Qingming Festival is a traditional Chinese festival of sacrifice, on this day, the whole family will go out to pay tribute to the deceased relatives. So the question is, is it appropriate for young children to go to the grave to pay their respects? Our family is in a big fight over this.
How old can a child take him to the Qingming Dynasty to worship his ancestors?
The traditional saying of the elderly in the family is that "children under the age of 5 cannot go to the grave", because they believe that children under the age of 5 are most likely to "see another world", and they are afraid that their children will be affected and frightened by "another world"; Zichen's mother feels that there is no impact, advocating taking children to outdoor activities together, and allowing him to feel the atmosphere of traditional festivals and remember his ancestors.
In fact, I think that both of their statements have a certain truth. In the former, it does not make much sense to let young children go to this occasion, because the children are too young to understand the meaning of tomb sweeping and paying homage to the ancestors, but only follow the wishes of adults, and are not beneficial to children; the latter, traditional festivals not only have different appearances, but also have deep educational significance for children.
So, how old is the right child to go? In fact, there is no absolute age limit, the only criterion is the child's understanding and acceptance of "life and death".
For example, parents can tell their children more about the deceased elderly in ordinary times, and let the children accept it emotionally. Then let the child understand that "life and death" is a very natural law. In this way, with sufficient psychological preparation, it is more meaningful for children to visit the grave with feelings for their ancestors.
The 5-year-old was ridiculed for confusing traditional festivals, and the mother did something to get the teacher to praise
Speaking of this, I have to say that an embarrassing thing before the children's holidays, when Qingming was about to take a holiday, the teacher asked the children in the class, "Does anyone know the story of the Qingming Festival?" As soon as the words fell, my baby hurriedly raised his hand, and after the teacher asked him to get up and answer, he actually said, "It is to pay tribute to Qu Yuan!" ”
When the students in the class heard this, they all laughed loudly, and the teacher couldn't help but laugh. Moreover, the teacher also criticized by name in the class group, so that we parents should teach some "common sense" to our children. There are a few children in the same neighborhood who come home and tell their parents about it, and sometimes when I meet them in the community, I feel embarrassed, and I always feel like they are laughing at us.
Zi Chen's mother couldn't stand it anymore and was determined to educate her children well and make sure to impress them. So I looked around for information, taught children to know the traditional festivals every day, learn the customs and stories in them, but the results were very small, the children were not interested at all, the calculation was memorized by rote, and after a few days they forgot again.
Until later, I found this set of "Festive Feast", and after taking the child to watch it for a while, the child underwent earth-shaking changes and was praised by the teacher in the class group.
There are many parents who express their displeasure, "Don't you know a little knowledge of traditional festivals, and it is useless, is it worthy of such praise?" The teacher said that she not only understands the knowledge of traditional festivals, during this time, her grades have also improved a lot; she also knows a lot of traditional knowledge and culture, and many blackboard newspapers are made by her; and she knows how to respect the elderly and filial piety to her parents; when cleaning at school, many children like to be lazy, but she is hard-working.
Parents listened to it and realized that this child is really excellent, not only in learning, but also in quality. So they asked Zi Chen's mother and asked her how she educated her children. Zi Chen's mother said, "I have also looked for a lot of information, tried many ways, but all of them have little effect, until later found this set of "Holiday Feast", the child's body has changed! ”
Zi Chen's mother said that this set of "Festival Feast" consists of 4 volumes, including 8 unique traditional festivals, 19 ancient poems of festivals necessary for primary schools, 69 catchy sayings, proverbs and post-breaks, 24 classic ancient poems of the festival, and 24 audios of ancient poems with beautiful rhymes.
The book contains the origin of festivals, myths and legends, festival customs, festival cuisine, festivals and poems, colloquialisms, proverbs, after-hours, astronomical knowledge, culture and activities, festival games, etc., once can take children back to the knowledge discovery journey of traditional festivals, so that children are full of interest and unfinished.
Then, the book contains historical allusions, and children can learn historical knowledge while immersing themselves in happy holidays. Open your child's eyes, increase your child's knowledge, and accumulate your child's writing materials.
A full set of books and pictures, 19 essential ancient poems for primary school students, combined with appreciation, let children deeply feel the charm of ancient poems, and easily help the learning of large languages.
The full set of books also includes a variety of festive food production, for example, Lapa Festival to make Lapa Porridge; Lantern Festival to rub tangyuan; Qingming Festival to make Qingtuan; Dragon Boat Festival to make rice dumplings; Qixi Festival to make Qiaoguo... Let children improve their hands-on ability in the process of making and tasting food, and feel the warmth of the family.
Moreover, this set of books also integrates small games into festive activities, such as lantern riddle guessing during the Lantern Festival; scientific knowledge related to Tanabata; scientific knowledge related to moon appreciation... In the process of playing games and watching popular science, children also improve their observation and thinking skills.
Finally, Zi Chen's mother also said that she not only valued the help of this set of books to the child, but also liked its gifts, and also came with a 40-page exquisite pocket notebook, 24 ancient poems about solar terms, and 24 ancient poems recited audio.
Parents, we can not only value the child's achievements, I think what is more important is the quality of the child, the gratitude of Qingming, the patriotism of the Dragon Boat Festival, the respect of the elderly in Chongyang... All shine with the brilliance of traditional virtues, qualities and virtues that we cannot leave our children behind. Link I want to put below, to ensure the genuine, the gift is complete, the price is also very beautiful (4 volumes a total of only 49, each book is less than a breakfast), but can cultivate the child's various abilities and qualities, you can start according to your own needs, you can also give as a gift to relatives and children ~
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epilogue
The Qingming Festival itself is a festival with a tradition of more than 2,000 years and is also part of traditional culture. As a parent, I suggest that I may take this opportunity to explain the origin and allusion of "Qingming" to my children, so that children can receive traditional cultural education in participation, so that this form of education is more meaningful for children's growth!
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