"I said child her mother, you listen to me, that time you left I was really scared, I was in tears, you know?"
This is a song written by Dao Lang in 1991, the song is called Child.
Many people may not know that Dao lang's song was written to her ex-wife, when Dao Lang's ex-wife left him and the newborn child and said goodbye, dao lang wrote this song in extreme grief.
Today's Dao Lang and his current wife love have a bonus double pair, and what really happened in those years? What's the story?
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Dao Lang's ex-wife is called Yang Na, Yang Na is a dancer, originally two people who have no intersection, but they met by chance.
When he was young, Dao Lang began to travel the world with his musical dreams due to an accident, and before leaving, he left a note for his parents, on which Dao Lang told his parents:
"I'm going to pursue my musical dreams, you don't have to look for me."
Dao Lang said goodbye to his parents in this way, but he did not expect that many years later someone would say goodbye to him in the same way.
It may be very appropriate to describe the daolang at that time with a song by Xu Wei, "I once dreamed of fighting the sword to go to the end of the world and see the prosperity of the world." The young heart is always a little crazy, and now you are home from all over the world. ”
The young Dao Lang has nothing but singing, and in order to survive, he can survive as long as he can earn money as long as he can make money.
But these only let him survive, can not let him pursue his musical dreams, in order to learn musical skills, 16-year-old he went to the dance hall as a waiter, which really let him learn a lot of musical skills, and the talent did not take long to learn the instrument also seven seven eight eight.
Here Dao Lang also met a lot of friends who also like music, they often talked together, sometimes sang a song together, and later they formed a band together, Dao Lang also named the band "Scalpel".
They dreamed of doing a national tour in the future, and when they became famous, they would have a solo concert, but the good times were not long, because of the shortage of funds, no audience and other reasons, their band did not stir up any splash and disbanded, and everyone went their separate ways.
But these setbacks did not make Dao Lang give up his musical dreams, he still struggled for it, and it was this persistence that made him successful in the time that followed.
Just after the band broke up, Dao Lang met her first wife, Yang Na.
Before marrying Daolang, Yang Na had already divorced once, the two people met in the dance hall, at that time Yang Na's living conditions were very good, and she was slim and very sweet-looking, so there were many people who pursued her, and Daolang was only one of them, and it was not very conspicuous.
However, the time of Daolang's appearance was just right, when Yang Na had just divorced, it was a time of emotional vulnerability, often going to the bar alone to buy drunk, daolang's appearance warmed her wounded heart, so that she once again felt the warmth of love.
Dao Lang also launched a crazy pursuit of Yang Na, bought flowers for her, took her to the top of the mountain late at night to see the most beautiful starry sky, and waited for the sunrise sprinkled with morning glow, and the young Dao Lang also wrote a lot of love songs for Yang Na.
The two people slowly have a good feeling for each other, in the eyes of others they are already a couple who are in love, but for themselves, the last layer of window paper has not been broken.
On Daolang's 20th birthday, he invited Yang Na to his birthday party, and when Yang Na arrived, he found that Daolang had only invited her alone, and on that night Daolang confessed to him affectionately, and the two came together.
Daolang's parents are not optimistic about this marriage, they look down on Yang Na, after all, she has been divorced once.
However, Dao lang came to life for the death of her love, and did not give up on the prevention of her parents, and at this time, Yang Na was pregnant, and there was no way for Dao Lang's parents to agree to their marriage.
Soon after, the two entered the palace of marriage, and the newly married two were very happy, but the problem came out after a long time.
After marriage, Daolang is still insisting on his musical dreams, but he is always depressed, and he is soon disliked by Yang Na without stable economic resources, Yang Na once advised Daolang to change careers, but Daolang is still struggling to stick to his dream.
Dao Lang, who chases her dreams, does not find that his wife has been discouraged by him, Yang Na is accustomed to a life of extravagance, and Dao Lang cannot give her the life she wants, but she has no way to leave with a child, and two people with different minds live in the same bed and dream.
Although Dao Lang took good care of her during the time when Yang Na was about to die, he still couldn't make Yang Na change her mind.
In 1991, Yang Na gave birth to a daughter Luo Tian for Daolang, and watching the arrival of her daughter, Daolang was immersed in happiness, but he did not perceive his wife's abnormality at all.
When Dao Lang planned how to change the family's living standards and let Yang Na and her daughter live a good life, Yang Na was already planning to leave.
When their daughter was born 40 days ago, in the early morning of this day, Yang Na watched the sleeping Daolang and her daughter leave without hesitation, and when Daolang woke up, she only saw a note left by Yang Na:
"I'm sorry you can't give me the life I want. I'm gone, don't look for me, you won't find it either. ”
Dao Lang looked at his infant daughter, he cried, he hoped that Yang Na could change her mind, often taking her daughter at the door to wait for her to return, but what she waited for was disappointment day after day.
Two years after the birth of his daughter, Dao lang once again packed his bags and began his wandering singer road, going to a distant place to pursue his inner peace, and it was also this wandering that allowed him to meet the person who was truly worthy of care.
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Dao Lang began his wandering journey between more than ten cities, singing in different taverns, talking about the past and the present with different people every day, and his heart gradually quieted down in the drift again and again.
In 1994, Daolang came to Haikou, where he met the noble man in his life, Zhu Mei.
Zhu Mei is also a wandering singer, the two people met in the same tavern, the first time they met only shallow looking at each other, after the introduction of friends they met, maybe after they will forget each other.
But the two people were touched by each other's singing and admired each other, Zhu Mei did not dislike Dao Lang, who had been married once, she admired the talent of Dao Lang, it was Dao Lang who was this person, and the two came together unconsciously.
