"I like you a lot, can you sign my name?"
14-year-old Zheng Jia said to the long-famous 28-year-old male singer Geng Weihua, Geng Weihua, who has always been a fan, naturally did not refuse.
I didn't expect that this simple interaction turned out to be the beginning of a fate, but this fate was first sweet and then bitter, which made Geng Weihua unforgettable in his life.
As a well-known military singer after the 70s, Geng Weihua has a loud and beautiful voice and a high degree of recognition, and he has sung familiar songs such as "Mother", "Loving Mother", "Green Military Uniform", "On the Taihang Mountain" and so on.
His singing career is extremely remarkable, and he has won more than 15 music-related awards so far.
He integrates bel canto singing with popular singing, and he also has a handsome face, and is known as one of the most handsome male singers in singing folk songs.
The marriage of Geng Weihua, who coexists in talent and looks, and zheng jia, a fan, has broken his heart, what exactly has he experienced, Geng Weihua will hold his daughter and cry on the day of divorce with Zheng Jia? How is Geng Weihua doing now?
In 1970, Geng Weihua was born in Zibo, Shandong, but grew up in Jiangsu, Shandong Hanzi is full of pride, tall and righteous, Geng Weihua is such a person.
Geng Weihua's original family was not rich, and he barely managed to live, as the elder in the family, he was pampered and regarded as the most promising child in the family.
But the doting of parents is not really good for children, and as they get older, the drawbacks come out at once.
At the age of 5, Geng Weihua's parents were deployed to Jiangsu due to work changes, and the parents and brothers who moved their families were all sad, only Geng Weihua was particularly excited.
Looking at the outside world, his heart is no longer quiet, he has become a little impetuous, he is addicted to fun all day, and his academic performance is a mess.
Primary school is fine, the evil supplement can still be made up, after junior high school, the school increases, the amount of tasks is aggravated, and the brain cells are all used in play geng Weihua feels pressured,
In order to relieve the bitterness in learning, Geng Weihua fell in love with music, and surprisingly, he was a genius in music, who was generally talented in learning.
In that era of closed thinking, firmly believing that "reading is the only way out" and learning some technical and artistic examinations was not in the eyes of parents.
His father was angry about this, and his mother was rarely angry about this, but he was not moved, and his iron heart was to learn music.
The father sighed, "This child is finished." Sighing and sighing, the old father still took the initiative to find the work of screwing in the factory,
Only when the mixture is not good, only enter the factory to play screws, in the year into the factory is a good job that can not be sought.
Geng Weihua began to work step by step, going to work, leaving work, cooking, washing dishes, and sleeping.
Life is also boring, the more noble the ideal, after entering the factory, Geng Weihua still thinks about music in his heart,
Idle, he planned to go to the bookstore to buy a music textbook to relieve his boredom, but he did not expect to accidentally indulge in it and could not extricate himself.
A teacher saw Geng Weihua reading and fascinated, was touched by his dedication and love for music, and said to him happily: "Young man, you are very talented, follow me to learn music." ”
Geng Weihua was moved, the opportunity needs to be seized, on the one hand is the stable work arranged by his father, on the other hand, it is a dream that is close at hand,
Geng Weihua did not bother with it is fake, but in the end he chose to resign and follow the teacher to learn music.
When the old father learned of this, he was furious and scolded Geng Weihua angrily: "How can you be worthy of me when you do this?" Geng Weihua was silent, and his heart was always indebted to his father.
Geng Weihua still ran away from home without hesitation, came to the music school where the teacher was, and struggled for his dream and also worked hard for survival.
In order to learn music and the family broke up, his father ignored him, Geng Weihua's situation was once difficult, no money to eat breakfast and fainted became the norm,
In order to maintain his life and take into account the study of music, Geng Weihua will also go out to work odd jobs to earn some living expenses.
Every day in a state of just enough stomach, Geng Weihua always has a sense of crisis, and he will work harder in learning.
At the age of 15, Geng Weihua achieved a little success in music, and the singing skills taught by the teacher were all understood.
Practice is the only criterion for testing effectiveness, and after winning the consent of the teacher, Geng Weihua signed up for the selection of literary and artistic soldiers in the Cultural and Labor Corps of the Nanjing Military Region.
With outstanding ability, he became one of them with excellent results and officially began his career as a military singer.
Geng Weihua, who had just arrived in the army, felt that the future could be expected, and fantasized that he would soon be able to make a debriefing performance in the major military regions.
But there is a huge gap between reality and imagination, and when Geng Weihua is still daydreaming, the performance team he is in directly announces the dissolution.
Sixteen or seventeen-year-old he fell into despair, the dream has not yet set sail, the ship will be stepped on first, in order to continue to pursue the dream, Geng Weihua decided to find a bigger and more stable ship.
In 1988, at the age of 17, he ushered in a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, and he happened to meet the Nanjing Military Region Song and Dance Troupe Zhaoxin.
