Today, let's talk about the second child.
In the past, young people wanted to have a second child, and they did not dare to give birth in order to comply with national policies, and a small number of people secretly gave birth at all costs. Today's young people don't want to have more children, and their parents ask to have a second child.
The niece has an eight-year-old daughter, and a few years ago, the eldest sister had the idea of letting the niece have a second child. Telephone chat said: the right time to have another one, do not care about boys and girls, old need to be taken care of, two children are always lighter than one child.
Parents are gone, there are still blood-related people in this world who care about each other, and there are people who can speak from the heart.
The niece didn't think so, and said to the eldest sister: Aren't you doing a good job now, and I don't feel lonely.
The eldest sister said: At that time, the policy was not allowed to have children, worried about losing jobs, and those who had conditions and relations secretly gave birth to two children. Looking at people, a child is working outside, a person working from home, can take care of their parents, parents can also enjoy the joy of the world. Look at our house, we can only see each other once or twice a year.
In the past few years in their family, as long as they do not mention the birth of a second child, the years are quiet. Mentioning the topic of children, the eldest sister and niece are unpleasant. Every time before returning home for the New Year, the two agreed in advance that no one was allowed to mention this matter and spend the New Year in peace and stability.
Only in the last few days of the holiday, the eldest sister still can't help but bring up this topic. The more the eldest sister urged, the stronger the niece's reaction. Everyone insists on their own point of view, and no one refuses to make concessions. Later, the niece had a strong rebellious psychology, oil and salt did not enter, who said who to intimidate, resolutely do not want the second oldest.
The niece doesn't want a second child, and she can't blame her entirely. Mother-in-law and mother-in-law have various reasons why they can't help her with their children, and her husband works in the IT industry, working more than ten hours a day, and there is no time to take care of the family. There was no way she could do it at home full-time, with her own big children. She grew up pampered, went to school and worked, and did not do any housework, and those years were also difficult for her.
Last spring, the eldest sister was not in good health and the medical conditions at home were limited, so she went to the city where her niece was located.
During the nearly twenty days that the eldest sister was hospitalized, the niece took a taxi from the hospital to the child's school every afternoon, picked up the child and then went home, bathed the child to make some simple meals, and locked the child at home to write homework. She took a taxi to the hospital to take care of her eldest sister's meal. Just like this, a person ran back and forth in the hospital, school, and home, and insisted until the eldest sister was discharged.
In the hospital, at night, when the eldest sister slept, my niece chatted with me, and she said that during this time, the child's study was not taken care of, and she also felt exhausted and almost unable to hold on.
I followed up with her words: Yes, it is really too hard for a person to take care of both a patient and a child, to run at both ends. Your mom has two kids and probably won't be as tired as she is today. Wait until you're old and sick. What you suffer today is what your daughter will bear in the future. You are now at home full-time, and you still feel exhausted and your physical strength is about to collapse. She has to care for her parents, her children, and her own work, and you think about it, it will be more tiring.
Also, your mother-in-law is this one son, the rural people still have the idea of passing on the generations, your mother-in-law must be uncomfortable in her heart, but she did not say it.
Now that you are almost the age of an older pregnant woman, it will be a little late to think about it in a few years, but now you can think clearly.
Her mother's hospitalization is also an opportunity, and when talking about it, there is no previous disgust.
About two months later, she sent me a message: Auntie, I figured it out and am ready to get pregnant.
I can also be regarded as responding to the call of the state and doing a good thing for the benefit of the country and the family.
Today's young people don't want to have more children, think about our generation, just in order to have a second child, squeeze the head of the way. Even if you have a second child after all the hardships, you may not have a good ending.
Talk about the experience of a friend who secretly gave birth to a second child, it is too sadistic.
The friend already had a seven- or eight-year-old son at the time, and she thought of having another daughter, and the whole family would be perfect. The husband worked in the field and a friend had family leave, and secretly gave birth to a child at a time difference.
In the early stages of pregnancy, morning sickness is serious, so I use the relationship to open a sick leave note, saying that it is stomach discomfort and resting at home. When I was six or seven months pregnant, the pregnant belly was already obvious, and I was worried about being discovered by others, so I thought of a very cruel method. What's the solution? It is to tear the cotton cloth into long strips, and then wrap it around the stomach in a circle, drink as little water as possible, and reduce the number of times you go to the toilet.
The fetus is getting bigger and bigger, and then the body is very uncomfortable to do so, and it is really uncomfortable to go to the bathroom loose strip. She thought that the hidden sky was not discovered, but in fact, everyone already knew.
She was almost eight months pregnant, and she really couldn't stand it, so she took family leave and secretly gave birth to a child in the countryside.
She was still a boy this time, and she did not dare to see anyone in her mother's house. Afraid of being reported, the door of the home does not dare to open, for fear of neighbors coming to visit the door. Only when the child is asleep, do you dare to take it out to bask in the sun to supplement calcium. After the child was one year old, he found that his development was not normal, he would not turn over or sit, he was paralyzed, and he went to the children's hospital with the child in his arms, and the final diagnosis was cerebral palsy.
The lover originally did not agree to have a second child, and this child was insisted on by the friend. After the diagnosis of cerebral palsy, her lover could not accept this fact, several times with a quilt towel covered the child's face, when the father's heart can not be soft under the fierce hand, it may also be the child's life, several times luckily survived.
The couple used to be very affectionate, and since the child was diagnosed with cerebral palsy, the two of them would often quarrel over it. The lover complained that she insisted on adding financial burden to the family and could not take care of the older children as carefully as before.
In fact, my mother did not expect such a result, just want a child, it is so simple.
When the child was three or four years old, I met it once. The long white, fat, quite handsome child, cleaned up by the mother, not to say that it is cerebral palsy, it is really impossible to see.
I heard that children live to be ten years old.
I don't know if the child's cerebral palsy has anything to do with the mother's practice.