As a saying that "the sky is going to rain, the mother is going to get married", it tells the story of the "mother" remarrying. Remarriage and remarriage as a thing, although it is common in modern times, but in ancient times, for women at that time, it was a big thing.
Although this saying is catchy, it is widely spread in the folk. But if you think about it, why does the mother have to marry when it rains? As a person with children, why should "mother" marry again? If you want to get married, why is it on an uncertain rainy day? What kind of story is behind the two short sentences that have no logical relationship, and then let the editor tell you the answer.
Yaozu returned home, but it made his mother cry
Legend has it that in ancient times, there was a literati Zhu Yaozong who studied hard in the cold window, who worked hard to read and write, hoping that one day he could get a meritorious name and return to his hometown. Talented and intelligent, he did not live up to expectations and win the championship in one fell swoop.
Then the emperor summoned him, and when he saw that his Yushu was facing the wind, he recruited him as a donkey. After Zhu Yaozong won such a high position, when he remembered his toiling mother, he went to the emperor to play and asked for a chastity arch for his mother. When the emperor heard about it, he approved it.
Zhu Yaozong rushed to his hometown with happy events, but when Zhu Yaozong mentioned that he wanted to erect a chastity arch for his mother, his mother suddenly changed her look, and then she began to cry loudly, sighing, "Son, you don't know how painful it is to be a widow, it is difficult to send you to a high position, and I want to find an old partner to spend the rest of my life with in the second half of my life." ”
It turned out that the mother, who had been widowed for half a lifetime, was lonely in her heart, needed someone to accompany her, and did not want to stand up the chastity arch to bind herself. Moreover, the mother already had someone to love, that is, Zhang Wenju, a talent who had come to teach Zhu Yaozong at home since childhood.
Who would have thought that Zhu Yaozong, who was originally a well-intentioned act, spoiled his mother's life events, and when he learned about this, he was like a thunderbolt on a sunny day. At the time when the mother and son were in a dilemma, Mother Zhu picked up the clothes next to the bed and asked her son to wash and put them in the courtyard, if within one day and one night, the clothes were dried, she gave up marriage and set up this chastity archway, if not, she refused the emperor's will and married Xiucai.
Looking out the window, the sun was shining brightly, and Zhu Yaozong agreed. However, when he put his clothes in the courtyard, the weather suddenly changed, and suddenly it began to rain heavily, and his clothes were dripping with rain. Subsequently, his mother remarried to Xiucai's family, and Zhu Yaozong also returned to Beijing to report the matter to Shengshang. I thought that the Saint Would be furious, but the Emperor instead said that his mother and Xiu were a match made in heaven, and the Mandate of Heaven could not be violated.
In this way, Zhu Yaozong continued to take up the post of Horse Master and began his own official path, and his mother also cultivated a good relationship with his mentor. For the mother and son duo, it was a dilemma, but it was cleverly resolved.
Go with the flow, don't force it
The story of Zhu Yaozong's mother and son spread in the folk as an interesting story, used as a metaphor for naturally occurring, inevitable things. In fact, this is a simple truth, that is, "go with nature, don't force it".
Lao Tzu once said in the Tao Te Ching that "The Tao Fa is natural", nature is the law between all things, and all things, including people, are acting according to the law and following their own life trajectory. As human beings, the best way to treat us is to "go with the flow".
Many people think that Lao Tzu's thought is a kind of inaction and laissez-faire attitude toward nature, but in fact, he pays attention to a realm of harmony and unity between man and nature.
Lao Tzu stressed to the world not to impose too much will on existing laws, which is not only useless, but may even be harmful to people. Just like Mother Zhu finally rejected her son's imposed intentions, if she accepted, then she was likely to spend the rest of her life in pain.
brief summary
In fact, the saying "the sky is going to rain, the mother is going to marry" tells us to respect the will, go with nature, and when a person sincerely wants to do something beneficial to himself, then this thing is doomed to happen. Zhu Yaozong devoted himself to learning, and finally became a donkey with a good future, and his mother wanted to pursue love and eventually spend the rest of his life with the person he loved.
In life, there may be many difficulties and bumps in the pursuit of happiness, but we must also act sincerely, so that things can win the turnaround and achieve the ultimate goal.
A person, only sincerely, can complete their dreams, false sincerity will only harm others and harm themselves in the end; a family, only by treating each other sincerely, can the family be harmonious, the family and everything prosperous. In society, more sincerity and less deception can harvest unexpected surprises.