Life is inherently an art in a broad sense. The history of each person's life is his own work. ——Zhu Guangqian
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Early this morning, colleague Xiao Wang hurriedly ran out of the office, only to see her wearing a shawl, still barefoot, and still chanting words in her mouth: "Alas, today is really water reversed, water reversed." ”
Xiao Wang spread his ass on the chair and couldn't help but pour bitter water at us.
It turned out that she went out beautifully early in the morning, but unexpectedly encountered rain halfway, and did not bring an umbrella, all the way trotting, a foot, the heel is broken, it is difficult to find a shared motorcycle, a ride is actually out of power, it seems that today is really "not easy to go out", the water is no different.
My father had a mantra that could be called, and that was "It's all destiny." "When the family is old and young, when something happens, if it is a good thing or a happy event, it comes down to "good fate"; if it encounters some bad things, it is said that it is "bad fate" and it is a mistake.
There is an attribution theory in psychology that Fritz Heider proposed in his book The Psychology of Interpersonal Relationships from the perspective of Popular Psychology.
Attribution theory addresses how people in everyday life find out the cause of an event.
Hyde believes that there are no more than two causes of events: one is internal causes, such as emotions, attitudes, personality, abilities, etc.; the other is external factors, such as external pressures, weather, situations, etc.
Hyde argues that the average person tends to attribute personality when explaining the actions of others; when explaining their own behavior, they tend to attribute situations.
Attribution theory explains very well why we always blame fate, weather, others, and other external causes for unfavorable events we encounter, but rarely find reasons from ourselves.
Because of this, people often feel wronged, like my colleague Xiao Wang: I am obviously so beautiful, why did I let me fall so far?
But, on the other hand, the world is so big, why should it give you special preferential treatment?
The author of "Those Things of the Ming Dynasty", "That Year Mingyue" (real name Shi Yue), said when participating in the CCTV "Face to Face" interview: Only knowledge and wisdom, strong heart, know a lot about the world, fully understand the world, you will not be wronged.
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The essence of society is the law of the jungle, don't blame the injustice of the world
The main feature of the law of the jungle is that the weak eat the strong. To better understand this characteristic, you can see it by looking at the animal world.
Large carnivores at the top of the food chain, such as lions, are natural kings, and have a lot of time to rest and recuperate, and it is enough to hunt once a day or a few days, and it is strong enough that other animals have to flee everywhere when they see it.
Look at herbivores, in order to accumulate energy, they have to eat non-stop every day, and some even-ungulates are still ruminating at night. However, once you encounter a carnivore, whether they are of comparable size or not, you have to run and escape for your life.
The competition of human society also applies the law of the jungle in essence, but it is more social than the animal world, for example, on the basis of the weak and the strong, it reflects the social nature of mutual benefit and the sense of responsibility.
The so-called social class is similar to the food chain of the animal world.
When you feel that the world is unfair, you may wish to look at your position and establish the target position you want to reach.
In this process, put away the complaints, because complaining is useless, all you have to do is to make yourself stronger, either material advantages or spiritual advantages.
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Seeing the truth of the matter, we understand the outcome of the matter.
Years ago, I did something that disgusted myself. However, it made my mentality a lot smoother.
As we all know, every unit is a key moment to see the performance and show the results, and the evaluation of excellent and advanced at the end of the year is not only related to the reputation, but also the thickness of the year-end bonus.
That day, I was working normally to report to the leader's office. I happened to meet Xiao Zhang, who also came to look for a leader. Xiao Zhang has been borrowed from a foreign unit for a long time, and he has not seen him come back several times a year, and he is rarely seen in the key work of his unit.
Seeing that he rarely returned to his unit, I was not in a hurry, so I let him lead the office first, and I waited outside.
After a while, he hurried out, said hello, and left.
I went into the leader's office to take a look, hey, isn't the briefcase at this desk just carried by Xiao Zhang's hand? Did he go too hastily and forget? Doesn't that affect his work there?
I didn't say a word, hurried to the door, while chasing while shouting: "Xiao Zhang, your bag!" Your bag! ”
Xiao Zhang stood still, looked at me with an embarrassed face, and handed me the bag, and it was not picked up, nor was it picked up.
Later, Xiao Zhang carried the bag to report to the leader once again, or "forgot" to carry the bag back.
Later, Xiao Zhang achieved outstanding results and was rated as the advanced individual of the year.
When I saw Xiao Zhang again, I was a bit self-conscious. I did not envy the honor he had achieved, but I knew the reason why I was not appreciated by the leader, confirmed the shortcuts I did not want to take, and learned to let go of the grievances in my heart.
When you think you're trying, you have to believe that others are working the same way, but in a different direction.
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We have all heard Romain Rolland say that there is only one true heroism in the world, that is, after seeing the truth of life, we still love life.
Yu Qiuyu said in "Cultural Journey": Maturity is a bright but not dazzling brilliance, a round but not greasy sound, a calmness that no longer needs to observe the color of others, an atmosphere that finally stops making pleas to the surroundings, a smile that ignores the cajoling, a kind of indifference that washes away the extremes, a thickness that does not need to be made, a height that is not steep!
In this world, nothing is truly fair, and all fairness is relative.
Some people are born in Rome, and some people can't get to Rome after a lifetime.
May each of us on the way to Rome truly understand the world, deeply love the world, and be a mature person!
Author: Yuyu Xinyuan, senior girl. The dream of a young literary and artistic woman: to perceive the world with words and embrace herself with warmth. Thanks for the attention, grateful for the encounter.
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