Recently, Li Yapeng's daughter Li Yan posted a cool photo of the beach on the social platform, and there was an uproar.
There are those who praise her self-confidence and personality, saying that she is worthy of being "Faye Wong's daughter" and maverick;
There are even dress bloggers who analyze several of her bikini outfits and collocations, where they are beautiful, where there are highlights, and so on.
To be honest, just a few pieces of cloth, how fashionable can it be?
Maybe I and other non-fashion people really can't appreciate it, but as an ordinary person, seeing a fifteen-year-old minor, dressed like this in public, and taking a photo of the convex shape, I still feel strange in my heart, and I can't help but think: Is this appropriate?
Maybe I'm more pedantic and more traditional.
I really can't appreciate it, and I can't praise it.
On the contrary, there was a faint feeling of sympathy for this poor child. (It could also be that I am self-inflicted)
Putting aside personality and fashion, combined with another sensational news in the entertainment circle recently: Li Yapeng and Haiha Jinxi got married and had children, people can't help but think: Is Li Yan's release of such a photo at this time related to her father's remarriage?
The little girl is dressed too revealingly, is it stimulated by this incident?
Will the incompleteness and confusion of the original family cast a shadow on their minds and lead to some extreme behavior?
As a tool to rebel against the original family and express dissatisfaction with adults?
If so, would such an approach be desirable?
After many years, when you grow up and look back on this period of time, will you regret it?
This reminds me of another child with a special identity in the entertainment industry: "Little Dragon Girl" Wu Zhuolin.
"Jackie Chan's illegitimate daughter" is a label that cannot be torn off on her body.
Before birth, it has attracted much attention, after birth, the father is not painful, the mother does not love, the police accuse the mother Wu Qili of domestic violence, running away from home, and publicly coming out, which is lamentable.
As an innocent child, the suffering and suffering brought to her by irresponsible parents is sympathetic.
But is it really worth it to be willing to fall and abandon yourself at the expense of your own growth, talent, and instrumentation?
We can't decide where we come from, and a lot of times we can't change our parents and environment.
But that shouldn't be an excuse for us to sink into the mud.
Gorky's "Childhood" can be said to be a true portrayal of himself, and the protagonist of the book, Alyosha, is the epitome of the author himself.
Alyosha had a tragic childhood, when her father died unexpectedly when she was three years old, and her mother was unable to raise him alone, sending him to her grandparents' house.
Life under the fence is not good, the grumpy grandfather, the selfish uncle, let the family be filled with violence, threats and insults.
In the days full of depression, Alyosha still relied on strong faith to try to find her own star in the dark and sad night sky.
This is very similar to the childhood experience of Gorgult.
When his parents died when he was three years old, the lonely little Gorky lived in his grandfather's house in the dyeing workshop, which later went bankrupt, making the already embarrassing family even worse.
Gorky wandered the streets, but the ruin and unbearable life did not crush him, although he had only attended school for a few years, he still maintained the love of reading, and this bright light in his heart was never extinguished by the blow of fate.
On the contrary, this spark of stars, like the spark of hope, under the guidance of Gorky's dream of going far away, burned more and more vigorously, and finally achieved a dazzling pearl in the history of human literature.
Psychotherapist Satya said:
"Not every trauma is a disaster unless you allow it to happen."
It can be said that the original family is our root, but that is not necessarily our destiny.
It depends on how we choose:
It is the choice to walk with wounds, stubbornly not accepting healing and redemption;
Still in the mud, but with a bright heart, even if stumbling, he did not give up lightly, and finally turned against the wind.
Writer Liao Yimei once said:
"Man should have the strength to pull himself out of the mud by pulling his hair."
May every child who is not so lucky in the fate of the card still be able to love himself well, go all out, and play the king bomb all his life.