Didn't Maxima just happen to meet Bó Lè? Geng Weihua signed up overnight, stood out among the many participating singers, and successfully stayed in the song and dance troupe.
Once he followed the troops to Beijing to perform, and saw that Beijing, which is rich in land and materials, has a vigorous economic development, and the singing industry is in the sky, Geng Weihua is moved.
In 1991, Geng Weihua was admitted to the Second Artillery Corps with the best results, realizing his dream of staying in Beijing.
The father, who has always supported Geng Weihua's career in music, is relieved to see his son so good.
The father's attitude is a 360-degree change, from not supporting to becoming the son's number one iron fan,
It is said that during Geng Weihua's performance, the most excited person in the audience was his old father, and his love for his son was reflected in the screams.
After Geng Weihua arrived at the Beijing Second Artillery Cultural and Labor Troupe, he won the opportunity to sing solo with his excellent performance.
In the performances of major military regions, Geng Weihua's figure can be seen, and he has also become a well-known singer in the military in one fell swoop.
In 1997, Geng Weihua was invited to sing the song "Wind, Wind, Fire and Fire" with Yu Wenhua, Li Danyang and others for the Spring Festival Gala.
Geng Weihua, who is handsome in appearance and has a beautiful singing voice, has successfully become popular and attracted the attention of a large number of fans, including Zheng Jia.
Watching the handsome Geng Weihua on TV, Zheng Jia, who had just opened her heart, was moved, and the 14-year-old fantasized that she could one day witness the male god's style.
Perhaps the girl's wish was known to heaven, and she really arranged an opportunity for the two to meet,
In 1998, the little famous Geng Weihua was invited to the well-known ancient city of Xi'an to participate in the performance, at this time Zheng Jia was attending the university of the Air Force, military and political, and when he heard the news that Geng Weihua had come to Xi'an to perform, Zheng Jia was excited and could not sleep all night.
Geng Weihua sang "Green Clothes in the Army" on the stage, the song was loud and beautiful, and it also touched the heartstrings of the young girl Zheng Jia, who felt that Geng Weihua was so handsome and so charming.
Zheng Jia could not control her inner admiration for Geng Weihua, and after the performance, she also went to the hotel to squat and guard Geng Weihua.
The moment she saw Geng Weihua, Zheng Jia was shy and excited, seeing that Geng Weihua was about to approach the hotel, Zheng Jia plucked up the courage to shout: "I especially like to hear you sing, can I take a photo with you?" ”
Geng Weihua is very affinity, not at all like some idol stars today like to play big cards, almost without hesitation to agree,
Geng Weihua also politely shook hands with Zheng Jia, not only took a group photo, but also sent out an autograph, looking at the low-key modest and polite Geng Weihua, Zheng Jia's heart directly fell.
Before parting, Zheng Jia looked at Geng Weihua, who was about to leave, and the courage that came from nowhere made her say: "Can you leave me a call?" ”
There is a distance between the star and the fan, and in general, the star will definitely refuse the fan's request for a phone number, but Geng Weihua unexpectedly agreed.
Seemingly small actions, but warmed the heart of the girl, the bud of love also took root in the heart.
Zheng Jia liked to worship Geng Weihua in her heart, but she was a rational person and did not approach Geng Weihua by telephone bombardment.
In order to show geng Weihua her love, Zheng Jia adopted a more sincere way and handwritten an 11-page love letter.
After receiving the love letter, Geng Weihua felt very incredible, was touched by the sincerity and writing of the other party, and said that it was false not to be moved.
However, he knew that there was a huge age gap between the two of them, which was really inappropriate, so he wrote a letter to reject Zheng Jia.
After Zheng Jia was rejected, she was a little disheartened, but she was not a girl who gave up easily, in order to meet Geng Weihua.
Every two months, Zheng Jia will go from Xi'an to Beijing, running for a love that does not know the end and the future.
At the beginning, Geng Weihua approached Zheng Jia every time, and every time he was kind enough to persuade each other: "Little girl, we are impossible, I will not see you when you come again." ”
Zheng Jia was rejected many times, did not give up, has been insisting for two years, has been rejected, Zheng Jia's heart is also shaken.
On the last trip to Beijing, Geng Weihua learned early that Zheng Jia was about to visit, and greeted the security guard in advance: "Uncle Wang, there will be a girl looking for me later, and you will say that I am not there." ”
The late autumn in Beijing is very cold, Zheng Jia, who can't see Geng Weihua, has been waiting outside the door, and the security uncle can't bear the suffering of the female doll.
From the bottom of his heart, he persuaded: "Baby girl, he just doesn't like you, otherwise how could he make you wait for two years?" ”
After listening to the words of the security uncle, Zheng Jia returned to Xi'an with tears in her eyes, and she wrote a letter to Geng Weihua with tears.
Geng Weihua, who received the letter, still felt an extreme headache, and was troubled by the little girl's stubbornness.
