Author: New One
It has been a full month since The large-scale sealing of Shanghai has passed. I was locked up at home for almost a month. The most difficult thing to fight against in the "one point and one line" life is not the shortage of materials, but the endless boredom and unprovoked emo.
In order to change the mood, I observed the practice of the circle of friends, and at the same time combined with my own experience, summarized 10 small things that can make the mood better, and shared it with you.
01 Block out negative noise
During the epidemic, there are two types of news that will make people anxious, one is the number of confirmed cases that continue to emerge, and the other is the complaints and rumors that do not repeat the same every day. There is a law in communication science, the more negative energy, conspiracy theory, the faster and more widespread information spreads, resulting in people falling into a state of "collective irrationality".
For example, in Shanghai, I observed that most residents eat three meals a day is not a problem, but they dare not say this publicly. Because in the circle of friends and social media, complaining and attacking shanghai's shortage of materials is "political correctness". If you are trapped in such a collective public opinion, it is difficult to keep your mood calm.
Recently, I deliberately reduced my information browsing and quit some WeChat groups that often forward unverified information. A blogger who often pays attention simply closed the circle of friends, saying that he is an "emotionally susceptible" and his mood has improved significantly after closing the circle of friends.
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02 Avoid a battle of words
For so long, many people have accumulated a lot of negative emotions, like a powder keg. Avoiding meaningless arguments with others and not allowing yourself to be the lead that detonates the powder keg is also important for emotional stability.
Two days ago, in the community building group, a big sister fiercely questioned the "embezzlement" mask of the neighborhood committee (clear-eyed people know that this is a frame-up, who will defy the wind and embezzle a few dollars?). After a few minutes, a neighbor advised her to calm down, but the words did not speculate, and the two quarreled.
I wanted to jump out and say a fair word, the news was just sent, I realized that with my limited level of communication, it is unlikely to stop this war of words, let alone persuade the big sister to calm down, and participating in it will not help resolve the contradiction, but it is likely to be choked by the big sister and add to my own blockage. After thinking about it, he withdrew the message.
03 Discover fun in housework
The above two points are defensive practices, and several active actions are described below.
For example, cleaning. Before I saw in the circle of friends, a respected boss updated a dynamic: "Cleaning for two hours, reward a bottle of Coke." "It's so funny! Before that, she had also dried her own croissant bread, and joked that she could set up a stall in the community.
Long-term home is inevitably boring, but we can use housework as a spice for life, both exercise and optimize the living experience, and the mood will naturally improve.
04 Learn to cook seriously
Cooking is my hobby. I'm from the North and I especially love steamed buns. Since the community sealed, the takeaway has basically stopped, and the steamed buns cannot be bought. What to do?
It just so happened that the neighborhood committee gave each household a bag of flour, and I thought, it is better to learn to make steamed buns yourself! Then follow the video, and noodles, kneading, waking up the noodles, steaming out the first cage of steamed buns, steaming aroma, not to mention how satisfied. I couldn't help but share with my friends: "I just had the best steamed bun in the world – I made it!" ”
In front of the mobile phone screen, if you are in home isolation, you may wish to take advantage of this time to seriously learn to cook, if you do not know what to do, you can start from what you love to eat but will not do.
05 Fitness
Scientific studies have shown that exercise causes our bodies to secrete a hormone called "endorphins, which dominate our inner peace, pleasure, and well-being. No matter what your current state is, without affecting your neighbors, bouncing around at home and moving your muscles will definitely make you feel better.
In this regard, I should review myself, eat not fat physique neglect exercise, often in a state of "full of food and support" as lying flat. Sin sin sin.
06 Read a book
Isolated at home, reading is one of the few ways to get flow. Reading allows us to forget the noise for a while, to withdraw from our surroundings and to immerse ourselves in the full spiritual world.
