Author: Jin Shanyue Editor: Li Jin
Source: Journal of Marriage and Family
ID：hunyinyujiating99
Two months ago, an obituary refocused attention on the "old drama bone" Schenkova.
On February 28 this year, Chinese conductor Chen Liangsheng passed away.
Mr. Chen has made great contributions to China's music industry, and Switzerland has even created a unique "university musician" position for him. When he was the symphony art director of the Chinese Orchestra, he also directed the shanghai quartet, which is now an internationally renowned orchestra, and has a very high musical attainment.
In the news released by the media, many netizens saw the name of Sichenkova.
It turned out that Mr. Chen Was the husband of Sichen gaowa, and in the last period of Mr. Chen's life, Sichen Gaowa had always been by his side and had not left for a moment.
Many netizens lamented Sichenkova's low profile. Indeed, this is her usual style, especially in the past few years, we rarely see her on the TV screen.
But the roles she has created, under the precipitation of time, have become more classic and insurmountable.
She is the silly tiger girl in "Camel Xiangzi", and the fashionable Shanghai aunt in "Auntie's Postmodern Life";
(Stills from the movie "Shoko the Camel")
(Stills from the movie "Auntie's Postmodern Life")
She is the empress dowager of Xiaozhuang in the Kangxi Dynasty, who worries about the country and the people, and the empress dowager Cixi in the "Sunset Forbidden City";
(Kangxi Dynasty, Empress Xiaozhuang)
("Sunset Forbidden City", Empress Dowager Cixi)
Compared with these, what is more deeply rooted in the hearts of the people is the second grandmother of the Bai family in "The Gate of the Big House".
(Stills from the TV series "The Gate of the Mansion")
Since her debut in 1979, in her 43-year career as an artist, Schenkova has played hundreds of roles and won awards at home and abroad:
Golden Rooster, Hundred Flowers, Feitian, Hong Kong Academy Awards, Berlin Golden Bear Award, Chicago International Film Festival Best Actress...
It can be said that in the Chinese performing arts industry, Sichenkova is enough to be called a "ashes-level" performance artist.
However, behind the highlight moment, it is Schengova's bumpy life.
She lost her father at an early age, her family was poor; when she grew up, she experienced two failed marriages, fell off her horse 3 times during filming, and almost died...
If life is a journey, Schenkova seems to have been bumping in the potholes until her old age, when she gradually embarked on a smooth road.
It is precisely this kind of life experience that makes us understand a truth in the world:
As long as you don't bow to life, you will always have the power to call out fate.
01
What really drives growth is pain
I like a quote from "The Old Man and the Sea":
"Life always makes us bruised, but later, those wounded places will become our strongest places."
In this life, who is not suffering in the bitterness of birth, old age, illness, death, inability to seek, love and separation, resentment and regret.
Some people are easily defeated, even if someone supports them, it is difficult to stand up; some people, but more and more frustrated, learn to be strong in pain, and force themselves to grow in suffering.
Szczynkova, apparently belonging to the latter.
In 1950, Schenkova was born into a Red Army family.
After her father's early death, her mother had to send her back to her mother's house in order to take care of her younger siblings.
Grandma was old, and at a young age, Sichenkova took on housework and farm work inside and out.
Planting and watering, chopping wood for fire, digging wild vegetables, picking up cow dung... It was her daily lesson.
One winter, heavy snow fell overnight, and the road from home to the well was covered with ice.
Schenkova walked cautiously to fetch water, but the rudder on the well was frozen, and she couldn't turn at all.
In the ice and snow, there was no one, and Schenkova, who was in despair, held back her tears and said to herself, "It's okay, it's okay." ”
"It's all right" was her mantra, and Schenkova often said:
"No matter what difficulties you encounter, it's okay to say that it's over."
In the hardships of life, Sichenkova is like a small grass on the grassland of Inner Mongolia, allowing the wind and rain to blow, and she is tenacious.
