In his best-selling book The Courage to Be Rejected, philosopher Ichiro Kishimi expounds on the theme of what happiness is. This book is a study of the thought of the philosophical pioneer Adler.
How can you be happy in life?
Many people will feel that happiness is success, and only when a person is successful is happiness.
However, Adler believes that there is an essential difference between happiness and success: happiness is the concept of quality, and success is the concept of quantity.
Success is a process, you have to complete a goal to achieve success, success can be imitated.
If a person succeeds, he may not be happy, because he will set himself the next goal. In order to achieve this goal, he had to work hard continuously, and the process of hard work was bound to be accompanied by anxiety and hardship.
Happiness is a being, not a process. To be able to live here at this moment is happiness, that is to say, we do not necessarily have to achieve anything in order to be happy.
We are not happy because we have accomplished something, nor are we unhappy because of what we have lost.
Happiness is a unique feeling in one's own heart, and it really comes from one's own heart. It is something that others cannot grab or take away, and it is even more impossible to imitate it.
Some people always like to envy others. In fact, imitating the "happiness" of others is a manifestation of one's own inner inferiority.
There is a sister to the philosopher Kishimi Ichiro to pour out her confusion, she said that her sister in order to imitate herself, from a long distance to her own community, the decoration style of the home is very similar to her own home, the home and furnishings in the house are the same as their own home, and even the name of the child imitates herself, making herself very anxious.
When she communicated her thoughts to her sister, her sister said in turn that her sister had rhapsody.
Ichiro Kishimi tells her sister that her sister is just imitating your "success" and not your "happiness." Happiness is something that is "qualitative" and can neither be imitated nor envied by others. All you have to do is pursue a qualitative happiness that your sister cannot imitate.
It can be seen that happiness belongs to and belongs only to ourselves, and our happiness is given by ourselves, not by attaching ourselves to anyone.
Happiness depends on oneself, and only on one's own. Happiness has nothing to do with success, only with the present self.
Give yourself the courage to face life head-on
Don't worry! Just think about today.
When we envision an unknown future, everyone is upset.
Second, don't worry about the future.
Think of everything in the good.
The experience of frustration is an "opportunity" to attain happiness
My goal is not to succeed, but to be happy. Happiness is not something that anyone can emulate.
Any setback can be an opportunity for happiness.