During the turbulent Republic of China period, the literary hero Lu Xun once analyzed Ibsen's "Doll's House" like this:
There are only two endings to Nala's escape, either depravity or homecoming!
In that era when the female sky was extremely low, there were very few women who ran away from home like Nala and could counterattack life.
Dong Zhujun, who was born in 1900 and struggled in the fire pit of the Qinglou, spent his life to find the third way of "Nala running away", that is, after being betrayed by fate and love, relying on his own strength, he can also become a winner in life.
She came from the slums, once fell into the Qinglou, once became the Overseer's wife, and was once chased and slashed by her beloved husband with a knife...
The ups and downs of fate gave her thousands of tricks and difficulties, but she used a posture of cutting thorns to perform a wonderful drama.
Dong Zhujun's growth stage is always inseparable from a "bitter" word, it seems that from birth, she is an outcast of ruthless fate.
She grew up in a large slum in the Shanghai Concession.
In the years when the people were not happy, her father, who loved her, also did his best to give her the opportunity to read and write.
Just helplessly, when Dong Zhujun was 13 years old, his father, who was a top pillar, was seriously ill and unable to be treated.
When the family was desperate, the old bustard, who had a deep heart, tricked the parents of the Dong family: they could sell their daughter to the Qinglou, only sell their art and not sell themselves, and redeem them after three years.
In this way, Dong Zhujun, who did not know the truth, in order to support this fluttering family, resolutely knelt down to bid farewell to his parents and became a singer in the Qinglou.
However, once entering the Qinglou building, it was as deep as the sea, and the doorway in it was more complicated than Dong Zhujun imagined.
In less than half a year, the old bustard stared at Dong Zhujun, who had a good face, and planned to let her pick up the guest.
At this moment, a kind old aunt told Dong Zhujun that only by finding a good person to redeem himself could he completely escape from the demon cave.
But the land of the Qinglou is mostly stupid children, how can there be good people worth entrusting for life.
Just when Dong Zhujun was desperate, a handsome man appeared in front of him.
After several days of observation, Dong Zhujun was pleased to find that this man never set his sights on other women, and rarely talked to people, and every time he came to the Qinglou, he entered a pre-booked private room to talk about serious matters with other friends.
Later, Dong Zhujun learned that this group of people were revolutionaries, and the man who was 13 years older than himself was the Sichuan overseer Xia Shi.
Born in The Summer Dynasty of a feudal family in Sichuan Province, he was an active follower of Sun Yat-sen's revolutionary ideas; as a revolutionary member of the earliest League, he cooperated with the Xinhai Revolution, led an uprising in Chengdu, and after several battles, xiao yong was invincible; later served as the deputy governor in the Shu military government established in Chongqing.
As Yuan Shikai betrayed the revolution, the alliance would suffer a heavy blow; in order to save the great cause of the revolution, Xia Shi and others often used the cover of the land of fireworks to plan important matters.
Such a summer time also became a glimmer of fate projected on Dong Zhujun's dark life.
This is the most precious love in Dong Zhujun's life, but redemption and fulfillment are implicated in the fate of love, going around and around.
Like all good stories: the two fell in love with each other.
In order to stay together, she resolutely escaped from the Qinglou and went to Japan with Xia Shishi and held a simple wedding.
Even in a foreign country, she still has her own pride: reading, not being a concubine.
Even though Dong Zhujun at this time was a controversial Qinglou woman, Xia Shi saw the tenacity and bravery of a new type of woman in her.
But the matter of love has always been a rebirth of doom.
Dong Zhujun did not know: in the summer, he preached revolution, but in his bones he was an extremely feudal man.
After all, he was jealous of her Qinglou origin, so in order to prevent her from committing infidelity, he hired a tutor for her to prevent her from going out to make friends.
With the changes in the domestic situation, the "Patriotic War" against Yuan Shikai began.
In 1916, Xia Shi received an order to return to Sichuan to participate in the revolution.
At this time, the eldest daughter of the two, Xia Guoqiong, was more than a year old; considering the safety of her mother and daughter, Xia Shi gave Dong Zhujun a pistol to let her defend herself; before leaving, she hesitated: "If you do something sorry for me, you will also use it..."
