Filial piety comes first, and filial piety between fathers and sons is a beautiful picture that many people look forward to.
A "Father" said that we love our parents and also felt a strong friendship, so Liu Hegang, who sang this song, in what state of mind did he sing this song?
01. The lover is the first love, and the two are like-minded
Liu He was born into an ordinary family, and his parents were farmers.
He was born with a good voice, had his own feelings for singing, had a loud voice, and developed his career because of singing.
In the hearts of parents, no matter how good his son's career is, he also hopes that his family will be happy.
When he was young, his focus was on his career, and at this age, he had not yet been in a relationship, which made his parents worry about bad.
At a performance, he met the war girl, the girl is gentle and quiet, he fell in love at first sight, it was a heart-pounding feeling!
Therefore, Liu Hegang, who has never been in love, took the initiative to pursue, as a fellow countryman, plus have the same interests and hobbies, they get along very well with each other.
Comrade Xiao Zhan also knows a little about him, he is the pride of the teacher, or his mother's favorite idol.
She also seemed to see his thoughts, but she did not dare to agree, because she did not know much about this man and the other person's life, so she was a little afraid and did not dare to deal with it head-on.
After spending some time together, Liu Hegang confessed to her and showed his intentions, Xiao Zhan was very conflicted in his heart, because the age difference between the two was 10 years, she was worried that there would be no results, so she shirked that she did not think clearly and took it slowly.
Xiao Liu said that he could understand her mood, so he still insisted, without the slightest idea of giving up.
Feelings are no way to disguise, in a long period of investigation, Xiao Zhan can see his sincerity, and he agreed to him, and the two entered into marriage.
02. Realize your dreams and don't forget to be filial to your parents
Every time Liu Hegang talked about his father, he was in tears.
He said that his father had been injured at work for his tuition and dreams, and in order to reduce medical expenses, he had ruthlessly sawed off the two flesh-and-blood fingers.
He has always remembered his father's efforts in his heart, and he has also integrated this emotion into "Father", and after his success, he did not forget his original intention and took his parents to his side to take care of him.
But the parents in the countryside are used to, slammed into the city, feel very uncomfortable, the body has problems, in order not to let them idle, but also rented a field for their parents to want to plant the land, the parents are also very happy.
After getting married, he knew that his wife could not rest assured of his parents, so he consulted with them and took over his father-in-law and mother-in-law to take care of him, and his parents gladly accepted.
But when they returned to their wife's mother's house and told the second elder about this matter, halfway through the conversation, the second elder politely refused, no matter what they said, Xiao Zhi was emotionally moved and reasoned, and it was still useless to the second elder.
Liu Hegang's mother saw her son's heart, as an elder, she had more experience, knew what the reason for the family's concern was, and took the initiative to dial the family's phone and told the family:
"We all have only one child, the child has a family, it is good not to forget to honor the elders, you are in your hometown, the children are not at ease, you come, we can do a lot of things together, so life is much more interesting." 」
These words touched the family, the other party thought about it, as if seeing a beautiful picture of the family's life, they agreed, just like this, opened the 421 structure of the family, there are many structural problems.
Behind the 03.421 structural family is the integration of high emotional intelligence
At first, the family got along quite happily, and whenever they came home and saw the smiles on their parents' faces, the harmonious and warm scenes at home, the tiredness of the day disappeared.
When there is free time, the family of seven goes to the park together, and the warm picture makes people envious, but with the change of time, the soil has become a mountain, and the contradiction has become more and more prominent.
Because the living environment and education level of the parents of both sides are different, they have different views on many things. But many times they did not explicitly say that after the birth of the child Liu Muxuan, the problem came.
Parents love their children, but they all have their own set of methods to bring their children, and no one wants to let them.
The mother feels that the child should wear more clothes, and the mother-in-law believes that wearing less will help the child to strengthen her resistance.
The mother wants her child to drink more breast milk, and the mother-in-law believes that eating milk powder and complementary foods can also balance the child's nutrition.
One day the child did not know why, suddenly coughed, as a grandmother she was also very anxious, patting the child's back, trying to ease up.
When the mother-in-law saw it, perhaps in a hurry, she blurted out: "If you can't pat your back, come, give me the child, just say you can't feed the child like this, but don't listen." ”
This sentence made Liu Hegang's mother feel very unhappy, she felt very wronged, so she replied with two sentences, thinking that the family looked down on herself and deliberately ridiculed her.
It was originally a trivial matter, but neither side let the other, and the communication and contact between the two relatives became less and less, and the atmosphere at home became more and more tense.
The stalemate of the relationship between the parents of the two sides makes them uncomfortable as children, and they are caught in the middle.
When he learned what had happened, he decided to help them resolve the conflict. Otherwise, if we continue to develop in this way, I am afraid that things will become more and more difficult to recover.
So Liu and Gang discussed countermeasures with their wives, chatted with each other's mothers, and did their ideological work, both mothers felt aggrieved, and they also clamored to go home, fortunately, they both loved their children, and under their persuasion, both mothers realized their mistakes.
In order to alleviate the contradiction, the family sat together in a meeting, all of them said their own thoughts, the two mothers also said their own thoughts, it turned out that the mother-in-law was just straight-talking, and had no other ideas.
Chatting and chatting, the bodies of the two parents were getting closer and closer, and the contradiction was completely over at this moment of shaking hands and making peace.
After going through this, they got along more and more comfortably and happily with each other.
Of course, this is indispensable to the credit of Liu Hegang and his wife, and the "getting along" of their parents is indeed worth learning.
The occurrence of this contradiction made Liu and Gang pay more attention to the relationship between the parents of the two parties, and talk to the parents of both sides about each other's different preferences and living habits, so that they could know each other better.
When they have free time, Liu Hegang and his wife will go home for dinner, and they will also take a large family to travel during the holidays to feel the beauty of life.
It is said that every family has a difficult scripture, but I believe that as long as you are good at management and work together, you will be happy and happy, because people's hearts are good, and love is the strength of unity.
What do you think about that? Use your beautiful fingers to leave your love and opinion behind.