In 1963, Szchenkova ushered in a turning point in her life.
This year, she became a campus star with a "bowl dance", and later participated in the National Ethnic Minority Literary and Art Show.
Two years later, she was selected to the Inner Mongolia Song and Dance Troupe as a announcer.
After entering the group, Sichen Gaowa met Sun Tianxiang, the director of the Inner Mongolia Film Studio, and fell in love with this handsome and handsome young man at first sight.
When she fell in love with Sun Tian, Sichenkova was only 17 years old.
She was deeply involved in the world, and in less than two years, she was married to a woman.
In the next 3 years, Szchenkova gave birth to a son and a daughter, but she became more and more miserable.
Sun Tianxiang seemed to have changed as a person after marriage, and he often committed domestic violence against Sichengova and the children, often beating up without a word.
Schenkova cried, persuaded, and endured, but her husband's nature was difficult to change, and she finally filed for divorce in 1976.
This failed marriage is painful, but it makes Schenkova grow up.
She understood: a woman must be independent, tenacious, dare to resist, and rely on herself for everything.
Schenkova, who walked out of marriage, began to run the crew to take over the role, first playing a female herdsman in the movie "Occupation Ode", and then starring in the female number one of "Returning to the Heart Like an Arrow" two years later.
(Stills from the movie "Occupation Ode")
(Stills from the movie "Return to the Heart Like an Arrow")
At this point, she is finally shakily on the right track of life, and a bright future is not far ahead.
02
The best marriage is with someone who appreciates themselves
During the filming of "Occupation Ode", Sichenkova fell in love with the actor Ao Xingchen and entered into marriage again in 1977.
Unlike Sun Tianxiang, Ao Xingchen has a gentle temperament and is very good at taking care of people.
The two people got along well, and they were transferred to the Beijing Bayi Studio together, which can be described as a double harvest of love.
But the marriage lasted only more than 6 years before it failed again.
The reason is very simple, in the past 6 years, Sichen Gaowa has quickly become popular with films such as "Camel Xiangzi" and "Like the Year of Water Flow", and the film is continuous, while Ao Xingchen is unknown and no one cares.
(Stills from the movie "Like a Year of Water")
Perhaps it is a psychological gap, or it may just be tired of the life of gathering less and leaving more, in short, Ao Xingchen filed for divorce in 1984 and completely withdrew from Schengova's life.
Life is always full of regrets, either meeting the right person at the wrong time or meeting the wrong person at the right time.
But life is full of hope, and there will always be unexpected beauty.
Just like Schenkova, after two failed marriages, she finally met the right person at the right time.
In 1986, at the age of 36, she met Chen Liangsheng, a 53-year-old conductor, under the introduction of a friend.
(Sichenkova and Chen Liangsheng)
Chen Liangsheng, a personable Shanghai "old Keqin", studied at Princeton University, was also a proud protégé of the famous conductor Cheli Bidak, and served as the music director of the University of Geneva in Switzerland.
In the face of this artist who is 17 years older than herself, Szchenkova is very frank.
The first time we met, she said: "I broke my leg when I was filming, I am half disabled, I have been married twice, and I have two children." ”
To her surprise, Chen Liangsheng was not "scared away" by her past, but instead comforted and cared for her more.
In fact, before this, many people had told Chen Liangsheng that Sichengaova "loved to drink, had a big temper, and had a straight nature", but Chen Liangsheng did not care.
Years ago, he stumbled upon Szchenkova on a movie calendar and was fascinated by her.
Later, I looked at her works and admired her even more.
Soon after, Sichenkova and Chen Liangsheng formed a family again.
And this marriage, finally withstood the erosion of the years, in more than 30 years of time, lasting.
In the circle, there is a good story about them.
In 2006, the drama "Crescent" crew invited Sichen gaowa and Chen Liangsheng at the same time, one of whom was the heroine and the other was an art consultant.
