and his wife both embarrassed and sad.
On the way back, Huang Yuling couldn't help but shed tears.
Sun Zhihong comforted that I did not educate my children well.
But Huang Yuling did not blame her husband, she knew that it was not his fault.
One day, Sun Li will understand the pain of her parents.
Life in the army was hard.
There are heavy training and tasks every day.
Every day before dawn, you have to get up, and the stars fill the night sky to fall asleep.
From time to time, I also go to the countryside to experience life, feed pigs, and cultivate land.
Sun Li, who had not suffered so many grievances, was very uncomfortable at first.
She often hid in the bed and cried secretly, thinking of her mother.
After learning of the hardships of the life of the troops, Sun Zhihong had to carry a large bag to visit his daughter.
But he couldn't leave for something, so he could only let Huang Yuling visit his daughter for him.
Huang Yuling bought a lot of nutrients and fruits, but as soon as Sun Li saw her, she was full of thorns.
The two did not speculate, looking at Sun Li's eyes full of hatred, Huang Yuling's heart was not happy, she hurriedly left what she bought and left.
Back at home, she did not hide it, but told Sun Zhihong about it in 1510.
Sun Zhihong sighed and said, since she didn't want to see us, she was gone.
Having said that, he has been silently following Sun Li's dynamics.
03
In 2000, Sun Li retired from the army, and she was not willing to go on like this for a lifetime, determined to go all the way north to Beijing.
Deng Lifang knew that her daughter's idea was right, so she did not stop it, but gave all the savings in her hand to Sun Li.
The money was only two thousand, but it was a mother's deepest concern for her daughter.
Sun Li took this money and began a life of drifting north.
There are so many people drifting north every year, and Sun Li, who has no money and no background, does not have a good life.
She searched for several months and could not find a suitable job, so she could only squeeze into an 8-square-meter house.
Even if you save more, the 2,000 yuan is still spent like running water.
Soon she couldn't pay the rent, and the landlord repeatedly wanted to kick her out.
Sun Li didn't want her mother to worry about herself anymore.
Just when she was at a loss, she thought she was going to fail to drift north.
An envelope containing 8,000 yuan was sent to her hand.
Sun Li didn't know who sent her the money.
But this money was like Ganlin in the desert, which quenched her thirst.
With the money, she gained a foothold in Beijing and no longer feared being evicted at any moment.
She wanted to know who had helped her.
But call Mom, mom doesn't know either.
This kind person that Sun Li could not find for a long time was actually her father and stepmother.
After they secretly learned that Sun Li's life in Beijing was embarrassing, they tried to do their part.
In order to make up for the 8,000 yuan, Huang Yuling went to wash the wine bottles for others.
Sometimes Sun Zhihong is not so busy, and he will come to help wash the wine bottles.
The two did not know how many wine bottles they had washed to save up enough for the 8,000 yuan.
Afraid that Sun Li would not accept it, he sent it anonymously in the name of a well-wisher.
With this money, she was able to pursue her dream in Beijing.
In early 2001, Sun Li won the second place in the "Talented Rookie" held by Singapore's "MediaCorp 8" and was signed by the discerning Hairun Company.
Under the operation of the company, she first debuted as the accompaniment dance behind "Lu Yiping" in "Love Is Deep and Rainy".
In the same year, with her own efforts, she won the role of "Anxin" of the heroine of "Jade Guanyin".
This role made Sun Li a hit and won numerous awards.
After the success, Sun Li was very grateful to the kind people who funded him in the first place.
Therefore, when she saw Xiang Haiqing, who was also forced by life, she moved her heart of compassion.
She took out her own money to sponsor the teenager's schooling and help him fulfill his dreams.
But unexpectedly, Xiang Haiqing was an unfamiliar white-eyed wolf, not only did not know gratitude, but also wanted to bite a bite of meat from Sun Li at any time.
After his nature was exposed, Sun Li quickly stopped funding.
After the fame and fortune, the life of Sun Li soon underwent earth-shaking changes.
Now she finally has the ability to let her mother live a happy life.
