I am not a fish, I do not know the joy of fish. The Son is not me, and the Son does not know what I think. This article is purely a personal essay, a few words of nonsense, just for self-amusement.
Today began to record the sixth book of 2022, "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise", completed on April 22, 2022~
First love, anyone who sees this word feels beautiful, plus paradise, a musical word, it is even more beautiful, but this book can not see any beauty, the author as far as possible with imagination and words to whitewash everything is very beautiful, but can not hide the sadness, look very depressed, heavy. The book notes that it is based on a real story, and seeing this line of text invisibly adds a kind of sadness. I don't know if this book should be recommended to children, and what kind of angle children will use to read this book.
【Introduction】The author of this book, Lin Yihan, based on his real experience, describes the incident of middle school teacher Li Dog seducing underage girl Fang Siqi and other female students, and at the same time describes social problems such as domestic violence suffered by women. After Lin Yihan finished the book, he was interviewed by reporters, and lin Yihan committed suicide shortly after the interview.
The love of the girl's fantasy, the treatment of partial cognition
After the 13-year-old girl Fang Siqi was raped, she tried to ask for help from her eldest sister Yi Wen, tried to talk to her girlfriend, and tried to mention it to her parents, but all the temptations were bounced back, and finally chose to deal with it in her own way. Perhaps because she liked literature since she was a child, and was described by the beautiful love in literature, Fang Siqi's idea was to find a way to fall in love with this Li dog who raped her.
Lee Dog's psychology is well studied
When Li Guohua is looking for prey, he always has a standard of his own. For example, a child who is so delicate will not say it, because it is too dirty, and self-esteem is often a needle that hurts others and hurts themselves. But here, self-esteem would sew up her mouth.
Li Guohua does not touch the girl of the rich family, because the rich person will be very troublesome to deal with him, but what about Si Qi? Parents are just ordinary working-class people, although they are middle-class, but there is nothing special.
Prejudiced people in society, invisible insulters
The older male teachers and the younger female students are together, whether it is Siqi's mother or Xiaoqi's mother, the first thing they think is that there is a problem with girls. Siqi's mother felt that girls were upset, and Xiaoqi's mother felt that Xiaoqi was destroying other people's families.
The book describes it like this: She found it too convenient for society to be taboo about sex, and raping a girl felt that the whole world felt that it was her own fault, and even she felt that it was her own fault.
Even Si Qi told Yi Ting about the matter, and Yi Ting's first reaction was "you are so dirty."
When Fang Siqi wanted to escape, she told her mother for the first time: "There is a girl and teacher in the class", and her mother replied: "She is really mean" . When Fang Siqi told her mother that she wanted sex education, her mother said, "That's for those who need it."
Keyboard Man's Murder
Yang Xiaoqi plucked up the courage to expose the Li Dog thing, in a forum of 500,000, did not get more support and help, but was a secondary injury.
The book reads: Half a million people go online every day on the forum, and there are quick responses. It was completely different from what she had imagined.
"So how much did you take him"
"Bao Bao Changing Bag"
"It's so cool to be a cram school teacher"
"The Third Party Goes to Die"
"Poor Master"
"Let's read the article sent by the opponent cram school"
"It's not just a crooked one"
With each review of a response, Xiao Qi was like being stabbed.
All the feedback that comes back is torture again. At the beginning of this year, the popular drama "Beginning" also has such a plot, witnesses are afraid of retaliation, the sexual harassment seen on the bus sent to the school forum, the result of the most is first of all accusations, insults, all kinds of speculation and so on. The school's network administrator also closed the forum in order to calm things down, and eventually witnesses could only hide this kind of thing in their hearts and let the harassers go free.
Sometimes growing up is about living with a new mask on
In the book, YiWen said to Yi Ting: "Yi Ting, you are only eighteen years old, you have a choice, you can pretend that no one in the world takes pleasure in raping a little girl; pretend that no little girl has ever been raped; pretend that Siqi never exists; pretend that you have never shared a pacifier or piano with another person, and never have another person who has the exact same appetite and thoughts as you, you can live a bourgeois and peaceful life; pretend that there is no mental cancer in the world; pretend that there is no place in the world with iron bars, Everyone behind the railing is mentally ill with terminal cancer; you can pretend that there are only macarons, hand-brewed coffee, and imported stationery in the world. But you can also choose to experience all the pain that Siqi has felt, and learn all the efforts she has put in to resist these pains, from the time you were born together to the time you read in your diary. You have to go to college for Siqi, go to graduate school, fall in love, get married, have children, maybe you will be dropped out of school, maybe divorced, maybe stillborn. However, Si Qi could not even experience the most vulgar, dull, and rigid life. You know what? You have to experience and firmly remember all her thoughts, thoughts, feelings, feelings, memories and fantasies, her love, hate, fear, weightlessness, desolation, tenderness and desire, you have to hug Siqi's pain tightly, you can become Siqi, and then, live for her, even Siqi's share to live well. "Thinking of Ryunosuke Wasagawa's "Fire Man Mask", sometimes it is difficult to distinguish which one is the real self, sometimes the mask has melted into our bodies, living in this world, deliberately playing a role every day, and the real self is long gone.
Every good person around you may be a demon behind your back
Li Dog's name is Li Guohua, and he has a lovely daughter, Li Dog said so, "I have been innocent for twenty years, and I have been a father, and I hope that what kind of people my daughter meets outside will naturally be what kind of people she will be." The actual Li Dog, on the other hand, toyed with his students as prey.
Mrs. Zhang knew that Qian Yiwei was abusive and was reluctant to marry her daughter to him, but she introduced YiWen to him.
Cai Liang is a female teacher and a woman, and in order to vote for Li Dog's favor, she actually pushed her female students into the abyss.
The other two teachers, but with Li Dog to exchange experiences and experiences of seducing female students, is really sad in the education community.
Qian Yiwei looks like a gentleman, with a good tutor and high status, but he is a domestic abuser.
We have no way to identify everyone around us, let alone tell children to beware of everyone around us, so that children are afraid of society and fear interpersonal communication. It is even more impossible to tell children to speculate on the good intentions of everyone around them, and can only understand this malicious world in their own lives.
The author, Lin Yihan, recalled in an interview:
I am afraid of consuming any Fang Siqi, I do not want to hurt them, do not want to hunt, do not want to sensationalize, I write for eight hours a day, the process of writing is painful, tearful, after writing to see, the most terrible thing is: the most terrible thing I wrote, it turned out to be something that really happened.
Lin Yihan was interviewed
If it is possible to give the child a comprehensive understanding, avoid falling into a wrong cognition, and go farther and farther
There is a saying that if you do not educate your child, sometimes society will help you educate her, but social education is more cruel, and sometimes it will even cause irreparable harm.
Thirteen-year-old Fang Siqi, still a child, may not know what gender means, the teacher said that is the way he loves her, she does not understand. Without receiving this knowledge, I turned to my parents, who also felt that it was unnecessary.
Later, she was a little bigger, a little deeper in her understanding of the world, and she also felt that this was a shameful thing, so she tried to convince herself that she would fall in love with the teacher, that as long as she fell in love with the teacher, it was normal to do such a thing, and teacher Li in the book, every time she raped Siqi, taught her carefully, and he told her that they did this kind of thing beautifully, happily, out of love.
Some people say that after growing up in danger, each of us is a survivor of youth.
The world is divided into black and white, and we usually live on the bright, happy and happy side, but remember: every minute and every second, the darkness is staring at us. A little careless, perhaps, the abyss...
Life is full of malice, and I hope that every child, especially every girl, can realize their dreams