The writer Yishu said: "What happens in life, if it is in line with ideals, is our blessing, if not, as experience." ”
Anything that succeeds or fails will make itself. It's just that some people, immersed in pain, can't extricate themselves, resulting in the loss of themselves.
A woman's blessing is earned by herself, and it is also accumulated with the experience of life.
At the age of fifty, you have everything you should have, and you can manage everything you have and live your old age in peace.
The following four things, done well, the blessing will come naturally.
01
Do more "short hands" things, hard work and frugality is a blessing.
The old ancestor left a sentence: "Women have short fingers, and there is no shortage of food and clothing." ”
In real life, most women like slender fingers, reflecting the "thin for beauty". There are also women whose fingers are not slender enough, leaving long nails to increase the length of their fingers. On the nails, apply beautiful patterns and colors to make it look particularly delicate.
In fact, women of a certain age should not deliberately dress up their fingers, but cut their fingernails short, and do more housework to make the dining table at home richer. In this way, the family will be warmer.
Women who stick their fingers up and point fingers at people are not welcome.
Hard-working women, no matter how old they are, can hold up half the sky, which is much more than those vases. Therefore, in the second half of a woman's life, be more realistic, and do not "stretch out her hands with clothes and open her mouth with food."
02
Doing more "short tongue" things and less reticence is a blessing.
Women with many mouths are called "long-tongued women".
Any man or child can't stand a woman's nagging. In any scene, you can't tolerate a woman's nonsense, even if you talk endlessly, you will be rejected.
In the TV series "The Legend of Mi Yue", King Huai of Chu pampered Wei Meiren in every way, which caused the dissatisfaction of concubine Zheng Gui.
In order to regain the love of King Huai of Chu, she said to Wei Meiren, "In the future, we will get along as sisters. ”
After gaining Wei Meiren's trust, Zheng Gui said, "The Great King is not satisfied with your nose. ”
Later, when Wei Meiren met King Huai of Chu, he covered his nose.
King Huai of Chu asked, "What's going on?" ”
Zheng Gui preemptively said, "Because Wei Meiren smelled the strange smell on your body." ”
King Huai of Chu was furious and beat Wei Meiren into the Cold Palace. Since then, the beautiful love has also disappeared.
"Speaking out, drama and moderation", a woman, talking too much, will definitely be at fault, if it is vicious, then it is more terrible than poisonous arrows.
One thing, say a few more words, will become a fallacy. Smart women, with very few words, smile and listen to others and be a listener.
The older a person is, the more thoroughly he sees society, the more confused he is, and if he says fewer words, the surrounding environment will be harmonious and interpersonal relations will become better.
03
Do more "short hair" things, more wisdom is a blessing.
As the saying goes, "Long hair, short sight." ”
Although, this sentence is a prejudice against women, but there is a certain truth. Women need to think backwards and make their hair shorter and more intelligent.
Of course, it's not about getting women to cut their hair, it's about changing their mindset. Men like short hair, with a big pattern to tolerate the world, with wisdom to observe society, with calm to think about life.
After a woman is fifty years old, she should make less fuss about grooming and dressing, and spend more time on reading and self-cultivation.
Someone once asked the host Dong Qing, if you go to a desert island to survive, you can only bring three things, what will you bring?
Dong Qing said: "Books, lovers, seeds." ”
Seeds can sprout and bring hope for survival, lovers are the force that helps you grow, books can pass the time, bring rich spirits, and learn ways to survive.
The beauty of a woman is short-lived. Youth passes in a flash, only wisdom can bring a different temperament, can make yourself forever youthful.
People over fifty, no matter how busy, must spend time to read, cultivate their hearts, and make themselves better than people of the same age.
04
Do more "short feet" things, not to be in a hurry is a blessing.
There is a folk proverb: "The blessed one does not have to be busy, and the unblessed person runs away and breaks the intestine." ”
A woman, who has been in a hurry all her life, shows that she is not blessed and has been running all the way to survival.
Those blessed women are living a calm life.
The host, Lu Yu, told a story in the book: she was separated from her friends in a small town in the United States. A few moments later, she was going to take a flight, but she suddenly found that she did not have a penny on her, and her mobile phone had landed in her friend's car.
She reassured herself over and over again not to be in a hurry, that she would certainly meet well-meaning people who were willing to lend her money; to walk around slowly and not to miss the scenery on the street.
Later, friends appeared on the street, and all difficulties were solved.
What's the rush? At this point, it is useless for you to be anxious, it is better to live calmly, calm down, there is always a way to deal with everything.
Fifty knows the Destiny. A lot of things have become a foregone conclusion, and you will lose it if you toss it around. It is better to guard it and enjoy it slowly.
For example, before the age of fifty, after making a sum of money, plan the things that cost money later, rather than blindly investing. If you lose money, life will fall into a panic, and it will be more difficult to make a comeback.
05
I like a saying: "Life is originally pain, it is thoughts and philosophies that sublimate it, so happiness comes from a happy heart." ”
It is not to drive a luxury car, go everywhere to see the scenery, three meals a day are mountain treasures and seafood, is happiness. True happiness should be sought from the depths of the heart, and it should be excavated from wisdom.
A hard-working and frugal woman, life is simple, the family is warmer; the woman who is silent and has a quieter life and less bane; more books, richer hearts, and a transparent life; less busy, everything is stable.
Man, at the age of fifty, as long as the heart is calm and there is no desire, the days will get better and better.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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