Ai Fukuhara's high salary as the commentator of the table tennis event at the Tokyo Olympic Games has once again attracted the attention of the world.
Netizens applauded her professional explanation while rejoicing that she had come out of the shadow of divorce.
In front of the camera, Fukuhara Ai has a dignified appearance, crooked eyes, fair skin, and a coordinated body, and is praised by netizens as "a new height of beauty".
People can't help but wonder, such a "white rich beauty" with a good image and temperament, such a "million fans" who once galloped in the table tennis world, why did they lose to the chickens and dogs in marriage?
Ai Fukuhara was interviewed by the media
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Fans familiar with Ai Fukuhara know that she was born in November 1988 with an older brother on her head, and her mother Chiyo Fukuhara is a retired table tennis player in Japan.
Originally, Chiyo Fukuhara hoped that his son would inherit his mother's business and pin his unfinished dream of table tennis on his eldest son. Since the age of 2, Ai Fukuhara has accompanied her mother to train her brother to play every day.
One day, 3 years old and 9 months old, Ai Fukuhara, out of fun, took advantage of his brother's rest to play table tennis as a game, and had a few beats with his mother. Ai Fukuhara, who had never been trained, had a look of serving and catching the ball, and was regarded as talented by her mother.
Since then, her mother has regarded Ai Fukuhara as a mantle heir, and began a devilish training for her daughter. Little Fukuhara Ai returns from kindergarten every day, and playing table tennis has become a compulsory course, and the training time is gradually increasing.
Videos of Fukuhara loving his childhood and practicing in his childhood have been circulating online for many years. From this, we can see how much bitterness this "genius girl" in table tennis has sprinkled on her growth path.
Chiyo Fukuhara, who wanted to train her daughter to become a table tennis star, deprived her of almost all the joys of her childhood. Practicing table tennis became a daily chore for Ai Fukuhara.
There is such a set of shots, four or five years old Fukuhara Ai is tired, crying to his mother, I don't want to practice anymore. Chiyo, of course, would not agree, and still kept serving the ball, and the ball even hit her daughter directly in the face.
You read that right, it hit Ai Fukuhara's childish face. But Chiyo doesn't feel bad because she knows that for an athlete, this little pain is nothing.
Seeing that Fukuhara Ai was still making the little character, Chiyo pulled out a sentence: If you don't want to practice, forget it!
Fukuhara's reaction to hearing this was greatly unexpected.
Xiao Fukuhara loved to hold her mother's leg and cry
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It is said that with the consent of her mother, she can no longer practice, and Ai Fukuhara should be pardoned. However, at this moment, she felt a kind of coercion.
She quickly cried and ran over, fell halfway down, got up and ran to her mother in pain, knelt on the ground, hugged her mother's leg and cried: Mom, I must practice well, don't cry!
Xiao Fukuhara Ai must have such a cognition: if you don't practice well, your mother will definitely not love me anymore. Therefore, in order to please her mother, she would rather wronged herself than obey her mother's wishes.
Ai Fukuhara did just that, trying to make herself what her mother expected. With a lot of tenacity, she didn't dare to slack off for a day. After winning the school competition, her mother encouraged her to become the county champion, and then continued to set new goals for her.
When she was 6 years old, her mother Chiyo made an important decision to let her daughter go to a foreign country and come to China, the world's table tennis power, to learn from Chinese athletes.
It is a matter of saying that due to historical reasons, it is difficult for us not to have any ill will towards the people of the island nation. Fukuhara's mother probably knew this too. In order for her daughter to receive the best training, she has to tell her daughter that you must be well-behaved, studious, and enthusiastic in order to become a good student that people like.
The child's heart is a blank piece of paper, and the mother's teaching has set the background for her. Since then, Ai Fukuhara has embarked on a parallel path of "seeking art" and "pleasing".
It cannot be said that in both aspects, Ai Fukuhara was successful. This is related to her unremitting enterprising, kindness to people, and more to the selflessness, friendliness and benevolence of Chinese coaches.
Later, Fukuhara Ai became the darling of the Chinese national table tennis team, and even the most serious Liu Guoliang Liu guidance often brought a few snacks in his pocket, and "fed" "porcelain dolls" Fukuhara Ai at the right time.
There are also many coaches and teammates who regard Fukuhara as a daughter, a sister, and a close friend, cultivate her diligently, give her endless love, and make her usher in the highlight moments of life step by step.
