In the TV series "The Years of Burning Passion", 36-year-old Shi Guangrong married 19-year-old Chu Qin, and the two had 3 children, namely the eldest son Shi Lin, the second daughter Shi Jing and the younger son Shi Hai.
Although Chu Qin and Shi Guangrong did not like him when they first got married, with the run-in of time, the two had a tacit understanding of each other. Many people say that Chu Qin's marriage to Shi Guangrong is her blessing. Shi Guangrong really loved her, and her cold heart was gradually warmed by his love.
However, many people do not know how painful it is for Chu Qin to marry Shi Guangrong, and how much the three children hate him. Shi Guangrong ignored her resistance and insisted on marrying her, ruining her life and ruining the future of her three children.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="4" >1. Shi Guangrong was the main promoter of the stone forest sacrifice. </h1>
Shi Hai wrote in the original work: After his father returned home, he could not get out of the illusory war. The noise of the three children made him so annoyed that when the children cried, they all died. Our father roared at us and spanked us indiscriminately, and our mother wept with pain, but she couldn't stop her father.
After the father left the house again, the three children collectively went to the mother and said: Mom, don't let this person come back in the future. Ever since our father beat us brutally, we stopped calling him father, but "the man."
Shi Guangrong has been fighting on the battlefield for many years, and when the child was young, he was rarely at home. Growing up with three children, he didn't wipe his child's ass once or change his diaper once. He did not care enough for his children, and every time he came home, he could not adjust the role of father, and he would only use violence in the face of the children's crying.
The children succumbed to his obscenity, but they stopped crying on the surface, but they began to hate the man in their hearts. When Shi Guangrong was not at home, the child was free and happy. They thought that life would continue to be happy until the end of the war, and Shi Guangrong would stay at home after that. Shi Guangrong's existence, as if there is an invisible hand, controls their lives and rewrites their destiny.
And the person who shi Guangrong attacked first was Shi Lin. After graduating from High School, Shi Lin wanted to enter the university. Shi Guangrong prevented him from entering the university and, without Shi Lin's knowledge, enrolled him in the army.
Shi Guangrong's military achievements were outstanding, and relatives and friends in his hometown often came to him to ask for help. He only needs to make a phone call and write a letter to help those people find satisfactory jobs.
However, in the treatment of children's education, Shi Guangrong adheres to the concept of "selflessness". He not only let Shi Lin do what he wanted, but also sent Shi Lin to a remote checkpoint, where it was a country of ice and snow, and the living environment was harsh.
Shi Guangrong said: The flowers in the greenhouse cannot become any climate, and only in the wind and waves can they be refined into steel.
Shi Lin has not lacked food and clothing since childhood, and his personality is stubborn and naughty. He spent a year in the Ice and Snow Country, still defeated by the harsh living environment, wrote a letter to Shi Guangrong to see the father-son relationship, pulled him aside, and transferred him to a place where the environment was slightly better.
Unfortunately, Shi Guangrong was not moved, and he used a match to turn Shi Lin's distress letter into ashes. Chu Qin saw that her son had such a hard time there, and he found someone else to help him with Shi Guangrong. Who knew that just when things were about to be completed, Shi Guangrong found out, and he let Shi Lin's hopes be dashed again.
Shi Lin wrote to Shi Guangrong: I don't have your father, and you don't have my son. Since then, Shi Lin has never called out to Shi Guangrong's father again, as if between their father and son, there is really a break of righteousness.
In 1979, Shi Lin died while participating in the war on the southern front, and Shi Lin wrote in his suicide note: Dad, when you saw this letter, I had already sacrificed, I used to hate you, but now I don't hate, because you are my father.
Shi Guangrong has indeed made great contributions to the development of the times. Because of people like them, everyone can live a good life of living and working in peace and contentment. What is a good day? I think that people have their own ideals and pursuits when they are full and wear warm, and they get closer step by step according to their own goals, which is a really good day.
Since the times are developing, people should face many more choices than before. Shi Lin has the right and ability to choose his own future path. It is a pity that Shi Guangrong's stubbornness and stubbornness ruined his life.
