1. The elderly Siqin Gaowa looks back on the past
Eighty-year-old Siqin Gaowa sat on the balcony, the sun shining warmly on her wrinkled face. She stared out the window quietly, her eyes a little misty, as if she had traveled through time and returned to the ups and downs of the past.
As a powerful actress of Swiss Chinese, Siqin Gaowa has witnessed the vigorous development of the Chinese film industry. From the "Tiger Girl" in "Camel Xiangzi" to the "Old Lady of the Bai Family" in "Mansion Gate", she has left a strong mark in countless classic film and television works.
However, she has experienced ups and downs in life, three marriages, two families, career and family choices, in which she has struggled, lost, and distressed, but finally found her own way out.
Siqin Gaowa turned her head, and her gentle gaze fell on her husband Chen Liangsheng beside her. This well-known Swiss Chinese music conductor is in his eighties, with gray temples, but his eyes are still full of energy.
It was he who accidentally walked into Siqin Gaowa's life 36 years ago and became the last centerstone in her life, saving her with tolerance and support, and allowing her to regain her confidence in love and life.
Siqin Gaowa couldn't help but reach out and gently cover the back of Chen Liangsheng's hand, and the two old men looked at each other and smiled. After a long journey in life, they have already understood what is most important.
Looking back, I am full of gratitude. The past is vivid, but it is not defeated. As Siqin Gaowa often said: "It was her husband Chen Liangsheng who saved me."
Second, Chen Liangsheng fell in love with Siqin Gaowa at a glance
One afternoon in 1982, 55-year-old Chen Liangsheng walked alone on a quiet street in Beijing. As a musician who traveled the world, his life was lonely and thin until this day, a chance chance, changed his fate.
Chen Liangsheng stopped in front of a grocery store, his eyes drawn to a wall calendar hanging at the door. The wall calendar is printed with a portrait of a middle-aged woman, although there are some traces of time, but those eyes reveal a tenacity that does not admit defeat, which makes Chen Liangsheng's heart suddenly move.
"Oops, this female star is quite ugly." The cleaning aunt on the side said in surprise.
Chen Liangsheng shook his head with a smile, his eyes were gentle and serious: "I think it's quite tasteful."
It turned out that this photo was a portrait of the famous actor Siqin Gaowa. Chen Liangsheng began to pay attention to this performing artist through a friend's introduction. On the same day, they were arranged to meet for the first time.
At first, Siqin Gaowa was not very interested in Chen Liangsheng. At that time, she had been divorced twice, alone, and all her thoughts were on her career and children.
But Chen Liangsheng's persistent pursuit of her soon touched the softest part of Siqin Gaowa's heart.
"I'll take care of you." After learning that Siqin Gaowa had a leg injury due to years of filming, Chen Liangsheng made a promise without hesitation. His firm and warm eyes made Siqin Gaowa inexplicably feel a sense of steadiness.
This man is so remarkable, although he is over half a hundred years old, she has to be impressed by the generosity of his heart.
In this way, a slightly accidental encounter destined the fate of the two to go hand in hand for more than 30 years. Siqin Gaowa never thought that she would meet this empathetic and good man at the last turning point in her life and become the last centerstone in her life.
3. Chen Liangsheng tolerates Siqin Gaowa's career
In the days after getting married, Siqin Gaowa still maintained a high-intensity work state as before, running between crews all over the country all year round. Her husband, Chen Liangsheng, has been living in distant Switzerland for a long time.
This kind of separation in a foreign country dooms the husband and wife to spend most of their precious time on thinking and waiting.
At the beginning, Siqin Gaowa was worried that she would become a burden to Chen Liangsheng. Over the years, due to the old injured leg left over from filming, she had to use crutches when she went out, and she also needed to take care of her life.
But Chen Liangsheng expressed his tolerance with practical actions: "These are not problems, if you are sick, you will be treated, and I will take care of you." After speaking, he looked at Siqin Gaowa firmly, his eyes full of love.
Whenever Siqin Gaowa suffered a recurrence of a leg injury in the crew and the pain was unbearable, Chen Liangsheng would come from thousands of miles to visit the class and give her meticulous care and all-round care in life.
In 2000, when Siqin Gaowa was filming "The Gate of the Mansion", her leg injury worsened to the point of unbearable, and her limping appearance made Chen Liangsheng feel distressed.
