Whose youth is not confused
If one day you will not be withered, I have only a simple wish to keep the peace of the first bloom.
- Kitajima", "Five Colored Flowers"
Many people forget the purpose of walking when they walk, and once you fell into the abyss of confusion. You start to wonder what you're really here for in college, what you've learned by going to so many clubs other than making a mess of your life, and on the surface you have a lot of friends, but there are a few people who really know you and know what you want.
After coming to college, I was disappointed or disappointed. Suddenly, we found that there was a world of difference between the university and the university we imagined. In the past, the university you envisioned was new and beautiful, and later, you found that growing up in hardware and software conditions were not as good as higher jobs, dilapidated and backward; before, you felt that I should try to study well after I came to college and get scholarships, and later, you found that when we did not go to class, we all hid in the dormitory, sleeping and playing mobile phones; before, you always thought that after coming to college, you should report more clubs to improve your ability, and later, you found that we only played the role of "playing soy sauce" in many clubs; before, You think that the friendship that has lasted for a long time, after going to college, is like a stranger...
What made us change our original intentions? What made us start to learn to pack ourselves and pretend to be strong? What makes us stop trying, complain endlessly, and make excuses for our laziness?
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As freshmen, when we first came to college, we felt new about everything, and felt that we had studied hard for decades to finally achieve our parents' wishes, get rid of the shackles of our parents away from other places, play freely, and live more comfortably!
Most people think so, so confused, confused. While we want to work hard, we constantly find excuses for ourselves and shift the responsibility to others. We have been saying that the teacher's class level is not good enough, not as good as the teaching level of the high school teacher; we have been thinking, learning is so tired, the topic is so difficult, I can't understand, I can't do it. We have been looking for excuses for our own depravity, copying homework, skipping classes, cheating, when we have changed from the arrogance of the teacher to the scum of the school, and even we look down on ourselves.
We also want to study hard and find a good job in the future. However, most people will make up their minds and make plans, but then they will not put them into action, thinking about how hard I will work, making up one after another "plans can't catch up with the changes", "I just want to complete the tasks assigned to me by others", and so on. You must know that there is no free lunch in the world, if you do not work hard now, life will one day be all returned to you.
As students, we all want to study well, study credits, evaluate excellence, and get scholarships, and seem to be racking our brains every day to think about how to make ourselves more excellent, so we also try to join some clubs to comprehensively improve our comprehensive quality. Remember, I'm talking about overall quality. However, what I want to ask is, which aspect of ability does comprehensive quality refer to specifically?
Whenever someone asks, I wonder, are you thinking like me for half a day, reluctantly answering the question of leadership ability, speech and eloquence ability, self-control, etc., very abstract to answer, but never really understand what "comprehensive quality" means? We just go to various clubs under the banner of "I want to improve my comprehensive quality", hoping that the clubs can give us what we don't have, but what can we learn without paying for the fear of hard work and complaining?
Growing up do have a lot of clubs, most people see these clubs, will look forward to the yearning for the future, eyes will be red, I like this, I like that, too many choices, too much temptation, we linger in it to choose. In the end, I found that I liked to choose, and I reported all the brains, and suddenly, I felt what a great character I was, feeling good about myself, and full of hope for the future.
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A month later, I would like to ask, how many clubs have you insisted on participating in club activities, getting along well with the people in the club, being proactive, and really loving the club instead of playing the role of "playing soy sauce"?
One? Two? Three? Still is......
Most people are thinking, I didn't learn anything in the community, and the time to study and work was always in conflict, I was confused, confused, what was I doing?
Gradually, under the influence of this emotion, we begin to be very confused about the present, very panicked about the future, and do not know where to go. We have also tried to communicate with our friends around us, trying to find answers from them, but when you look up, most people on the street are playing with their mobile phones, and chatting with friends about recent gossip, clothes, handsome seniors, cute girls, etc., you know that they are just as confused as you. Perhaps, your luck is very good, finally found the ideal person to talk, they are very serious when they listen, they really care about us, but when we finish speaking, they give not support and understanding, they think that we are whimsical, and trying to persuade our society is very cruel, why do you a girl make yourself so tired, you just need to go to college for four years, find a good family to marry and have children after graduation, live a plain life...
After he finished, you laughed. You don't want to argue anything, everyone has everyone's ideas, everyone's choices are different. For many years in life, you just want to take your own path. You like a plain life, but it does not mean that you are willing to live a lifetime of mediocrity. Even if what you do is not understood by others, as long as you think it is right and think that doing so can achieve you, then take action, stick to the end, and prove to yourself and others that you can do it!
Suddenly I thought of a sentence said by Liu Tong: "You feel lonely is right, that is an opportunity for you to know yourself." You feel right not to be understood, that's an opportunity for you to recognize your friends. You feel the darkness so that you can tell what your light is. You feel helpless, so that you can understand who can help you grow up. You feel confused, whose youth is not confused. "In the blink of an eye, we have been in the university for more than two months, no matter how dissatisfied we were with the school when we first entered the school, how bad it was, after all, we still have to live here for four years, no matter what the environment is, we have to learn to adapt." Maybe we can't change the environment around us, but we can change our state of mind, the mind is born from the state of mind, calm down to really feel all this, and you will find that life is not as bad as you think.
Perhaps, occasionally you will feel very tired, running around in the community and study every day, often busy until late at night to sleep, watching your roommates sleep soundly and snoring slightly enviously, but you didn't say anything, just rubbed your sore eyes and wrapped the quilt tightly, thinking in your heart that everything I did was worth it for the people I loved and the people I loved!
Because I have faith, I have been reluctant to give up. Maybe your efforts continue to be incomprehensible, maybe the path of dreams is destined to be lonely, but so what, even if you are wounded, you must live beautifully!
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