Shi Guangrong believes that the child is his own, and their future should also be done according to his own ideas, he has never respected the child's opinion and considered the child's feelings. He stubbornly carries the banner of being good for the child and influences the child's life. In his opinion, he loves the child deeply, and in my opinion, Shi Guangrong's love for the child is full of control.
Tu Lei said: I admire a kind of parent who can give a strong intimacy when the child is young, and when the child becomes an adult, he learns to withdraw gracefully. Care and separation are both tasks that parents must complete. Parent-child relationship is not a permanent possession, but a deep fate in life, we can neither make the child feel the barrenness of childhood, nor can the child feel suffocated in adulthood.
Parenthood doesn't have to go through any exams. Although there is a cultural disparity between parents, in my opinion, the best parents are not the higher the level of education, the better, but the parents know how to nourish their children with love. When parents love and respect their children, children can grow up healthily.
Chu Qin is Shi Lin's mother, and she has always respected the wishes of her children, but Shi Guangrong enjoys the status of saying one thing at home, even if the whole family contradicts him, her arms are not able to reach her thighs.
In the TV series, Shi Lin finally reconciles with Shi Guangrong. In the original work, the father and son did not reconcile in their lives. Shi Lin hated Shi Guangrong's selfishness. He wanted to use Stone Forest's life to accomplish what he wanted to do in this life and let Stone Forest live for him.
Children are not substitutes for parents, if Shi Guangrong loves children, he should respect the opinions of children and follow his wife's advice, rather than wishful thinking and forcing others to do things he does not like.
Chu Qin did not like him, and in the name of loving her, he forcibly married her. Shi Lin wants to go to college, and Shi Guangrong turns around Shi Lin's fate in the name of loving his children. After Shi Lin died, he couldn't figure out why Shi Lin hated him. Of course he couldn't figure it out, because a selfish egoist would only feel like he was doing everything right. Others do not understand him because others are not enlightened enough.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="68" >2. Shi Jing's indifference is like Shi Guangrong. </h1>
Although Shi Jing is a girl, she likes to play with knives and guns, and looks like a boy with courage and strategy in her bones, so Shi Jing is also the child who is deeply loved by Shi Guangrong.
After Shi Jing graduated, he went to the Mongolian steppe to work as a cavalryman. During this time, she met a horse with a violent temper called Kuroko. Shi Jing wanted to conquer it too much, so when people were not paying attention, he secretly led it out one night.
Shi Jing had the courage to conquer it, but did not have the strength to conquer it. Not long after she got on the horse, she fell off the horse and fractured her lower leg. Shi Jing hated the horse so much that one night she stabbed the black horse with a knife.
The leader talked to Shi Jing, and Shi Jing not only did not know what was wrong, but also wrestled with the leader. They really had no choice but to ask Shi Guangrong's consent and persuade her to retreat.
Not long after, Shi Jing married a blind date. The two were married for a year, because Shi Jing almost crippled her husband, and her husband took the initiative to propose divorce, and this marriage ended under Shi Jing's provocation.
Why does Shi Guangrong like Shi Jing's daughter? Because of Shi Jing's nature, it is a copy of him. He believes that children should not be afraid of heaven and be fierce enough. As long as it is what you want to do, don't think about the consequences. No matter what means you use, to achieve your goals, it is good.
Shi Jing's personality is fierce enough, when I saw that she stabbed the horse because she could not conquer it, I suddenly found that a girl can have such a fierce heart, which is really outrageous. This is the same as I will destroy you without you.
How distorted the mentality of such a person should be. Love should be perfect, it is respect, why should love be hated, and if you don't get it, you have to destroy it? When he chose Chu Qin, was it also such a mentality?
In order to marry Chu Qin, he went to the leader to pressure and persuade Chu Qin's parents to send them to the end of their pension in the future, and he used various conditions to force Chu Qin to agree to marry him, but ignored how desperate Chu Qin was when she married him. He enjoyed her efforts in marriage and enjoyed his happiness as a father, but he deprived Chu Qin of his right to be a mother, took all three children for himself, and did not allow Chu Qin to make any suggestions.
Shi Jing's attitude toward marriage is also the same as Shi Guangrong's. They lack reverence for marriage, always self-centered in doing things, do not know how to respect their partners, as long as it is what they want to do, no matter how their partners oppose it is invalid, they live in their own world to enjoy themselves, but let the people around them cry bitterly.