The set was in a stalemate that could not continue, and finally Chen Liangsheng made a decision to take her back to Switzerland immediately, and invited a top medical team to perform surgery for her.
Although the recovery process was long and difficult, Siqin Gaowa finally regained her footing on the stage of life. Whenever she recalls those days, she will thank Chen Liangsheng for his thoughtfulness.
And Mr. Chen himself has never pointed fingers at Siqin Gaowa's career, but has been secretly supporting and encouraging her to follow her inner love.
Once, when Siqin Gaowa was considering whether to let go of her career, Old Man Chen saw the hesitation in her eyes, so he smiled and said to her: "I know you want to act, if your body allows, just keep going."
Siqin Gaowa nodded, her eyes full of confidence again.
Fourth, mother-child cooperation to regain family affection
Sun Tie, the son born to Siqin Gaowa and her ex-husband Sun Tianxiang, has been traumatized by his parents' divorce since he was a child. The rebellious behavior of adolescence and the experience of studying and working part-time made him have a strong resentment and hatred for his mother Siqin Gaowa.
For more than ten years, the relationship between mother and son has been in a cold stalemate, and it is difficult for each other to untie each other's knots.
Until an accident in 2001, Siqin Gaowa suffered from a leg injury again because of crew work, and walking became a torment. Seeing his mother's weak and aging appearance, the iceberg in Sun Tie's heart moved.
Although he couldn't completely let go, he still stepped forward and took the initiative to approach Siqin Gaowa, caring about her daily life.
One day, Siqin Gaowa learned that her son also had a strong interest in acting, and immediately invited him to join her crew and cooperated in the filming of the TV series "Blue and White".
In the day and night of the crew, the mother and son gradually regained the family bond that they had lost for several years.
Sun Tie's dedication on the set and his increasingly sophisticated acting skills made Siqin Gaowa feel very gratified. She found that this once bohemian child has now transformed into a very talented actor, but he still needs to polish it.
Since then, Siqin Gaowa has been like a mother again, patiently and meticulously passing on her years of experience and teaching to Sun Tie, teaching by word and deed, and supporting her son to go further on this bumpy road.
Once, Siqin Gaowa suffered a violent recurrence of a back injury, and her painful appearance once again broke Sun Tie's liver and intestines. He silently held his mother's hand, and said with a firm look in his eyes: "Mom, don't worry, I will definitely play this role well."
From that moment on, the mother and son finally let go of years of mustard and estrangement with each other and started a new family relationship.
5. Reconcile the conflict with your stepdaughter
Although Siqin Gaowa and her husband Chen Liangsheng's marriage is full of love and affection, the life of separation in a foreign country will inevitably bring some challenges to this combined family.
Chen Liangsheng's daughter Chen Lida was dissatisfied with Siqin Gaowa, thinking that she was not like a virtuous wife, who had been wandering outside for a long time and rarely cared about the big and small affairs of the family.
Once, after Siqin Gaowa found out about this estrangement from her son Sun Tie, she did not turn a blind eye, but took the initiative to find Chen Lida, hoping to resolve each other's mustard by having a long talk.
"Leda, do you feel that I owe something to your father?" Siqin Gaowa had a sincere look on her face, and her tone was gentle and polite.
Chen Lida was moved by Siqin Gaowa's humble attitude, and after several excuses, she still happily confided her dissatisfaction in her heart. Siqin Gaowa listened patiently, and then talked about her tireless pursuit of art.
"I yearn for freedom, but not aimlessly. It's just that I dedicated all my energy to the stage and neglected my duties as a wife. Lida, I sincerely apologize to you.
After hearing this, Chen Lida finally accepted this "unqualified" stepmother with relief. She began to understand and respect Siqin Gaowa's fanatical love for art, and although she sometimes neglected her family, she always cared about her family in her heart.
Among them, Siqin Gaowa also has to thank her son Sun Tie for his mediation role. It was Sun Tie's suggestion that allowed Mr. Chen to leave Switzerland and move to Beijing to reunite with Siqin Gaowa.
In this way, not only can the husband and wife get together often and leave less, but Sun Tie can also share the responsibility of taking care of Old Man Chen, and the family comes together in this way.