"Firefly's Courage ———— I Became a Psychologist in Pediatric Intensive Care" is a transcript of female psychologists' pediatric intensive illness for more than 20 years. The book records her conversations with the children in the most faithful way.
The author writes in the afterword: "My goal is not to create an idealized image of a psychologist, on the contrary, I want to show that we can relate to our own shortcomings and limitations in our work... And humanity! ”
This book was shortlisted for Tencent's Good Books Nonfiction List in March.
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Before meeting Manon's brother Hule and his little neighbor Axel—Axel was only twenty months old, and he was in the bathtub when Manon died—I spent some time looking inside and mentally building myself. I know how heavy something awaits me, and I'm preparing to face it... When I felt ready—not at all ahead—I went to meet the two kids.
I met Axel first. As soon as I entered the waiting room, I saw him. The blonde boy was playing with a toy fire truck. As soon as his parents saw me, they told him to put down the toy and say hello to me. Before greeting the Guxels, I crouched down and looked at Axel: "Hello, are you Axel?" ”
Axel nodded.
"I am Muriel. When I get to my office later, I'll tell you who I am and why we're meeting today. Come, tell me first, who did you come with? ”
He showed me his doll.
"What else?"
"Mom and Dad."
"Ah, yes! I think so too! ”
I got up and said hello to his parents and explained to them how today's meeting would go.
"I'll explain the situation to him again with the Mobi World Game. Most importantly, in what I'm going to say next, if you two feel from the bottom of your heart that even the slightest bit is incorrect, believe in yourself, interrupt me immediately, and express your opinion. ”
Arriving at the office, Axel climbed into the chair that lay between his parents and sat down. He seemed so small in this adult chair, and the tragedy that his small body was about to face was so heavy.
"Oh, Axel, you see, I'm wearing a white coat. Kind of like a doctor, but I'm not a doctor who treats the body. The children said I was the 'troublesome doctor'.
When something difficult or even terrible happens – as it is happening to you now – I am here to help the children understand what they are going through and find ways to experience it. Before we get started, I wonder if you'd like to come with me to the waiting room and pick up the fire truck you just played with. Axel heard this and immediately got out of his chair.
He wanted to run, so we raced together to the waiting room. Now there were only two of us here, and I began to explain to him what death meant. Back at the office, Axel looked as usual, unable to see the weight of the conversation. I took out the Mobi World game and sat on the ground with him.
"You see, Axel, there are a lot of dolls here. You choose a mom, representing the moms of Hule and Manon. Axel found a blonde female doll because I don't have a "mom" with long reddish brown hair, so be it!
"Now, you're looking for three little friends, two boys, and a girl, okay?" He chose two boys, with all-blonde and all-black hair, and a blonde girl (like Hule's sister). I took out several doctors, set them aside, and at the same time secretly hid a very special doll in my pocket, which I would use later.
"Well, Axel, now that we've picked out all the characters, I'll tell you what I understand and what happened to you. Remember, you can also move them and tell me what you went through. ”
Axel went to get his doll and sat down again. I started talking about what happened before the tragedy, when three children were playing in the bathtub.
"What are they playing?"
Axel swung the villains, imitating the way they wanted to splash water on each other. After a while, he picked up "Mommy" and took her out of the bathroom. Then, suddenly, he laid the little girl flat in the bathtub.
"Mom... Mom! He shouted. He was imitating Hule's shouts.
"Yes, Axel, when Hule saw that Manon was different from usual, he called out to his mother loudly. Maybe you too, you're scared, maybe scared to cry. Such a response is good! You know, it wasn't the water you threw at Manon that hurt her. It is not your responsibility at all that this happens. ”
Axel's eyes were wet and he picked up the doll again. When he heard that he had no responsibility, he played again. He took "Mama" back and placed Aloise mouth-to-mouth on Manon.
