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The title sentence sounds old-fashioned, but it really happened to me.
Many people envy love from school uniforms to wedding dresses, how romantic it is. I used to fantasize that it almost came true.
But this almost made me completely change and made me who I am now.
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I was a high school classmate with him, and when I was in school, everyone thought that we were a good match, but at that time, my brother was very righteous and did not want to fall in love at all.
Later, I graduated from college and worked, but I would still be in touch a lot, and we both had boyfriend and girlfriend friends with each other, and then we both broke up and knew each other.
Then he came home and we decided to be together, but it was also the same month that he disappeared.
The last thing he said to me was to wait until his parents agreed, and I never saw him again.
In fact, I may not be able to accept the situation for a while, but I can understand.
A person who has returned from the field to find a new job needs the support of the family for everything to get married.
All I was waiting for was for him to make it clear to me that they were all right and that they were friends.
However, after waiting for a few months, I also looked for him for a few months, and finally on his wedding day, a friend told me that he got married that day.
I seem to be ready, so I am not overly sad, but I will not trust others easily in the future.
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Of course, since then, I decided to be an active problem solver, no longer waiting for others to make a decision, I passively accepted.
I'm not a generous person, so I wouldn't say thank you to someone who brought me hurt, the hurt is always there, even if there's a lot of explanation and make up for it later.
But when I think about what I used to do, I'm still heartbroken, still sad.
So, I won't forgive anyone who has hurt me, and I won't resent anyone.
Because forgiving is sorry for myself, not forgiving will make me resentful, so I do not forgive and do not resent.
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Talking to a friend today and mentioning this matter again, I actually wanted to enlighten her with my own things, and I also felt that I could let myself be able to feel nothing, it didn't seem to be my business.
This is really letting go, and now I am a very rational person with feelings, want to say what directly, do not pretend, do not suspect.
Occasionally coddled, occasionally sane.
After the age of 30, I prefer such an efficient relationship and an efficient life.
Everyone's time is precious, and don't waste it in this unwarranted suspicion and cold war.
Isn't it nice to make money with this time? Just like I write my emotions now, at least the people who see me will understand me and will get more friends out of the woods.
If it happens you need it too.
Love yourself first, don't use your own love and generosity to fill the bottomless pit of others, the person who hurts you will always hurt you.
Love yourself first, I often say, I don't know if I have the next life, I don't know if I am a person in the next life, whether I have such an experience, so in this life, I want to live well and love myself well.
A lot of people say I'm too self-centered, but what, why don't I?
About the Author:【Meow's Nest】
A post-90s generation who focuses on self-media operation and personal improvement hopes to live in the way they like in the future, is changing themselves by writing, and hopes to meet you who are equally passionate on the road to writing.