Such a statement made Dong Zhujun a little stunned, and then felt inexplicable shame.
She knew that her husband had always distrusted him, and such suspicion and precaution, like a sharp knife, had cut through the bits and pieces of the beautiful first sight.
But in that era of extremely low status of women, what are these grievances?
Dong Zhujun thought: After all, he must rely on her husband's care and rely on her husband's fulfillment, so that she can stand and live...
Although her husband's suspicion blew trivial ripples on the lake of marital peace, she still chose to be patient.
The time came to the autumn of 1917.
Dong Zhujun, who was studying alone in Japan, received a telegram from her husband asking her and her daughter to return to their hometown in Hejiang, Sichuan.
At this time, Dong Zhujun also established a foothold in Japan, but in order to support her husband's revolution, she still took her eldest daughter to embark on the ship back to China.
Like all old-fashioned women, Dong Zhujun at this time still regarded xiangfu godson as his heavy responsibility.
But after coming to her husband's hometown, she found that the situation of marrying into a rich family was more severe than she expected.
The Xia family was a well-known feudal family with a deep view of the rank of the gate.
When Dong Zhujun, who came from the Qinglou, stepped into the door of the Xia family, the first sentence of the old lady of Xia was: "How can a woman in the Qinglou be the wife of a large family, you hurry to find a wife, she can only be an aunt wife." ”
It is also fortunate that in dong zhujun's most unpopular days, her husband Xia Shi initially helped her.
While teaching her how to establish herself in the extended family, he also told her to be tolerant of everything and not to be too real.
Dong Zhujun is grateful for her husband's kindness to her, and she also understands that she must work hard to prove herself.
In the days when she came to her hometown in Sichuan, she worked tirelessly to manage the housework, take care of her eldest daughter Guo Qiong, and Xia Shi and the son of her late ex-wife, Xia Damo; due to her hard work and resentment, Dong Zhujun finally ushered in a change in the attitude of the family.
But just when she thought that happiness was coming, her husband Xia Shi personally pushed her into the abyss.
Only one year after coming to his hometown, the situation of the Sichuan War changed drastically, and Dong Zhujun, his children and many family members had to move to Chengdu with her husband Xia Shi; unexpectedly, after coming to Chengdu, the army of Xia Shi was absorbed by Xiong Kewu, the commander-in-chief of the Sichuan Army.
This sudden change made Xia Shi fall into the lowest point of her career; it was also from this time that the relationship between the husband and wife began to deteriorate.
In the summer when he was brave and good at war on the battlefield, he could not withstand such a blow; he was depressed all the time, and finally he was infected with gambling and opium.
Dong Zhujun could not bear her husband's depravity, and always bitterly exhorted; but this way was regarded by her husband as a deliberate opposition, so Xia Shi began to point at Dong Zhujun's nose and scolded: "You have been against me all day, where there is a little bit of a woman's Taoist family!" ”
Such ridicule and questioning have made the relationship between husband and wife deteriorate suddenly.
It is worth mentioning that when the summer is at a low point in his career, his personality is becoming more and more indifferent and cruel.
I don't know when he began to believe that his daughter had brought him bad luck.
Xia Shi wanted a son, but Dong Zhujun gave birth to daughters one after another, and he began to hang up "which warlord is not three wives and four concubines, only I will have a wife when I am in the summer".
Dong Zhujun was once extremely grateful for her husband's affection, but as the relationship between husband and wife gradually deteriorated, her husband always hung up on these things, and she suddenly understood that this was never love, but her husband's "gift" to her.
Later, the two have 4 lovely daughters, but as a father, Xia Shi shows a mean and cruel attitude.
He did not allow his daughter to be educated because he felt that sooner or later her daughter would belong to someone else's family.
When his daughter was in danger of illness, Dong Zhujun abandoned the housework to take care of her daughter, but was scolded by Xia Shi: "A female baby, dead is dead, is it worth you to abandon everything?" ”
Later, Dong Zhujun finally gave birth to a boy; but the arrival of this child did not ease the contradictions between husband and wife, but made Dong Zhujun, who was not respected in marriage, feel more and more tormented.