"Yes, when Manon's mum saw her daughter floating on the water, she was terrified. She tried to get Manon to breathe, which is why she put her mouth on her daughter's mouth and gave her breath. She really did all the things that should have been done, in order to save her daughter... But, on that day, we don't know what the reason is, and something rare happened: Manon's heart stopped beating. Axel's eyes filled with tears. He climbed onto his mother's knees and curled up in her arms.
For the next few minutes, I didn't say a word. First of all, I don't know what to say, and secondly, I feel that in such a conversation, it is necessary to let silence take its rightful place. Always let the child decide the rhythm of the conversation.
Suddenly, Axel got out of his mother's lap and took the fire truck, and his shouts broke the silence: "Tick-tock-to-toe--tick-to-do-o-o-o
I put the characters back together, simulated first aid scenes, hanging needles and infusions and so on. I then put Manon on a stretcher and sent her to a fire truck. The size of this fire truck is really not suitable, but Axel is very happy to be able to control it personally!
Then the little boy stood up and rummaged through the bag containing the Mobi World Doll and pulled out a female character. I didn't understand what he was trying to tell me: "Wait, Axel, it's not over yet, I hope we're done with the story." Don't, don't take the other characters first, we haven't started playing another game yet, and it's not over yet. ”
I held out my hand to him, trying to get past the character in his hand, but instead of letting go, I went straight to the other side of the house and sat down. He placed the female character next to the bathtub and put the little man representing himself in her arms.
"Oh! You remember that right! We forgot about the neighbor you don't know, sorry. I think you should have spent a long time with her. You may even feel that something very serious has happened, but no one cares to explain it to you seriously. You must have been frightened too! ”
A line of tears slowly slid down Axel's cheeks, barely visible. He clutched his doll.
"How uncomfortable you were at that time, alone and alone. The neighbor aunt must have been a very kind person, but I think that at that time, for you, you should need your mother's arms the most. I have to explain to you... When such a terrible thing happens, adults will be different from usual because they are too scared and too bad. Everyone panicked, so everyone didn't expect you, didn't expect to tell your mother. ”
Mrs. Guxel took her son in her arms. Mr. Guxel put one hand on his son's head and the other on his wife's shoulder. Five minutes passed. Mrs. Gouxel thanked me.
"No, wait, it's not over yet. Axel, can we go on? ”
"Okay." Axel answered quickly.
He jumped off his mother's knee and sat on the ground next to me.
"Do you want to hear what happened after I told you?"
"Hmm."
"As soon as Manon arrived here, the hospital, all the doctors tried to save her life..."
I put Manon in the ward of the Mobi World Hospital, where all the doctors stood around her, with various instruments and medical equipment on the side.
"Unfortunately, despite everyone's best efforts, Manon passed away."
I took from my pocket the doll that I had just put away alone and used it to represent the dead Manon. This character is very different. Usually, it is sold with a plastic shell, and putting it in a plastic shell becomes a ghost. Its peculiar pale face gave me the idea of using it to represent the dead. I was able to explain in detail to Axel what death meant.
When he left my office, Axel was excited. He was playing with the fire truck, and his mouth kept making "boom-boom-boom" and "tick-click- Those who saw him at this time would certainly not be able to guess what he had just experienced.
"The Courage of Fireflies - I Work as a Psychologist in Pediatric Critical Care"
By Muriel De Roman
[French] Astelli ElIal wrote
Translated by Liu Shuyi
Shanghai Literature and Art Publishing House
Female psychologist pediatric intensive illness for more than 20 years of personal experience, French Amazon 4.9 high score good book. Touching clinical cases, for the life of life shining in the face of adversity to save the light. As a French clinical psychologist and forensic evaluator of child psychology, the author Murière de Roma has more than 20 years of experience in receiving seriously ill, disabled, paralyzed, seriously injured children and their families in pediatric intensive care units, which convinces her that only by accepting the truth and telling the truth can the mind be free.
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