She bought a house for her mother so that she would no longer have to worry about living.
Over the years, my mother has suffered for herself, and Sun Li has seen it in her eyes and hurt in her heart.
She desperately tried to be better than her mother.
Dad, on the other hand, was selectively forgotten by her.
Sun Zhihong did not come forward to disturb the lives of their mother and daughter.
But regarding these achievements of his daughter, he is honored with you.
"I'm sorry for her, I didn't fulfill my responsibilities as a father, I don't want to touch the light of my grandson, but I am very happy to have such a daughter."
04
In 2007, Sun Li returned to Shanghai to shoot.
After the shooting, she wandered alone in the streets of Shanghai.
I came across a very familiar figure.
She leaned forward and found it was her father.
The tall father in the memory has long been bent by life, and his sideburns are soaked with frost hair.
Sun Li's heart still resented her father, but seeing her father's appearance, her heart still soured.
She stepped forward, "Dad, what are you doing?" ”
"Your Aunt Huang is sick, I'll set up a stall to make money."
Looking at such a father, all kinds of tastes surged into Sun Li's heart.
After Being Laid Off, Huang Yuling suffered from muscle atrophy and her body was much worse than before.
The heavy responsibility of raising a family is all on Sun Zhihong's body.
The money for the repair of the watch could not afford Huang Yuling's medical expenses.
Reluctantly, Sun Zhihong began to come out at night to set up a stall.
After learning all this, Sun Li's heart did not feel happy.
When she got home, she thought about it again and again, but she told her mother all this.
Teresa Teng has long since let go of her old grudges, she told her daughter, "You can find a million reasons to hate him, but one thing to thank him, he brought you into this world, without him there would be no you." 」 With that, you should thank him and repay him, after all, it is your father. ”
Sun Li's thoughts are very chaotic, although under the persuasion of her mother and boyfriend Deng Chao, she gradually tries to let go of the past.
But the resentment in my heart is not so easily eliminated.
She didn't know what to do with her father and stepmother.
Just when the matter was shelved, Sun Li received a letter from her sister Sun Yan.
The feud of the previous generation did not continue to the sisters.
For this sister, Sun Li has always been very protective.
Sun Yan's letter is a letter of distress.
In the letter, she explained the fact that her parents sent the 8,000 yuan to Sun Li at that time, and asked Sun Li to help her mother.
Looking at this letter, Sun Li's heart finally relaxed.
It turned out that her father did not abandon her, but silently loved her.
She watched what her father and stepmother had secretly done for themselves over the years, and the tears couldn't help but fall.
She found her mother and told her she wanted to help her father and stepmother.
Teresa did not stop it.
Sun Li came to the ward with her bank card, "Dad, thank you and Aunt Huang for everything you did for me." I will cure Aunt Huang's illness. ”
In the afternoon of the same day, Sun Li invited the best doctor to treat Huang Yuling's body.
Looking at his grown daughter, Sun Zhihong's eyes were red.
During Huang Yuling's hospitalization, Teresa sometimes visited together.
Sun Zhihong was busy, Sun Yan was still young, and Teresa Teng came to help take care of Huang Yuling's body.
After so many years, Teresa Teng also let go of her heart knot.
After learning of Huang Yuling's secret help to her daughter, her heart was also grateful.
On the day Huang Yuling was discharged from the hospital, she specially invited Teresa Teng Lifang and Sun Li to come over. The family gathered around the table and ate a complete reunion dinner.
The relationship between the two sides became increasingly close, and Sun Li also bought a house for her father and stepmother.
In Sun Li's heart, Huang Yuling gradually became her other mother.
In 2011, Sun Li and Deng Chao ended their love run, and at the wedding scene, Sun Li specially invited the two mothers to come with them.
A family and a beautiful family, no regrets.
epilogue
Sun Li once said,
"I am glad that my tolerance has allowed the world that was shattered in my childhood to be completed when I am an adult. Hate a person, you can never get happiness, and love, can make your heart get real peace. ”
Hate doesn't make your life happy.
Only love can make people's hearts calm.
The love between Sun Li and her stepmother is touching.