Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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If you want to get a man's heart, is it useful to rely on deep love alone? Useless! It depends on "means"! The women who touch the hearts of men are very high!
Those women who don't have to do anything to have the prince's unchanging deep love are Cinderella in fairy tales! In real life, men and women come and go, paying more attention to the rule of "no diamond diamonds, don't do porcelain work".
That is to say, you do not have a certain "means", and even the best men you can not keep. After all. The human heart is fickle and the human nature is ugly. How incompetent you are in your relationship, how insufficiency you will be stabbed by someone you love deeply.
In the feelings, the inaction that is most afraid of believing in "fate". You hold a heart that loves him deeply, what can he do with this heart?
In the eyes of men, just having a heart that loves themselves deeply cannot resist food and clothing, and cannot become indispensable in their own lives. For such a mind is not a rarity.
It is true that those who should go cannot be retained, but when they have it, don't forget to use "practical actions" so that the people they love deeply have no chance to leave.
In fact, when men really make choices for the rest of their lives, most of them are emotionally irrelevant!
Countless real-life examples tell us that when a man chooses a partner for the rest of his life, he will definitely choose a person who makes his spirit happy or makes his life materially helpful, and if he can, both are the most perfect.
So, do you still think that if you only love him deeply, wash and cook for him and have children, he will be grateful to you?
When you can't make him feel happy in spirit, can't add help to his life, all the solidity you give him is a "burden" for him.
In feelings, a woman's reasonable means are never a derogatory term.
Everyone who lives will have their own goals, and the reasonable actions you make for this goal are the reasonable "means" to match the ability.
When reasonable means contribute to the achievement of the end, such means are worth it!
Why do some women in the relationship always love once and hurt once? It is because women who are "habitually" all over the body have forgotten to use reasonable means because they have done the wrong thing and "love too much".
In the interaction between men and women, women of high rank make good use of "means" and reasonably achieve the point of "not loving too much".
Among them, their "not too full of love" is reflected in the following aspects, each of which is the "essential" that needs to be remembered by the blackboard:
1: Don't love too much, the water is full!
Among the feelings, the most important thing is "tension and relaxation", "alternating hot and cold".
Some women, once in love, the temperature rises sharply, not only to the point of heat to the point where the man also burns himself. Or, because they care too much, they are overly free or overly imprisoned for men.
Never mind, once the degree of grasping is out of control, the man will become an untamable wild horse.
In the current relationship between men and women, women who care too much about their feelings and pay too much can not really get the real care of men. Some people say that men are a "slutty" animal, in fact, it is men who are more eager to conquer new things and are more addicted.
Therefore, when a woman gives him excessive steadfastness and no room for conquest, he feels that the woman in front of him is too "unremarkable".
Who can have a desire to conquer and possess a man who has no interest in himself? Not being interested means dispensing or not having to have it at all.
A high-ranking woman, when she is in a relationship, no matter how much she loves men, she will leave a little bit of reason to love herself. And, spend a fixed amount of energy and time on yourself.
When a man discovers that a woman's heart is not completely filled by himself, it arouses his desire to conquer. Therefore, he will consciously or unconsciously take the initiative to gain the attention of women.
In the face of such behavior of men, women should learn to selectively ignore and selectively praise. In this way, men will be allowed to balance themselves in the face of the temperature of feelings in the midst of loss and accomplishment.
2: Don't be too proactive and create some necessary "panic" for men!
In the relationship, when women are often deeply in love with a man, they are accustomed to putting themselves very low and low, and will actively cater to all the joys and sorrows of men.
The more this happens, the less the man "takes her seriously". Why? Because, such a woman, too impersonal! For men, women without personality, are not challenging.
Too active, too good to men, easy to spoil men, easy to cultivate scumbags.
Don't lose yourself in a relationship, in order to grab a man's heart, and lose yourself too actively enthusiastic and overly concerned. In the case of a man and a woman who love halfway, no man will stay forever because of the woman's loss of self.
Those men who decide not to love, and drag the mud and water and the woman to insist on separating for a while, are nothing more than using their last patience to give a little mercy to the woman.
Women in high rank, when faced with feelings, will never be 100% enthusiastic and proactive. She will only make men feel seven points when they pay three points. When it comes to getting men's attention and attention, it's not about taking, it's about "attracting".
When facing a man you love deeply, the more you love him, the more you have to properly hide your feelings. Not only that, but also to properly ignore him, let him have a little panic, he will redouble his cherishing to prevent loss.
When you constantly improve yourself, you will be a dictionary that men can't read in their hands. When you continue to infect a man with a good attitude, you are his indispensable sun.
Instead of losing yourself for the continuation of love, it is better to become the brightest star in front of a man.
3: Learning to use "means" to operate is more important than losing yourself to maintain!
Between two people who really love each other, do they need to use means to operate? This is a must!
It is precisely because of mutual love, precisely because of care, and precisely because you do not want to lose, so management is a must.
In real life, why do some people still love as much as ever after decades? And some people, but have not escaped the seven-year itch? The difference lies in the "management"!
People who are good at business have never been stingy in business and are not lazy in business.
In order to stay with the people you love deeply, so that the current relationship can last until the end of the day, spending some energy and time using means to get along is mutual comfort and mutual satisfaction. How to calculate, it is all earned!
How long has it been since I got bored? It is nothing more than a lazy person who does not want to run a business, pushes away good feelings and deeply loved people, and does not want to take responsibility.
Feelings are mutual, so why not? A person will only have a dull mind in the means of management, but he is definitely not a lazy person.
The guidance of one party to the other party and the common management of both parties are the necessary means of feelings.
The road of feelings is originally full of thorns and changes, if you neglect management and demean the means of management, no one's combination can go to the end.
Remember:
Feelings are always managed, love is always made through means, and the use of reasonable means to manage relationships is the real consummation.
At present, feelings are becoming more and more demanding on women, and the slightest lack of goodness is all over the body. In order to avoid too many chances of injury, women either do not touch the feelings, or become a real high-ranking person in the relationship.
Don't "inaction" in your feelings, and complain that you are miserable.
For the rest of my life, may all women be high-ranking women, able to get along with their beloved men with reasonable initiative and reasonable temperature, manage love with reasonable means, and keep love with the necessary energy and time!
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