Chapter Two: Knowing but Not Doing, Just Not Knowing — Telling Children to Achieve Unity of Knowledge and Action
Allusion source: "Knowing but not doing, just not knowing" comes from the fifth book of the Book of Traditions" "This has been cut off by selfish desires, and is not the essence of knowledge and action." Those who do not know and do not do, know and do not do, just do not know. ”
Practical explanation: Many parents are troubled by this phenomenon - when children reason, they understand everything, and they do things as soon as they do things, or they often just talk about it and don't do it at all. Why? Ah Xing and Ah Zhi told Xiao Yi and Xiao Liang, "Knowing is not doing, just not knowing", and we must truly achieve "the unity of knowledge and action". Only in this way can we make ourselves a trustworthy and reliable person.
Verse 2 I know what I do and do the right thing
"Dad, classmate Manqi asked me to attend the COSPLAY dance organized by her mother tomorrow. Do you have time to go with me? Little One asked Daddy.
"Okay, no problem." Ah Xing replied.
Tomorrow is Saturday, Xiao Yi got up early in the morning, changed into a costume of a barala little magic fairy, took a magic wand, got into His father's car, and went to the dance scene according to the base.
The scene of the dance was in the square in front of a large mall. When Xiao Yi and his father arrived there, there was no one there, only to see a temporary stage set up in the square, and there were some people busy on the side. Xiao Yi glanced around and didn't see Man Qi. Man Qi's appointment with her was eight o'clock in the morning, and the little one came on the spot, not much, not much.
After about ten minutes, Xiao Yi saw Man Qi and her mother coming to the scene unhurriedly. Xiao Yi quickly greeted him, greeted Man Qi's mother, and asked Man Qi: "When will the dance party start?" ”
Man Qi looked around absentmindedly and said, "It's still early." You play on your own for a while first. I had to help my mom. ”
Xiao Yi responded, and walked away with some grievances.
The scene she saw here was not at all the same as the scene she imagined. Yesterday, when school was over, Manqi told her that she had invited other students to come to the dance party together, and the scene must be very lively. She deliberately stressed that it is necessary to wear beautiful and innovative clothing, so that it is fun.
Man Qi glanced around, except for Man Qi, none of the other students saw. Only around the stage were many little girls who looked about the same size as their younger brother Xiao Liang, dressed in dance costumes, as if they were preparing to perform. Standing in the crowd, Xiao Yi felt very different. Her face was hot. Hiding behind dad, he didn't dare to stick into the pile.
Ah Xing also felt something strange. He gently stroked Xiao Yi's hair and said, "Is Man Qi mistaken?" It's not like a COSPLAY ball! ”
Without waiting for Xiao Yi to speak, a young woman came over with a stack of leaflets, handed them to Ah Xing, and said, "Do children want to learn to dance?" If you are interested, take a look. Ah Xing took a look at it, it was an enrollment leaflet for the dance training class. The contact above is Mange's mother.
Ah Xing understood that Man Qi's mother was holding a dance training class, and today's event was to promote enrollment, not a COSPLAY dance party specially organized for Primary One. The reason why Man Qi called Xiao Yilai was nothing more than to gather a number of people, which seemed to be lively.
Thinking of this, and looking at her daughter with a disappointed expression written on her face, Ah Xing couldn't help but feel angry in his heart. But think about it, since you are here, let's wait a little longer, in case there is a COSPLAY dance party.
Mange and her mother were busy arranging for people to hand out leaflets, answering questions from consultants, and organizing children to perform on stage to set off their popularity. Several times passing by Xiao Yi's side, Man Qi didn't even look at it, as if she hadn't invited Xiao Yi to come.
Xiao Yi looked down at his outfit, and then looked at the magic wand in his hand, and there was a feeling of being teased. She really didn't expect that Man qi was such a person! It's so unreliable!
