Test: Do you really like her?

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Take you to a good test today!

Test if you really like her.

Sometimes, we buddies chase desperately, work hard, and make a lot of effort, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you really love her. Sometimes, we don't know it ourselves.

Knowing this is key.

Even if it is in the matter of catching her, it is useful.

So, test it, learn more about our own hearts, and do a simple "self-awareness" exercise.

Through this simple test, you can easily perceive what your true inner thoughts are when you chase girls, and then encounter any emotional problems, whether to chase, whether to save, holidays on gift-giving issues, etc., you will not be entangled in headaches.

Ask yourself this question first:

If tomorrow is Tanabata, I don't have anything whole, I don't send anything, I don't have flowers, I don't eat food, I don't mean anything at all, I don't mention a word.

Will your girlfriend, or the girl she's pursuing, break up with you, chill you, and leave you because of this?

If your answer is:

No. My girlfriend wouldn't break up with me because of it.

or

The girl I'm chasing won't be cold to me because of this.

Well, keep asking yourself the following question:

Since I knew clearly that I was not tidy, she would not leave me. But you woman is a normal ordinary person. She's more or less unhappy, right?

Just so that she will not be unhappy because of this, or just so that she can be happy for 2 hours, are you willing to go to this Tanabata for her?

The answer is yes:

I do.

Dude, don't say anything, you really love her.

Because, first of all, you are not forced.

For example, if any buddy is feeling:

If I don't give her a Tanabata Valentine's Day that she's happy with, she won't like me and will leave me. That's no way, I just want to be with her. I had to give her the whole thing.

This is actually what it belongs to, not from the heart, willing to give gifts. It is to prevent girls from colding themselves and leaving themselves. The choices forced to make .

In depth:

This mentality of being forced to be nice to her is because of the "empathy" that happens. It is to transfer the psychology of childhood to mother to girlfriend.

If I was anxious in my childhood—

If I don't behave, my mother won't want me, or I'll be beaten, she will lose her temper and so on.

This anxiety is transferred to the girlfriend, that is, he cannot control himself, "forced", to make her satisfied, to make her happy, he is safe and will not be abandoned.

That's why she was forced to be nice to her.

I interviewed a girl before, and she said that a man gave her a 100,000 bag.

It doesn't have to be true love.

Love, not buying and selling.

Do not look at the price level.

In the human world, if there is anything else that cannot be faked, something that is false and cannot be faked, it is love.

Because it is only because of the other party's economic conditions, or the other party's family has two suites, or how much of a bride price can be given, and then get married with others, in the end, it is all a problem.

This is fake love, not really.

Both men and women are at a loss.

Love, I speak superficially, is the kind of attraction that is human and human, biological. You and her/him, together is comfortable, it is voluntary. Not any other economic conditions, work qualifications and so on.

(I would like to add here that even attraction can change, and our Attraction Core Course in Hook me has a basic concept: Attraction is fluid.) But if you're with her it feels comfortable and natural. Rather than because of external conditions, this attraction is also more permanent. )

Do you think people work well? How do you know what's going to happen next?

Maybe it will be a big layoff and be laid off?

Do you think people are well-off?

Maybe it will go bankrupt and fall below the issue price? Or even go in?

What is love?

Let's not go deeper into it today.

Let's just say something tacky:

I like you, not because of anything else, but because I like you as a person. This can be called love.

I like you, and of course I want you to be happy.

But I also know very well that it is not my duty to be happy or unhappy.

It's not that I have to make you happy. This is wrong. Instead, it puts pressure on the other side. It's as if she can't be unhappy in front of you.

Normal people have the right to be unhappy when they are unhappy.

Then again, if Tanabata, you just don't want to tidy up, can you?

Of course.

If you think that I am not tidy, it does not mean that I do not love you. I love you just as much, but I just don't want to mess with Tanabata.

So, this information, if she can receive, and can understand, will not be because, you are not tidy, she will be like most girls will feel, do you not love me, do not care about me at all?

Well, brother, you two are a good fit.

So, did you find that?

There is no absolute right or wrong.

I didn't say above that Tanabata must be whole, or it must not be whole.

But if, if you're a person who doesn't do anything, and then your girlfriend can understand it, that's the right fit.

Instead of having to follow the standards that others say.

What you're looking for, that's the right person for you.

When you have a mindset like this:

It's about finding someone who is right for me, so when I talk to you, it's about getting to know you and see if you're a good fit for me.

At the same time, let you know me, we all see each other, whether it is suitable for each other.

Chat on WeChat and feel appropriate, then we will go further and make an appointment.

Let's have a cup of tea, have a meal, or even watch a movie, take a walk, and be in one place together, so that we can really feel the existence of the other party, see if it is appropriate to talk about it, is it still appropriate to deal with it?

If it feels like it's all right, it's great, and it will naturally escalate to the next step of intimacy, and the relationship will escalate.

What is mentioned above is an equal mentality. That is, the confident mindset when dating. Instead of:

You are passionate about me, you like me, it means, I am great, I am attractive.

You are cold to me, you don't like me, it means that I am not a good enough person to deserve you.

This mentality will lead to an excessive sense of need, which will lead to the real you, the other party can not see. The other party's real her, you can't see it. Even if, originally, you two were very suitable, and you missed it.

Your buddy,

Come true

2022.04.13