When he opened the letter, Geng Weihua was confused, this time it was not courtship, but farewell, watching the girl tell the pain of two years of chasing love in the letter,
Geng Weihua's eyes widened in tears, and he said, "We will say goodbye to this, and the mountains and seas will never meet." Let Geng Weihua's heart suddenly cluck a little, a little faintly painful, and suddenly sadness came from it, as if he had lost something important.
Geng Weihua, who was sitting in a difficult position, could not let go of his nostalgia for a long time, he no longer suppressed his inner emotions, dialed Zheng Jia's phone,
Looking at the familiar and unfamiliar calls, Zheng Jia was very surprised, since she wanted to call Geng Weihua, the other party had never taken the initiative to contact her.
Zheng Jia answered the phone with the doubts in her heart, and Geng Weihua said urgently: "I know that you have waited for me for a long time, and I want to marry you now, not a joke, I can really get married right away." ”
Zheng Jia's whole person was directly stunned, and Geng Weihua, who had not heard the human voice for a long time, was a little anxious, and then asked: "Zheng Jia, are you listening?"
Zheng Jia reacted to this, after asking many times, after learning that the other party was not joking, turned sad into joy, and was so happy that she almost lost her mobile phone.
Zheng Jia was naturally happy to marry her idol Geng Weihua, and soon after the phone hung up, the two of them were preparing for the wedding.
Geng Weihua's mother felt that her son was too impulsive, the age difference between the two was so large, it was difficult to last long without an emotional foundation.
And Geng Weihua did not want to lose Zheng Jia, and his heart was reluctant to let such a good girl as Zheng Jia marry someone else, so he was eager to marry her.
Zheng Jia and Geng Weihua were in a hurry to get married, and after receiving the license, Geng Weihua fantasized that Zheng Jia could become a virtuous wife and mother, while Zheng Jia thought that Geng Weihua could spoil her and love her.
Soon after the marriage, Zheng Jia gave birth to a daughter for Geng Weihua and formed a happy family of three.
Geng Weihua's career development is also smoother, the performance is continuous, the appearance fee is getting higher and higher, originally thought that the days will become more and more prosperous, but the relationship between him and Zheng Jia has also quietly changed.
Geng Weihua has been famous for a long time, but has always been relatively concise, and Zheng Jia is young, which is diametrically opposed to Geng Weihua's concept of consumption, and the marriage between the two has changed due to different life concepts.
Zheng Jia accidentally saw a piece of clothing worth 8,000 in the mall and felt that it was very suitable for Geng Weihua, so she bought it directly.
The frugal Geng Weihua was extremely dissatisfied with this, feeling that Zheng Jia was extravagant and wasteful, and the two had a big fight over it, and later, Geng Weihua took the initiative to apologize to Zheng Jia, and the two were reconciled.
Since then, because of their values and consumption views, the two have quarreled many times, and even threatened: "If you can't live a long time, you will leave." ”
Geng Weihua has repeatedly ridiculed in the program: "We have said many times about divorce, but we have always been talking about anger, and we have not really divorced." ”
Arguing endlessly every day, the feelings between husband and wife that are not deep have been worn away, and Zheng Jia gradually felt that Geng Weihua was different from what he imagined.
Her ideal Geng Weihua is a shining star on the stage, a singer with a loud voice, she adores him, praises him,
But after getting married, living together with each other, Geng Weihua withdrew from the star aura and became an ordinary husband and father.
Taking on the heavy responsibility of taking care of her daughter, she also helped her wife wash and cook, while Zheng Jia did nothing and was completely at home with a big miss posture.
Zheng Jia felt that this marriage was not the marriage she imagined, and she did not feel happy, so she filed for divorce with Geng Weihua in 2015, ending this marriage that lasted for more than a decade.
Geng Weihua, who is very affectionate and righteous, heard that his wife proposed divorce, and no matter what, he did not agree, but his wife had already decided to do so, and it was useless for him to keep it.
In April of the same year, Geng Weihua and his wife formally divorced, that day he was sad, tears flowed, his daughter also cried loudly, Geng Weihua took his daughter into his arms, and the father and daughter cried with headaches.
After the divorce, Geng Weihua was silent for a long time, rarely attending events, and basically did not participate in performances.
For feelings, Geng Weihua frankly said: "Before my daughter went to college, I would not fall in love. ”
In 2022, Geng Weihua is 52 years old, he is no longer young but still glorious, and has had a failed marriage.
He was not ashamed of his ex-wife, not ashamed of his parents, not ashamed of his daughter, and was a good man in the true sense.
To love a person, we must love a specific person, Zheng Jia's love for Geng Weihua is an abstract love, she loves the Geng Weihua she imagined, not the real Geng Weihua.
Geng Weihua also has some impulses for love, and rushes to get married without understanding each other's situation, which also leaves an unforgettable emotional wound.
Divorced for seven years, he has not yet come out of the pain, put all his thoughts on his daughter, and believes that the person who is destined to be with him will definitely come.