Ten years of learning art in a foreign country, Ai Fukuhara also learned a useful art of life: if you are good to others, others will be good to you. Her "flattering" personality was thus developed, but later in marriage, this became the root of her illness.
The Chinese teammates are full of pity for Fukuhara Ai
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On New Year's Day 2017, Ai Fukuhara, with a beautiful vision of happiness and an annual income of 1 billion yen, married the previously unknown Taiwanese table tennis player Jiang Hongjie.
It is Jiang Hongjie's Fukuhara Ai, saying that "love sauce" is to marry, but not at all.
Fukuhara Aikuko is a traditional Japanese woman, after marriage, she did not hesitate to quit the table tennis, determined to be a good daughter-in-law who serves her in-laws and husbands and godsons.
In life, Fukuhara Ai adheres to the principle of "exchanging his own good for the good of his husband's family", and focuses on his husband in everything. Jiang Hongjie said that she was hungry at night, and she would immediately get out of bed to cook noodles and bring them to the bed. Sometimes the husband comes home late, and she will fall asleep in the aisle and take care of her husband as soon as he enters the door. Even if you buy a book that records your baby's growth diary, whether you buy it or not, what money you buy, you will listen to your husband's opinions.
Unfortunately, the good deeds did not win the good return. Fukuhara loves Hyun-sook in exchange for contempt for her.
When she was pregnant with the baby, because of the pregnancy reaction, she could not eat, Jiang Hongjie would blame her for disregarding the nutrition of the fetus; later, when she could eat, Jiang Hongjie blamed her for eating too much and not being afraid of being out of shape.
She wants to buy a good-looking dress, and her husband will also ask: Dress up so beautifully, who do you want to seduce?
The eldest sister-in-law often posts her daily life online for Bo's attention and traffic. She was worried that her privacy was infringed, so she asked her husband to persuade her sister to stop, but she did not expect her husband to relay the original words, which caused her sister to be very dissatisfied.
The mother-in-law and the eldest sister-in-law even said bluntly: You are a hen who lays "golden eggs" for the Jiang family, what is there to complain about!
The most excessive thing is that even Fukuhara Ai's signature hearty laugh was also despised by her husband: "With a big mouth like a tease, you are like a Ji woman!" ”
Fukuhara loves to please his mother, to please the coach, to please thousands of fans, but he can't please his in-laws and so on. The cold violence of the Jiang family's united front waving at Fukuhara Ai finally made her intolerable. On July 8, 2021, their marriage came to an end.
Ai Fukuhara's eventual choice of divorce is a typical example of the easy failure of a "flattering" personality marriage.
Ai Fukuhara and Jiang Hongjie newlywed
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The "flattering" personality has advantages and disadvantages.
The advantages are: good at observing the emotions of others, caring about the feelings of others, knowing how to respect others, not provoking incidents, willing to tolerate concessions, which is conducive to creating a harmonious atmosphere.
The disadvantages are: the habit of putting yourself in a humble position, always with a flattering attitude, to accommodate the wishes of others, to meet the requirements of the other party, to dissolve the resentment of others, so as to get the recognition, love and tolerance of the relative. Over time, it is inevitable that people will feel that they have no position, no temper, no self, and good bullying.
In marriage, people with this personality will try their best to suppress their personality and thoughts, unwilling to have any contradictions and quarrels with their spouses and family members, thinking that this can be exchanged for a mess of harmony, and the result is often counterproductive, not only the family status is decreasing day by day, but also makes the other party's machismo and patriarchal style expand day by day, becoming a complete control freak.
Psychologists have found that "flattering" personality holders are more likely to suffer from indifference, blame, and disdain in marriage, and eventually lose their self-defense ability, which is the terrible factor that causes marriages to break.
Between husband and wife, humility is a virtue, but unprincipled tolerance will only lead to connivance and bullying. There are no problems with the family, and it is often the biggest problem. The only way to maintain marriage is to find problems, face problems head-on, and solve problems, rather than avoiding problems; only in the continuous running-in of life chores, the two will reach a tacit understanding and recognize each other's value.
It should be known that feelings are like a lake, if you just pay one-way, no matter how deep the lake will flow.
When we crave understanding and respect, understanding and tolerance, love and care, don't forget that the other person thinks the same way. So, please remember, love, be sure to be with each other!
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