Although the country has opened up the "two-child" policy, but in recent years, the birth rate of the mainland population has continued to decline, many of the post-90s who have reached the age of marriage and childbirth, not to mention having a second child, they are not even willing to have a child. Why are the post-90s generations reluctant to have children now?
Before seeing a report, there was a female college student because she could not stand the dysmenorrhea, wanted to do hysterectomy, but the doctor thought that she was too young, and did not have children, if a hysterectomy was done, but later could not have children will be rejected by the husband, so he refused this request.
Later, the female college student went online to send a request, hoping that someone could help her, in which she wrote: "I hope that women can freely choose hysterectomy and let themselves live a quality life, rather than having children." ”
In fact, there are many women who have the same idea. In their view, although having children is a privilege given to women by God, it is not necessary in their lives, and whether they have children or not should be the right to choose freely, and others have no right to interfere with them.
Would you rather have your uterus removed than have a baby? After the 90s, the reality is also heartfelt
Xiao Xiao is a post-90s girl, good looking, good job, and married a good husband, the couple has a particularly good relationship, but Xiao Xiao and her husband are particularly busy working, temporarily do not plan to have children, in-laws also expressed understanding. It is reasonable to say that the little parents should be very pleased, but the little mother thinks that it is useless for women to make more money, and having children is the right way, so she forces the little one to go home and give birth every day, so that the little one is particularly depressed. One day, the little mother came again to urge the little girl to go home and give birth, and the little one who was angry directly shook back: "Mom, if you force me again, I will cut off the womb!" Hearing the little angry voice, the little mother no longer dared to mention the matter of having a child.
Why are more and more women reluctant to have children? These 4 reasons are realistic and heart-wrenching
1. The cost of raising children is too high
The cost of raising a child is too high, and if you want to raise a child well, you not only need money, but also the company of your parents, which consumes a lot of energy.
From pregnancy to childbirth, you need to face multiple obstetric examinations, but also have to prepare some maternity supplies, the entire pregnancy period must cost at least 10,000 +, the cost of giving birth to a child is 5000-10,000 +, sitting on the month to ask for a monthly wife at least 10,000 +, just pregnancy to give birth to a child will cost 20,000 or 30,000. Milk powder, diapers, toys, clothes, strollers after the birth of the child... All kinds of places have to spend money, raising a child at least 20,000 or 30,000 yuan a year, if you ask a nanny or mother to quit your job to take a baby, the cost is even higher.
Kindergartens, primary schools, junior high schools, high schools, universities, although the nine-year compulsory education is free, but the cost of study classes and interest classes is particularly high, and various learning materials are not a small expense. It is not enough to spend money alone, but also to have the company of parents, parents need to help their children with homework, accompany their children to study, take their children out to play on holidays, send children to various cram classes, all the time and energy are spent on children, there is almost no free time.
It can be said that the cost of raising a child is very high, and many young people say, "I can't even afford to raise myself, where can I afford to raise a child?" ”
2. No time and no energy to take children
With the development of society, people's living standards are getting better and better, but the relative pressure is also increasing, everyone's work is particularly busy, every morning have to get up early in the morning to squeeze the bus to take the subway to work, and often work overtime until late at night, early out and late home, sleep time is not enough. Where is the time to take care of the family, have children and raise children with children?
3. Women's increasingly awakened sense of self-improvement
In fact, not only are there fewer women giving birth to children, but there are also many fewer women getting married. In the past, for women to get married and have children is a necessary process, if a woman does not marry and do not have children, will be looked down upon, as life is incomplete, but now it is different, women's sense of self-improvement gradually awakened, more and more women are not willing to marry and have children, but pay more attention to their careers, their quality of life.
In their opinion, houses, cars, and tickets can all be obtained through hard work, so why do they have to find a man who is not necessarily good to them to marry and have children? After having a child, not only do you have to work to make money, but you also have to take care of your family to take care of your children. Wouldn't it be happier to work well, do what you like, and live the life you want?
4. Fear of losing yourself
Many women have their own careers, their own lives, their own friends, their own interests before marriage and children, the whole person is particularly real; but when they get married and have children, many women's lives focus on the family children, slowly will be separated from the career, friends, interests, in this life lost themselves, lose themselves, live will be particularly tired.