Zhu Mei is a native of Xinjiang, and DaoLang has longed for the heroism and directness of the northwest desert since he was a child, so in 1995 he followed Zhu Mei back to her hometown of Urumqi.
The magnificent scenery outside the Seychelles here inspired Daolang, who set up his own music studio and published his first music album, but only sold more than 2,000 copies, the harvest was dismal, and his life was in trouble.
At that time, Dao Lang was almost penniless, and he could only drink a piece of five Xin'an Daqu.
Or Zhu Mei took out her own savings to help Dao Lang through the difficulties, in order to let Dao Lang's studio continue, she also did not hesitate to borrow money from her parents and relatives to help Dao Lang.
In 1997, in order to let Daolang get the destination of the soul, Zhu Mei and Daolang married naked, and two years later Zhu Mei also gave birth to a daughter Luo Haoyue for Daolang, and Zhu Mei also took the initiative to take Care of Daolang's eldest daughter Luo Tian.
Zhu Mei is a kind woman, after marrying Dao Lang, she gave up her job and devoted herself to family life wholeheartedly, and it is her support that Dao Lang can go on the road of music, she also treats Luo Tian as a daughter, Luo Tian also treats her as his mother from the heart.
In the years after they got married, their lives were very poor, but Zhu Mei never complained about what they had lived, no matter what kind of life they were willing to eat.
Life in poverty doesn't last forever, and soon a twist of fate comes.
It was January 2002, and when Dao Lang and his wife Zhu Mei walked along the snow-covered road together, looking at the scenery wrapped in silver, Dao Lang had a heart of emotion that wanted to burst out.
A passerby happened to walk by and said, "This is the first snow of 2002."
Dao Lang suddenly remembered the bits and pieces he and Zhu Mei had walked, and rushed to the studio to write the song "The First Snow of 2002".
At that time, without the help of any propaganda means, Daolang's song swept the country in a very fast time, and this song was played in the streets and alleys.
Dao Lang immediately became angry, and then he wrote a lot of classic songs such as "Lover", "West Sea Love Song", etc., which made him a popular singer, and at that time, if he did not listen to Dao Lang's songs, he did not dare to say that he often listened to songs.
But don't look at Dao Lang so hot, when he said that his album sold millions, they all thought that he made a lot of money, but he had to pay various taxes, and there were not many in his hands, but his life was much better than before.
But Dao Lang's overnight explosion also brought him a lot of trouble, he can no longer travel freely, looking for creative inspiration, he wants to calm himself down, quiet songwriting, and his elderly parents also need to take care of it.
So in 2005, Dao Lang returned to his hometown with his wife and daughter.
03
Dao Lang was born here, grew up here, and there are good memories and painful pasts here.
Dao Lang's parents are actors in the local literary troupe, and she has been influenced by art since she was a child, which is why he has embarked on the path of pursuing music.
In fact, Dao Lang also had an older brother, when he and his brother quarreled and quarreled, causing his brother to run away from home in anger, at that time, one of his brothers returned soon after, but he did not expect to become a farewell.
This made Dao Lang particularly remorseful, his heart has been suffering, so he would choose to leave in the first place, wandering around looking for inner peace.
Daolang, who returned to his hometown, also temporarily disappeared from the public eye, and although he retired, he has been immersed in creation and cultivated students.
During those years, he wrote many song albums, such as "Wolf in Sheep's Clothing", "Red Classic", etc., he also wrote the miscellaneous musical "Children Next Door", and also wrote many songs for his students.
In 2011, Dao Lang also held his own solo tour, although he left the stage for many years, but there are many fans who like him, and his concerts have achieved unprecedented success, and even went to the United States to hold concerts.
In 2012, after Dao Lang participated in an interview with CCTV, he retired again, and although his singing could still be heard in the days that followed, it was difficult to see him on TV again.
According to rumors, after Daolang became famous, his ex-wife once begged him to reunite and took out his daughter as a shield, but Daolang, who loved Zhu Mei deeply, did not agree, but instead sued Yang Na in court.
Today's Daolang and Zhumei have been married for 25 years, the two people are very affectionate, Daolang often says that Zhumei is the noble person of his fate, without Zhumei there is no him today.
Indeed, Zhu Mei has always accompanied Daolang, whether he is poor or rich, she has never abandoned him, as always, she loves him, and their eldest daughter has also married and started a family, and the younger daughter has also succeeded in school.
Dao Lang can be said to be a big winner in life, he often says that his most successful is not a music career, but a virtuous wife and a warm home.
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Daolang, who is more than half a hundred years old, is still tough, and from time to time he attends banquets with his wife Zhu Mei, sometimes the two of them will travel together, and the children have grown up, and the two of them have time to live in the world of two people almost every day.
Compared with Daolang, who lived happily, his ex-wife is said to have lived a miserable life, and is still single, and runs for life every day, although it is rumored that she is looking for Daolang to reunite, but it seems that she has not gotten the desired results.
Looking back at the first half of Dao Lang's life, there have been hardships, joys, and criticisms, but he has faced it calmly and single-mindedly pursued his ideals.
Dao Lang also has extraordinary courage that we ordinary people do not have, he retreated when he was most popular, gave up the huge interests at his fingertips, and immersed himself in creation away from the hustle and bustle.
Life is like this, sometimes letting go in time is also a good choice, of course, we must remember our own hearts, not moved by interests, there is an old saying that is very good" "Rich and noble can not be obscene; poor can not be moved; mighty can not be bent." ”
Only by strengthening their own principles can people achieve achievements that ordinary people cannot achieve, and finally wish Daolang and Zhu Mei a long and happy life.
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Editor| Uncle Wine
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