(Stills from the drama "Crescent Moon")
Whenever Sichengova rehearsed, Chen Liangsheng had to go to see it no matter how busy she was, and said with a smile: She is really a drama maniac.
After the performance, Sichen gaowa will give the flowers she received to Chen Liangsheng on the stage.
The two sang a harmony, envious of others.
As the saying goes, how many people know each other all over the world?
Good love, loyal to the soul, only people with similar souls will appreciate each other and attract each other.
03
Excellent women, dare to "give a hard hand" to themselves
As Chen Liangsheng said, Sichenkova is indeed recognized as a "drama maniac".
In her own words:
"A good actor may only require a little effort, and I may need to work very hard."
In 2001, in order to play the second grandmother in "The Gate of the Great House", the Mongolian Sichenkova, she learned Tonkova, and learned Tonyo dialect.
(Stills from "The Gate of the Mansion")
She spent almost all the time she could use, whether it was eating or resting, practicing her accent and pondering the charm of Kyo's films.
In the process of acting, she once fought with director Guo Baochang for the pronunciation of a word.
And Schenkova, on the other hand, is also known for being "not good at talking."
In an interview, Guo Baochang broke the news:
When filming "The Gate of the Mansion", I wanted to add a temporary scene to Schengova, but Schengova rejected him in front of the whole crew.
Szczygova said: "I am not prepared, I can't act. ”
Years later, Guo Baochang commented: "Actors like her who are strict with themselves are too precious and less and less. ”
In fact, Sichenkova's "cruelty" to herself is not a day or two, she once fell off her horse 3 times in order to shoot a scene, and almost fell to her death.
The first time, during the filming of "Occupation Ode" in 1976, he fell off his horse and broke his head;
The second time, in 1985, when filming "Love on the Hump", he fell off his horse and broke his tailbone;
The third time, when she was filming Genghis Khan in 1986, the heavy costume dropped her off her horse and broke her leg.
(Poster of the movie "Genghis Khan")
Since then, Schenkova has fallen into a serious leg disease, and she still can't stand for a long time, can't wear high heels, and has to walk on crutches.
Many people say, is Schenkova stupid? Why doesn't she have to stand-in?
People who know her well know that not only does she not use a stand-in, but every detail in her acting is not spared.
Whether it is the lines, or the portrayal of character characteristics, whether it is the script, or playing with the opponent, she has always been hands-on and never let herself be lazy.
At the age of 64, Schenkova revisited the Bayi Studio.
At some point, the past years overlapped with her limping figure, and the roles she had played flashed in her mind.
She said to the cause she loved:
"Actors are crazy, and when acting, even if they bleed, they will not hesitate."
Where there is any blockbuster, but it is all thick and thin; where there is good luck from heaven, it is all silent cultivation.
There is no hardship in life, and the sweat you shed and the injuries you have suffered will win you applause sooner or later.
Therefore, don't be afraid to suffer, force yourself at the key time, and be "cruel" to yourself, and you will see a better self.
04
To talk about Szczegova's most recent official appearance, it was last year, as a judge of the 32nd Huading Awards.
She has achieved fame and aura, but she shows low-key and humility everywhere.
Once, some fans called her "baby", and Schenkova was so shy as a child that she covered her face.
From beginning to end, Schenkova is like a horse galloping on the steppe, pure and fearless.
Like many people, she is not "born with a good life", and there are many obstacles and tribulations in life.
But she relied on her strong self, reversed her life, harvested a successful marriage, and with a fierce force, realized her dream and became an entertainer that everyone admired.
Fate does not favor anyone, and it is often what you give that you gain.
Life is always full of problems, and only by becoming more and more courageous can we find the answer to happiness.
Resources:
1, "The Most Character": out of the circle of sheep placenta, innocent Schengova
2. "Readers": An interview with Sichenkova
3. "Lu Yu has a date": Sichen gaowa's beautiful life
4. Morning News: Sichenkova's husband died, and he was a famous musician who came out of Shanghai
5. Sina Weibo, etc