Many people believe that people like a quiet life in their later years.
In fact, many elderly people are not willing to be lonely, they are more eager to be lively, their children grow up and leave home, their homes become cold and cold, and their hearts are very lonely.
There are many ways to get rid of loneliness, some people like to go to the park to bask in the sun, some people like to travel, and some people try to find a wife.
There is such a blind date program, specifically for the marriage of the elderly to match, attracted the attention of many people, blind date is a kaleidoscope, but also reflects the complexity of human nature.
Older blind dates are different from young people, they have experienced too many things, have their own criteria for judging things, and sometimes, people who seem to be in good condition on the surface are not necessarily welcomed when they go on blind dates.
Just like the following local tycoon uncle, he has good economic conditions, the family has a mansion of 5,000 square meters, and there are imported sheep and poultry, with an annual income of 70,000 or 80,000, but 2 consecutive blind dates have failed, what did he do wrong?
01. The elderly remarry for different reasons
Uncle Li is 57 years old, he did business when he was young, and he traveled south and north to save a sum of money.
He has always had a dream, that is, to build a big house so that his brothers and sisters can get together and be able to retire in the future.
So he renovated his old house, built a building, the front and back yard is also very large, almost 5,000 square meters, I thought that the house would not be lonely, who knew that living in the building, Uncle Li was even more lonely.
Originally, he could still talk with his wife and children, but then his wife fell ill and died, leaving him alone, walking around the empty house every day.
In order to relieve loneliness, Uncle Li followed his friends to blow the whistle, he likes to blow the whistle for decades, people in all directions know him, there are things at home like to call him, Uncle Li said that he is not to make money, but likes the lively atmosphere.
But after all, the time to go out is limited, more often Uncle Li raises chickens and sheep at home, and the sheep he raises are imported, which are larger than the domestic size and the price is more expensive, from which we can see his business acumen.
Uncle Li said that his living conditions are good, he has more than 3,000 pensions every month, plus the harvest of grain in the field and the income of poultry, the money can not be used up, his biggest trouble is loneliness, every day in the courtyard around, not even a person to talk.
After understanding his situation, Hong Niang introduced him to Aunt Zhang, who was divorced, did not have a house, and earned 2500 yuan per month as a nanny.
One needs to be taken care of, the other needs to be secured in his later years, and it seems that the two are very suitable, but when they meet, they are full of contradictions.
It turned out that Aunt Zhang frowned as soon as she entered the courtyard, she was used to living in the city, she was not used to the chaos of the rural yard, and frankly said: "It's too dirty." ”
The red lady led her to see the building, thinking that it would make the aunt change her impression, but the aunt's brow wrinkled deeper: "The room is messy, how troublesome it is to clean up." ”
To tell the truth, the bigger the house, the harder it is to clean, from this point of view, Uncle Li's advantages have become shortcomings.
02. Sensitive big mom, behind excessive pride is inferiority
In the process of chatting, Aunt Zhang ignored Uncle Li's love and answers the whole time.
The Red Lady pulled her aside and asked what was going on?
Aunt Zhang did not shy away from it, saying: "I did not meet him, there is no point in saying anything, there is no need to chat." ”
It seems that Aunt Zhang is a straight person, but Uncle Li has a good impression of her, has been trying to find a topic, seeing that Aunt Zhang does not smile, he advised: "You are not easy to live, it is very pitiful, the original marriage should be unhappy, just look at the face to know, the eyes are sluggish, the face is lightless, are the children not concerned about you?" ”
The first few words Zhang Aunt still approved, when it comes to children, she is angry, can't get used to the guess of the uncle, and directly opens: "What's wrong with you having money?" Do you have money to oppress people? How do you know that my children are not filial piety? They are very filial, I can't get used to your self-righteous look, what a show! ”
Red Lady is also very strange, Aunt Zhang's reaction is a bit big, even if Uncle Li is wrong, explain it, there is no need to lose such a big temper.
In fact, from another point of view, there is a reason behind Aunt Zhang's sensitivity, she lives very hard, giving people a nanny, there is no income for a day without work, and usually lives in her sister's house, her heart is very anxious and depressed, she sees that the conditions of the uncle are very good, there will be a gap in the heart, but the grind of life, so that the surface of Aunt Zhang is very strong, but also want face.
In order to maintain self-esteem, she always gives people a cold look, since she does not like each other, even communication is too lazy, uncle is right, she did suffer in marriage, but because of this, she is very fond of her children, and cannot tolerate criticism from others.
Even if the children do not do well, her mother does not say, others are not qualified to discuss, her sensitivity, in fact, is also a manifestation of inferiority.
Unfortunately, Uncle Li will not chat, if he knows how to communicate in a way of inquiry and care, I believe that Aunt Zhang will not be angry, and may also have a change in his impression, he is still very stubborn, he feels that Aunt Zhang has a bad temper, and there is a reason for being beaten, no matter what, this blind date ended in failure.
Red Niang is also very enthusiastic, and introduced the 54-year-old Aunt Zhao to Uncle Li, Aunt Zhao dressed up fashionably, can the chat between them be smooth?
03. Find the right person for yourself, less demanding, more understanding
Learning from the last failed experience, this blind date, Uncle Li no longer talks about the other party's family, but pulls the topic to himself.
In order to increase the chance of success, the Red Lady also helped Uncle Li clean the yard, and everything was ready, depending on Uncle Li's performance.
After the two met, Uncle Li talked about his career and income, and when he saw that There was no expression on Aunt Zhao's face, he took out a song again, and finally made Aunt Zhao smile on her face.
Aunt Zhao's only dissatisfaction is that Uncle Li walks unevenly, and there are problems in self-care, in this regard, Uncle Li explained that he fell on a motorcycle, has recovered a part, and will get better and better in the future.
But Aunt Zhao said that she remarried to enjoy happiness and did not want to take care of each other, and Uncle Li's body did not recover health, so he should not come out on a blind date.
This question made Uncle Li very depressed, in order to save face, he began to brag about his career, saying that there were friends doing labor exports, and he had a way to take his aunt to Australia to work, so that the two could make a lot of money.
Originally, Aunt Zhao was reluctantly hanging on her face, and when she saw That Uncle Li start painting cakes, her face was even more ugly, and she stood up and left, saying that she had a house and a pension, and it was impossible to go to work again in her later years.
Uncle Li's blind date has failed again, but who can he blame, every time it is his own mouth that has a problem.
In fact, Uncle Li is not bad, from his experience, he is also a capable person, but his emotional intelligence is not high, he will not perceive the color and empathy when communicating, and it is easy to make people unhappy when he says it.
If he could first learn to listen, understand the other person's ideas, and then say his intentions, or the effect will be better.
The elderly are close to each other, not only to see the right eye, but also to have a common topic between the two, material conditions are the basis of life, and really let two people live well, is to have common values and life attitudes with each other.
More importantly, remarriage should avoid the psychology of taking and relying on each other, and be self-reliant and self-reliant, so that there is a chance to meet someone who suits them.
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