Ah Xing looked down and asked his daughter, "Xiao Yi, why don't you take you to the mall and take a look around to see if you have anything you want to buy?" ”
Xiao Yi's mood was terrible, where there was still a heart to visit the mall, she raised her head, reluctantly smiled, and said: "No." Dad, let's stay here a little longer, in case Manqi has an arrangement. Beware of delays. I promised her. ”
In this way, the father and daughter stayed in the corner near the stage until the end of the performance. Man Qi was almost busy, so he came over and said to Xiao Yi, "There is nothing wrong with our side, if you have something to do, go back first." ”
Hearing Man Qi say this, Xiao Yi's heart was completely cold. She was not a little undead and asked, "Manqi, didn't you say that there were other classmates coming?" How come no one is seen? ”
Man Qi was not angry and said, "None of them have credit!" Said good to come, but none of them came! Hmm, I'll never play with them again. ”
"What about the COSPLAY prom you're talking about?" Xiao Yi asked.
"Hahaha!" Looking at Xiao Yi's serious expression, Man Qi laughed: "I just talk about teasing you!" I didn't expect you to take it seriously. ”
"How can you do this!?" Xiao Yi finally couldn't help but explode.
"I can't help it." Seeing that Xiao Yi was angry, Man Qi explained: "Mom's dance training class is going to engage in enrollment publicity, let me help her find some classmates to come to the hot field." I said it was a COSPLAY ball, and you were the only one who came; if I told the truth, I'm afraid no one would come. Those classmates are also, monkey spirits monkey spirits. Just be honest with you. ”
Little One was speechless. She held back everything she wanted to say, stabilized her emotions, and said, "Okay then." I went back first. ”
On the way home, Xiao Yi bowed his head and did not say a word. Ah Xing knew that her daughter was uncomfortable in her heart, and she comforted her vigorously.
As soon as he entered the house, Xiao Liang pounced on it and shouted loudly: "Sister, is the dance party fun?" ”
Achi smiled and asked, "Xiao Yi, how's it going?" Had fun today? ”
Xiao Yi was aggrieved and told the situation of participating in the dance. After speaking, Xiao Yi added indignantly: "My morning time was wasted!" Never do such a stupid thing again! ”
Hearing Xiao Yi say this, Ah Zhi was very distressed in his heart and said, "Child, you are not called a stupid thing, but the right thing. ”
"I've been teased, isn't that stupid enough?" Xiao Yi asked rhetorically.
"Is Mange your classmate?" Ah Zhi asked.
"Yeah, of course it is." Xiao Yi's face showed a blank expression, not knowing why his mother asked this.
"Classmates invited you to her activities, and you agreed, do you have to abide by the agreement?" Achi then asked.
"Absolutely. Since I promised others, I must do it. Little one answered.
"Did you do it?" Ah Zhi asked.
"I arrived earlier than Mange, and I listened to her, dressed in the clothes of the Little Fairy of Barala, and took the magic wand. I did everything she agreed with me. Little one answered.
"So, did you do something wrong?" Ah Zhi asked.
"I don't think I did anything wrong." Small answer.
"So, who's wrong?" Ah Zhi asked.
"It's all Mangee's problem. She shouldn't have lied to me. Even if she were to tell me the truth, I think I would help. Xiao Yi said.
"Mom asks you, is it stupid to be alone and do the right thing?" Ah Zhi asked.
Xiao Yi thought about it, and a relieved expression appeared on his face, saying, "I am angry with Man Qi." She did something wrong, why do you want me to bear the consequences? ”
Ah Zhi smiled and said, "Yes." My daughter does what she says, knows and acts together, and has no shame. Mangey should be ashamed of her actions. ”
"Alas," Xiao Yi sighed softly, and said, "It's just a pity that my beautiful Saturday, half a day was wasted like this." ”
"I don't think so." Ah Zhi said, "I learned that your morning time was not wasted, and it was rewarding." ”
Xiao Yi looked at her mother with doubtful eyes and thought, What have I gained?
