I once stated publicly in an article – men without a sense of justice, I don't associate with. Some men don't see each other for a year, and I think it's really a blessing for me. There are men I see once and regret it once. Regret how I still shook hands with him? Why are you still talking to him? Not only do they regret it, but they also deeply condemn and hate their own hypocrisy. Although I never reach out or open my mouth to men I despise. What I can't forgive myself is – why is it that the principles I swear to abide by all my life are always shaken?
Maybe because I'm a man, I often look at men's weaknesses. This scrutiny is first and foremost achieved through self-examination and self-examination. Some weaknesses and some shortcomings I have overcome, some I have corrected, and some are still my weaknesses and shortcomings to this day. It may even be that in the future, only to die with it in the end, just as some men die with dentures and wigs. Some weaknesses and shortcomings are really difficult to correct. The difficulty is that you know that it is weakness and shortcoming, but because it protects people, you have gradually become accustomed to using it as your armor. Like the relationship between baldness and wigs, it is difficult to say whether it is a bald head disguised by a wig, or whether baldness makes wigs important...
The world believes that jealousy is a woman's instinct.
I think most men, and even more men, are often jealous, at least they have been gnawed at by jealousy. In fact, men who can't get rid of jealousy are no less than women who can't get rid of jealousy. The jealousy of men is no less than the jealousy of women. Jealousy, under normal circumstances, causes most women to suffer psychologically themselves; in considerable cases, men are made to do evil to the work of women's talents.
Agamemnon said, "Once the poison of jealousy penetrates deep into the soul, it multiplies the disease of the person suffering from it." ”
When those whom we are jealous of turn around, don't we often lose no time in degrading? That's all, while some men are disgusting and dismissive—when they make a few demeaning remarks that do no harm to the jealous, they make a gesture to the jealous.
A closer look at life reveals that most women are not like this. Generally they stay away from the people they are jealous of. Moreover, when the person they are jealous of suffers some kind of misfortune, such as a beautiful woman whose face is ruined by a calamity, their jealousy often translates into sympathy, and even repentance because of jealousy. A woman's heart is very prone to jealousy, and it is easy to be jealous of small things that men think are inadequate. But the woman's heart is also very easy to eliminate jealousy, or to quietly divert it relatively quickly. Once jealousy sprouts in a man's heart, it often quickly grows into a huge poison ivy. Women's jealousy usually leads to women's inferiority, and men's jealousy usually leads to men's hatred. If there is relatively no opportunity to vent their hatred, they will take the risk and balance the slanted mentality with revenge on reality.
"Jealous people will not kill the object of their jealousy out of hatred."
Fielding's words are mainly aimed at men.
In a remote village, several unmarried young men conspired to kill a college graduate who had volunteered to become a primary school teacher there, and then surrendered themselves together. Their motives for killing were so simple that the interrogators were shocked— they said that they had no grievances against the murdered primary school teachers and had great respect, but they just couldn't stand the general liking of the village girls for the primary school teachers.
"Don't you know that killing is against the law?"
"I know, so we're here to turn ourselves in." We're going to pay for it! How many lives are not worth his life? ”
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Because he came, the girls began to look down on us and talk about our lack of culture. Are we willing to be uncultured, and who do we not kill him to kill? ”
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If the foil for women's jealousy is often tears, then the foil for men's jealousy is most likely to be blood.
Aristotle made a very blunt statement of jealousy—"We are jealous of those who approach us in time, space, age, or prestige, and of our rivals who compete with us." We are not jealous of those who lived a hundred years ago, those who were not born, those who died, those who seemed to us or others to be far below or far above us. We are jealous of those who strive for the same goals as us. In short, it is those who seek the same things as us, and it is these people, and not anyone else, who we must be jealous of. ”
Are we really jealous, or have we ever been jealous of, people who strive for the same goals and pursue the same things as us? If so, how pathetic life is, and how hateful we ourselves are!
Aristotle's words were also primarily aimed at men. The ancient Greek philosopher's outspoken discrimination and contempt for women, in the time in which he lived, had a great influence on men, and the "we" that appeared in all his discourses basically referred exclusively to men. Moreover, in that era, except for the queen, women could almost only become the object of their mutual jealousy in the love field. Therefore, even the content and nature of jealousy are greatly inferior to men.
Jealousy between men is sometimes enough to blow the spines of women.
In the last century, there were two murderous robbers in the United States who did not blink an eye, and their crimes made them a hot spot in the news media. They are so powerful that they embarrass the image of the police. Later, a resourceful old police officer in the police who had a unique study of men's psychology offered advice and cleverly used the news media to hype up how a robber was extraordinary, as if superhuman, which attracted the attention and even admiration of many women. The other robber is rarely mentioned, such as a sentence attached, and the use of sarcasm is also used. Soon, the police will only have to cooperate against a robber. Because another robber killed his accomplice out of jealousy. The robber was quickly arrested and arrested.
In ancient China, there was a famous story "two peaches kill three soldiers". Yan Zi used a trick to give two peaches to the three warriors, but they did not give in to each other, and divided the male and female in a duel, and finally both died under each other's swords...
In the long centuries before women did not participate in social affairs and did not become social people, their jealousy was usually only emotional, while men began to kill each other for power, for honor, and even just for the sake of fierceness. Women are less likely to kill people out of jealousy of a man's power and honor, but men do, and will have the desire to kill because of it. It's uglier than killing them because of emotion. Modern society has led women to march towards all causes that previously belonged only to men. Their success factor is not smaller than that of men, and they are actually getting bigger than men. Men often hypocritically encourage and encourage them when they are not yet successful, and are more willing to support and assist them. After they succeed, they are destined to become the object of men's jealousy. Unless their success also marks the success of some men themselves, enough for them to share their joy, pride, and honor with peace of mind.
Successful women are not only within the radius of women's jealousy, but also often under the haze of men's jealousy. In modern society, men are beginning to think that women are not without danger to them. In fact, men are more dangerous to women. They may seduce them because of their looks, or they may try to destroy their careers and even their flesh because of their success.
Once, I asked an American friend what her impression of Chinese men was.
She said some good things, and all that remained was "jealousy." She said, "Mr. Liang, I don't actually have any prejudice against Chinese. Internationally, great importance is attached to the psychological harm of jealousy to people, and various scientific methods are used to prove it and tell people about its bad results. Some of your press, on the other hand, want to openly proclaim the benefits of jealousy and Chinese believe that jealousy is also a certain motivator for human progress. ”
I was silent. I seem to understand what I should do for Chinese, who make up a quarter of the world's population. Even though my personal strength is insignificant, I should still do it.