I don't know when it began, Xia Shi's suspicions became more and more serious, and he even suspected that his wife and his daughter's piano teacher had an affair, and such groundless suspicion eventually became a nightmare for his wife Dong Zhujun.
Once, the two quarreled over trivial matters.
The tyrannical Xia Shi mocked Dong Zhujun as a in the brothel, and Dong Zhujun, who could not bear to be insulted, refuted on the spot; but such an act made Xia Shi completely lose his mind, only to see the boots on his feet, directly kicked dong Zhujun.
Dong Zhujun, who felt that the situation was not good, ran outside desperately, and at this moment, Xia Shi took out a kitchen knife from the kitchen and chased after him.
No one can imagine Dong Zhujun's despair: it was her husband, the life-saving straw when she was in deep trouble, and the person she trusted and relied on most in her wandering fate.
But it was such a husband, but now he lost his mind and chased himself with a knife.
Dong Zhujun called for help while fleeing for his life, but fortunately, Xia Shi's nephew arrived in time to stop him, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable.
What pained Dong Zhujun the most was that her increasingly cruel husband also abused her parents in disguise.
In the early years, because of livelihood problems, the Dong family's parents were deceived by the old bustard and sold their daughters into the Qinglou, but even so, Dong Zhujun did not resent his parents.
Not long after returning from Japan, Dong Zhujun took his parents to live in the Xia family at the suggestion of her husband.
But as her husband became more and more brutal, her parents' life in the Xia family was not good.
Xia Shi was suspicious of his wife's betrayal of him, and even more suspicious of his father-in-law and mother-in-law's ill intentions.
Once, in front of the servants in the tobacco room, Xia Shi actually yelled at Dong Zhujun's father, Dong Tongqing, because he felt that the opium that his father-in-law had boiled for him was not enough and suspected that the other party had stolen his opium.
Dong Zhujun's mother had a worse life in the Xia family.
Because of the loss of the golden hairpin that Dong Zhujun bought, Dong's mother, who had been poor all her life, cried all day and blamed herself incomparably.
But when Xia Shi, who was the son-in-law, heard this, he directly asked the servant to tie up his mother-in-law, and the fierce god warned him: Don't cry.
It wasn't until Dong Zhujun, who was returning home, learned the news that her mother was able to loosen her ties.
Seeing his mother suffer such a great humiliation, Dong Zhujun was extremely heartbroken.
Not tolerating her daughter's self-blame and remorse, her mother smiled and comforted her: I am old, stupid, don't be angry with Xia Ye.
With all kinds of harsh accusations and abuse, the Dong family's parents naturally could not stay.
In order to reassure his mother, Dong Zhujun used his savings to re-buy a golden hairpin for his mother; and put on the newly made clothes for his parents and took a photo.
In that precious photo, the kind and simple parents of the Dong family are somewhat restrained, but they try their best to hide their emotions and leave a faint smile for their daughter.
Most of what parents do is the fulfillment of their children.
Like the dong family's parents: in the photos they left for their daughters, they hid all their grievances as much as possible; with that incomparably relieved but stable smile, they soothed their daughters' self-blame and grief.
Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for them.
They want to exchange their own departure for the peace of their daughter's marriage and family; they also want to exchange their son-in-law's cherishing and cherishing for their daughter.
These are the two who have been poor all their lives, and they can give their daughters everything.
But such a relieved smile completely pierced all of Dong Zhujun's despair.
She once thought that she could reassure her parents and let her children grow up healthily, and she could endure it all the time.
Now the parents' experience and the unpopular situation of their daughters have made Dong Zhujun completely give up the idea of reconciling with her husband.
It was also this incident that Dong Zhujun, who was suffering in his marriage, officially ran away from home.
She left her young son in her in-laws' house, took her 4 daughters who were not loved, and chose to work alone.
Women in that era were difficult to survive outside, not to mention that Dong Zhujun carried the mark of the Qinglou on his body.