Ah Zhi then said, "I think you have at least two gains. First, you gain an awareness of yourself. Understand that what you are doing is the right thing, not a stupid thing; second, you have re-acquainted with Man Qi as a classmate. If there is no such thing, then you cannot understand that Manqi has lied and did not abide by the agreement. ”
Xiao Nodded and said, "Mom is right, I will never believe other people's words again." ”
Ah Zhi shook his head and said in a serious tone, "Child, if you think like this, you will lose yourself again." You believe in your classmates because you live in a common environment and have a certain understanding of each other, but the degree of understanding may not be enough. A classmate cheated on you once, and you no longer trust her, or even trust other people. This is the heart that has been influenced by others to your heart and has lost itself. If so, aren't you and Manqi the same? The reason she lies to you is because she is afraid to tell you the truth, and you don't help. The root cause is that she doesn't believe you. If she believes you, why should she lie? On the other hand, because of this matter, you no longer trust others, is it the same as Manqi? ”
Xiao Yi nodded and said, "I believe in others, what if I am deceived again and again?" ”
Ah Zhi said: "For example, you choose to believe In Manqi again, if she deceives you again, then it means that she did not recognize her wrong behavior, so that you can basically make a judgment on whether to continue to be friends with her, which is what people often say, but it is not three; if she no longer deceives you and treats you with sincerity, it means that through this matter, she realized her mistakes, and at the same time, she also understood you as a person and truly believed in you." That is, she was changed by you and made better. That way, you get a friend. The most important thing is that in this process, you have never lost yourself, and you have not been affected by Manqi's mistakes. Just think, one Manqi can affect you, in the future, there will be more people like Manqi, everyone's mistakes affect you, then what do you have to be wrong? I'm afraid I won't know myself by then. ”
Listening to his mother's words, Xiao Yi suddenly realized and said, "Fortunately, my mother helped me analyze so much, otherwise, I would have committed Manqi's mistake in the future, and I don't know it yet." ”
Conscience says: It is often said that society is a big dyeing vat. In fact, dye vats are everywhere. Families and schools are also dyeing vats. The difference is only that the dyes are different.
On the basis of this premise, how do we define "man"?
Some people say that people who have just been born, or who have just entered society, are like a blank piece of paper. The metaphor is good, saying that everyone's nature is pure. However, in this way, there is a big problem. The white paper itself cannot decide what paint to stain, and can only be at the mercy of others, coming out of this dyeing jar and then going to that dyeing vat, dyeing and dyeing, even they can't recognize themselves.
Although no one wants to do this, in fact, there are many people who are like this. These people are people who lack the ability to think independently and self-awareness.
There is only one way to get rid of such a tragic fate, that is, to make yourself a person with a paintbrush. With a paintbrush in hand and whatever paint you want to stain, it's up to you. To achieve this level, at least have the ability to think independently.
Even so, it is not necessary to draw a work that satisfies you, but also to master the method of painting: how to compose, how to move the pen, color collocation, and so on. If you don't master these methods, then there will be a big gap between the works you draw and the pictures you imagine.
These so-called methods are knowing; the process of writing down is doing.
Mr. Yang Ming said that those who know the beginning of the deed, the practitioner knows the success. Mastering the method is the beginning of success.
Xiao Yi's interaction with Man Qi is an extremely small part of her life picture. Man Qi handed Xiao Yi a box of inferior dyes. The brush in Xiao Yi's hand was already stained with this paint, and he was almost ready to paint. Ah Zhi stopped her at the right time.
First of all, Achi tells Xiao Yi what is right and what is wrong. This is cleaning the brush, washing off the inferior pigments that were originally contaminated with the brush.
Secondly, Azhi told Xiao Yi to insist on doing the right thing and not to be affected by the mistakes of others. It's about re-contaminating high-quality pigments and painting in the right way.
Life is the process of painting, painting and painting, painting yourself into it. When we were young, before going to school, our parents taught us to draw by hand; when we were older, when we went to school, the teachers began to teach us to draw; and when we reached adulthood, the brush really reached our hands.
A person who knows and acts can paint works that satisfy himself and make others pleasing to the eye.