Whenever I'm frustrated with wasting time and open a book, I quickly go into a state of self-forgetfulness. Reading some useful dry goods, resonant views, and stories of empathy, the heart is like a mobile phone connected to the power cord, and the energy is constantly pouring in.
07 Writing
Sometimes, depression stems from inner depression, which in layman's terms means "can't figure it out." Writing allows you to get out of the vortex of emotions, look at yourself from a higher perspective, and look at problems more calmly and comprehensively.
Imagine that you have a small person standing on your shoulder, ta is a higher version of your incarnation, the process of writing, not necessarily to come up with a solution, just review your thoughts, enough to achieve the purpose of changing your mood. I have insisted on writing all these years, and one of the most important purposes is to "detoxify" my heart.
08 Communicate with positive friends
I don't know if you have such an experience: there is an "energy field" in a person's body, negative or positive? Open-minded or narrow-minded? Strong pressure or soft? The energy attributes and intensity of different people are different.
A reader left a message in my Little Red Book, which I very much agreed with, and he commented on the value of reading an MBA: "You can meet a lot of positive people, they may not be able to help you directly in business or work, but you can form a very positive circle of friends." ”。
Speaking out may make some people uncomfortable, if you want to maintain the trend of continuous progress and growth, it is actually necessary to take the initiative to screen and expand some positive friends. I believe that no matter what you are doing, you will always find such friends around you.
09 Do meaningful work
Read a deeply metaphorical parable that begins with the idea that a good-eating and lazy man prays to the gods: "Please let me enter heaven with an inexhaustible supply of wine, food, beauty, and beauty!" The deity said, "Yes, the only condition is that you will never be able to work." The man gladly accepted.
Half a year later, the man was on the verge of collapse and begged the gods to give him a job. The god said, "I'm sorry, I can't promise you. Do you think heaven or hell is it now? ”
Isolated at home, I finally lived the life of a pig who ate and slept, slept and ate, and woke up naturally every day. I set myself a guideline for doing at least one meaningful work item every day on a stay-at-home basis, such as a paid column for updating the Knowledge Planet and one-on-one tutoring for students to make career plans.
10 Faith building
Reading this, you may question: "These things are too small, the environment is so bad, reality does not allow us to be optimistic!" ”
Jim Collins tells a thought-provoking story in His book From Good to Excellent: Stockdale was an American admiral who was captured during the Vietnam War as the highest-ranking general in the U.S. military. But he did not receive the slightest preferential treatment from Vietnam, and was tortured more than 20 times and imprisoned for up to 8 years.
Stockdale was released after 8 years in captivity. Mr. Jim Collins went to interview him and asked, "Why did you survive this difficult 8 years?" ”
Stockdale said: "Because I have a belief that I will be able to come out and see my wife and children again, this belief has always sustained me and enabled me to survive." ”
Jim Collins asked, "Then who are the fastest of your companions to die?" ”
He replied, "It's the people who are too optimistic." ”
Isn't it contradictory that Jim Collins said? Why do optimistic people die so quickly?
Stockdale said: "They always think they can be released for Christmas, right? Christmas was not let out; they thought that Easter could be let out, and Easter was not let out; they thought of Thanksgiving, and then it was Christmas, and as a result, one disappointment after another, they gradually lost confidence, coupled with the harsh living environment, so they ended up depressed. ”
Stockdale said: "I have a strong belief in the long run, that I will be able to get out alive, that I will see my wife and children again; but I face the cruelty of reality." ”
This slightly lengthy text is actually a story about faith, advising us: if the reality is cruel and you can't see your head at a glance, then the right mentality is short-term pessimism and long-term optimism. I believe that the future must be bright, but I face the cruelty of reality.
So-called: the more confident you are in the future, the more patient you are with the present.
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Bloggers: Xinyi, Fudan MBA, bachelor's degree in China Transmission; former editor-in-chief of Hurun TOP30 Financial New Media, interviewing hundreds of business leaders; now focuses on individual development research and education.