Many parents report that after the baby is almost 2 years old, he suddenly becomes no longer obedient to the command.
The most obvious change is that "don't" has become the baby's mantra, often rebelling against the arrangements of adults.
And when you don't meet your wishes or if your requirements aren't met, you cry.
When all of the above signs appear, it means that your baby has entered what psychologists call the "first resistance period".
In the first period of resistance, the baby loves to say "no" very much, always working against the parents?
Why is your baby so resistant? What should Mom and Dad do?
Listen to what your child thinks, and believe that parents have the answer.
"I want to do this right away, I can't wait for a moment!"
Babies are around 2 years old and are experiencing a lot of emotional, physical and psychological changes.
These changes can make your baby feel confused, excited, sensitive, upset, and even frightened.
Because the baby's thinking ability is limited and he cannot predict the future, he wants to do everything immediately and has not yet established a concept of time.
In addition, the baby's self-control ability is still relatively weak, and he only wants to meet the impulses and needs of the heart immediately.
"I have my own ideas too!"
How can a baby be so young, how can he have so many ideas? Still so rebellious?
In the eyes of many parents, the 2-year-old baby is so big, what will she think, and she will not listen to this and that.
In fact, the baby enters the first stage of resistance, which also has a positive side, because this is the embodiment of the development of his self-awareness.
Babies begin to realize that their own ideas seem to be different from others, and they can control things about themselves, so they want to show their independence by resisting.
When your baby acts according to his own wishes and ideas, he gains confidence and a sense of control.
For example, if his parents ask him to look at a picture book, and he wants to play with the toy next to him, the toy makes him happier, so he will not pay attention to your proposal.
At this time, parents can appropriately give their children more choices, and at the same time observe more and guide more.
"I found that crying is very useful!"
When the baby resists or cries, how does the average parent deal with it?
Many parents, especially grandparents, will definitely follow the baby's ideas and be eager to pluck the stars from the sky.
In doing so, you are reinforcing your baby's resistance. Because he felt that as long as he cried, he could realize his ideas.
For example, when the baby does not want to sit in the car seat, he wants his mother to hold it.
After the mother persuaded, the baby cried even harder, and finally the mother had no choice but to compromise.
At this time, the baby found that as long as he cried, adults would listen to him, and from then on, he would continue to meet his own needs through crying.
Of course, this is not to say that the child is allowed to cry, ignore him, which will also make the child, especially the little girl, grow up to be insecure.
It should be moderate, and it should be reasonable with the child, at this time the child can vaguely understand a little reason.
"I can't say what I think!"
Babies around the age of 2 are already very rich in their inner world.
He will have what he wants, he will be happy, he will be angry, he will be shy.
However, due to the limited language expression ability, some children speak late, some words can not be expressed, it is difficult for others to understand what they think and need, and it is shown that they lose their temper and are stubborn.
At this time, parents should ask more questions and guide their children, specifically what they need and what they are thinking.
"I'm a little scared!"
Some babies, in a new environment or when they meet unfamiliar people, will show strong anxiety and take a long time to adapt to new things, so he may be very clingy to the mother.
But sometimes, Mom needs to do something else, to leave for a while.
But the baby must be held by the mother, not let the father hold, and the resistance will arise from this.
At this time, parents must understand the baby's fear and lack of security, so that they will not think that the baby is unreasonable, or too sticky to the mother.
After reading the baby's voice, you can roughly understand that in fact, the baby's resistance or rebellion is mainly caused by three reasons:
First, self-awareness sprouts
At this time, the baby's self-awareness has sprouted and he has begun to have his own opinions, but his self-control ability is still weak, so he often shows stubbornness.
Second, the ability to express is not strong
The average baby is around 2 years old, language comprehension ability will develop rapidly, but the expression ability is not yet perfect, many words are not yet, and they are still modeling and learning.
Inner needs and thoughts are often not quickly understood by parents, so there will be a temper tantrum.
Third, there is no expectation for the future
At this stage, the baby has learned to observe the color, will observe the surrounding environment and the people around him, and even try to understand the minds of adults.
However, because the baby is too small, the logical thinking is still limited, do not know what will happen next, there is no expectation and prediction for the future, so it will show anxiety and resistance.
Knowing these reasons, do you already have the answer in mind about how to deal with your baby in the rebellious period?
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