Most girls, for menstruation is suffering from loss, both do not want it to come, but also afraid of it disappeared.
But there is also a group of girls who have only a pure desire for menstruation.
"I am a stone girl, a monster in the eyes of the world"
Xiao Lan (pseudonym) is 27 years old this year, with a pair of large water spirit eyes, two curved willow eyebrows, and like many gentle and gentle southern girls.
But in Xiao Lan's heart, there is a different secret.
In the first year of junior high school, Xiaolan, like many female classmates around her, her breasts began to develop, and her voice gradually became sharp, the only difference was that she did not menstruate.
At first, she thought she was just developing slowly and didn't pay much attention.
Gradually, when the friends around him ushered in the "coming-of-age ceremony" one by one, Xiaolan was a little anxious.
She told her mother about the situation.
However, because Xiaolan's mother is an ordinary rural woman, the level of education is not high, and she herself comes to menstruate late, she feels that Xiaolan may just have insufficient nutritional levels, or genetics lead to late menstruation, and slowly wait.
In this way, when everyone is discussing painful menstruation and dirty pants, Xiaolan can only smile awkwardly.
When a girl asked her, "XiaoLan, why don't you seem to have seen you use a sanitary napkin?" "She can only blush.
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Until Xiaolan was 17 years old, she had not yet come to menstruation, at this time, the family was a little anxious.
After consulting with Xiaolan's sister-in-law, Xiaolan's mother led Xiaolan to the hospital in the county to see a doctor, and later transferred to the big hospital in the city.
After various examinations, the doctor told Xiaolan that she was "congenitally missing the uterus, fallopian tubes, and upper part of the vagina", commonly known as "stone woman". In addition to not being able to menstruate, Xiaolan is likely to be unable to live a married life and have children in the future.
Hearing this verdict, Xiao Lan suddenly felt like falling into the abyss, "I am different from everyone, I am like a man."
Xiaolan's parents did not want to believe it and went to another hospital, but the result remained unchanged.
After leaving the hospital, Xiaolan's mother cried, she kept thinking about what she did wrong when she was pregnant, and blamed herself for not finding out earlier, Xiaolan hugged her mother.
Subsequently, Xiaolan became more and more silent, she did not dare to tell her friends this secret, and because she was afraid of being discovered, she did not want to continue to live in the dormitory.
Later, although the school was farther away, she insisted on taking the bus home every day.
"Grow up happy like a normal girl,
In the tail of adolescence,
But suddenly found out that she was not a girl. ”
After graduation, Xiaolan did a variety of jobs.
She also met boys she admired, but never dared to develop.
"I'm afraid it's a dream.
I can't have children,
It should be hard for boys to accept me. ”
Instead, she blinked and laughed again, "However, having this disease is not without any benefit, I can work hard!" Because it's important to me. ”
After working and seeing a doctor in the city, Xiaolan also made some friends in a similar situation, and everyone would often discuss some things that could not be discussed with their families, and they would also encourage each other.
Some patients are in better condition, but they are missing a vagina or only a uterus.
Some patients will communicate what it is like for normal girls to menstruate, so that other girls will not show their stuffing in front of classmates, colleagues and boyfriends.
Some patients love to run for 4 years, and their boyfriends like each other, but when it comes to meeting their parents, they still have to separate.
Although some patients are married and adopt children, the man's family believes that accepting her is already a great tolerance and bullying her everywhere.
Some patients have experienced setbacks, worked to save money, hoped to do surgery, and "dug" an artificial cavity close to the vagina in the body.
Xiaolan herself has checked the information, also asked the doctor, asked the patients, the type, difficulty and effect of the operation are different.
Xiao Lan was very hesitant, "After suffering this crime, can I be like an ordinary girl?" Or can this pain only be exchanged for a short-lived lover? ”
No one can tell Xiaolan the answer, just like every stone girl needs to bump into herself in the dark, get out of her own maze, and live as a real ordinary girl.
postscript
Stone women usually refer to women who have no menstruation, have difficulty having sex, and become pregnant because they are congenitally without a vagina or a uterus. But the ovaries develop normally, with periodic ovulation and normal estrogen-progesterone secretion.
Most stone girls are found after puberty and do not menstruate, or during puberty because menstruation does not flow out, there is a periodic severe stomach pain to the hospital for examination.
According to the different structures, stone women can be divided into "real stone women" and "false stone women".
"True stone woman" is the uterus, vagina, fallopian tube hypoplasia / deformity, or no uterus, vagina; "false stone woman" refers to the hymen atresia, hypertrophy, or by the vaginal septum, etc. blocked by the vagina, but the vagina, uterus has formed a complete organ.
"False stone women" usually return to normal after surgery to cut the hymen or vaginal septum.
For the treatment of "true stone women", it is necessary to operate according to the situation, using artificial vaginal implants such as skin flaps, amniotic membranes, peritoneum, and ileum in the thighs and groin.
The stone girl is not the fault of the girl, nor is it a family inheritance, but during pregnancy, due to the influence of environmental factors and other factors, when the fetus develops to a certain stage, there is a temporary stagnation.
In addition to being infertile, they are like all good ordinary girls, a real woman, who should not be inferior to anyone, and who also deserve the warmth and beauty of the world.
Hopefully, one day, the stone girl will no longer be seen as a "monster", "wrong" and "special", and will no longer have to be afraid and the other half will behave as real me, just like all ordinary girls.
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