But even if she didn't have a good life, she enjoyed true freedom and a truly dignified life.
She told herself that no matter how much her husband kept him, he would never return to the dignified feudal family.
Dong Zhujun's run away from home gave her husband Xia Shi a deep shock.
He went from the initial contempt to the later compromise... It took 5 years to let Dong Zhujun go home.
But at this time, Dong Zhujun was no longer the weak woman who was slaughtered.
She started a business, and despite repeated economic setbacks, she possessed wisdom and foresight that were difficult for ordinary women to match.
So 5 years after running away from home, the two formally went through divorce procedures.
When dividing the property, Xia Shi was extremely nervous, afraid that his wife would open his mouth widely, and he was even prepared for a lawsuit.
But what Xia Shi did not expect was that Dong Zhujun, who raised four daughters alone and had a difficult life, actually chose to leave the house.
Such a decision shocked both lawyers.
Others were puzzled, but Dong Zhujun said with great relief:
When I besieged the Qinglou, I did not redeem myself with a penny of his money; now that I am out of marriage, I do not care to take away a penny of the Xia family.
Such freedom and absoluteness made Xia Shi's lawyers deeply admire, and he couldn't help but say:
If compensation is not pursued, some claims can be made.
The lawyer's words completely made Xia Shi's heart rise to his throat.
Just when he was extremely nervous, Dong Zhujun made two requirements that were not required:
"I hope that as a father, I can communicate with my children more; if I have an accident in the future, please, as a father, bear the burden of your children to go to college." 」
At this point, everyone present admired Dong Zhujun's integrity and personality; even her once cruel and indifferent husband also pretended to repent.
But unlike the divorce agreement, Xia Shi, as a father, never gave any help to his children; even in order to force Dong Zhujun to turn back, he also used his influence to let the local government expel Dong Zhujun.
Unfortunately, the apathetics were helpless, and such a conspiracy did not succeed.
It is also the exposure of this dark side that makes Dong Zhujun, who works alone, even more fortunate: he finally got out of the sea of suffering.
【Words at the end】
After the divorce, Dong Zhujun came to Shanghai with 4 children.
In Shanghai Beach, where the hidden dragon crouched, she relied on her wisdom, talent and courage to found the Jinjiang Restaurant and jinjiang tea room; with the quality of the dishes and the excellent service, she eventually became one of the famous hotels in Shanghai Beach and became a place where celebrities gathered.
Even Jin Rong, Du Yuesheng and others who were in the limelight at that time often came here to invite guests to dinner.
A female stream, able to gain a foothold in the mixed Shanghai Beach, is definitely not something that ordinary people can do; such a Dong Zhujun has also become a legend in Shanghai Beach.
Throughout her life, it is a process from confession to disobedience.
When she escaped from the Qinglou and traveled to Japan with her husband, she was only 15 years old; in the most desperate moments of life, when he was 12 years old, xia Shi, an extraordinary revolutionary, was a good person she wanted to commit to for a lifetime.
How the world has changed, people's hearts are not ancient, from meeting white heads to tyrannical murder, but more than a dozen spring and autumn.
In this torturous marriage, she has endured and pleased, and has tried to use her grievances to complete and let go of her wandering fate; helpless efforts and maintenance, in exchange for the despair of the scales.
In "The Doll's House", what kind of fate Nala will face after leaving, we don't know;
But as a Chinese version of Nala, Dong Zhujun used her life to awaken Chinese women who were suffering in fate; she was The first generation of Chinese feminists, and she was the leader of countless old-fashioned women looking for a way out of fate.
She once lived in the abyss of despair, and finally lived her own light.
Finally, I would like to share this sentence of Dong Zhujun with you:
"Don't change your beliefs because of doubt, don't change your original intentions because of misinterpretations, don't slow down because of age!"
What is the fate of the storm, and what is the obscure road ahead? If there is determination and hope in the heart, even the darkest valley will usher in the dawn.
What gifts and good fortune? In this life, a person is ultimately self-fulfilling.
I would like to dedicate this article to all those who struggle with life!
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