In the end, Shi Jing did not remarry after the divorce. She suddenly found that being single was more suitable for her. She can roam the world without worry and freely. Maybe someone like her is not suitable for marriage.
Career success does not represent emotional success, but there are always people who bring the sense of superiority in their careers to the family, point fingers at the lives of others, and as a result, ruin others, and suffer themselves without knowing it.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="69" >3. Shihai, the self after release, is the destination. </h1>
Shi Hai is shi guangrong's third child, because he likes literature since he was a child, his personality is sentimental, he loves sad spring and autumn, and he is often sad for a fallen leaf and a little red.
Shi Guangrong hated his melancholy temperament and his lack of manhood in talking and doing things, so in his eyes, Shi Hai was the child he hated the most, and he also thought that the most indisputable child in the future.
Shi Guangrong let Shi Hai become a submarine soldier, let the vast sea hone his tenacious character, and as a result, Shi Hai only stayed in it for less than a year, and was sent to a mental hospital because of depression. Anyone who mentioned the sea in front of him would make him tremble and his eyes sluggish.
Shi Guangrong couldn't see any hope in Shi Hai, and it was a shame to have such a son who didn't show up. He simply stopped asking Shi Hai anything, and he said to Chu Qin: Just when I don't have this son, let him fend for himself!
Chu Qin transferred Shi Hai to work in the literary troupe, but she did not expect that Shi Hai was like a fish in the water, learning to write lyrics and composing music, and later creating love songs that swept the country. However, Shi Hai, who is over thirty years old, has always been reluctant to get married.
He likes to stay with his sister Shi Jing, and tells Chu Qin that he wants to marry a girl like Chu Qin. When Chu Qin was not at home, he secretly moved her things to his house and wrote love songs behind closed doors.
Shi Hai's view of marriage is distorted, and his liking for Shi Jing shatters my three views. I think that as Shi Guangrong's most undesirable child, he was extremely inferior in his heart. Shi Jing has been favored by Shi Guangrong since he was a child, and he wants to get his father's praise too much, because he can't get it, so he projects his envious eyes on Shi Jing. It was as if he could only be seen with her.
In the TV series, "The Years of Burning Passion" has a beautiful emotional color, after Shi Lin got married and had children, he reconciled with Shi Guangrong, Shi Jing found a love destination, and Shi Hai also broke out in a new field.
I thought this was the real life of that era, and when I saw the original book of "The Years of Burning Passion", the mood was tangled and complicated. It turned out that in this family, except for Shi Guangrong, everyone lived a very painful life.
Chu Qin could not forgive Shi Guangrong for forcibly marrying her without her consent in this life. The three children also had a tragic fate under the influence of Shi Guangrong.
Shi Guangrong's self, selfishness and strength ruined the happiness of the family. Although he lacked companionship when his children were young, when he returned to the family, he subtly influenced his personality on the people around him.
Song Qingling said: Children's personalities and talents are ultimately influenced by their families and parents. When children grow up, society becomes an environment for exercising them. Schools also play an important role in the development of young people. But it is the family that leaves an indelible mark on a person.
Parents have two extremes of psychology toward children, both of which are harmful to children. One is neglect; the other is that expectations are too sharp. Neglect is to let it fend for itself like thatch, and to expect too much is to promote the growth of seedlings, not only without results, but also to promote their premature death. Therefore, reasonable guidance is the correct way to relieve children's suffering and promote children's happiness.
The process of parents and children getting along seems invisible, but in fact has a subtle impact on the child's personality. These changes are imperceptible, but they are real. The fate of The Stone Forest, The Stone Crystal and the Stone Sea is influenced by Shi Glory.
Shi Guangrong has been living in his own world, ignoring the feelings and needs of the people around him. His strong strength and spirit of not being afraid of hardships can be used in his career to break through the world, and used in the family, which will only turn the world upside down.
Xia Qizun said: What is the water on education? It is love, it is love. Education without love and love has become a waterless pool, whether you are square or round, you can never escape an emptiness.
Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for them. A good father educates his children in the way that he enjoys the love of his parents, gives him the ability and confidence, and faces the setbacks he will experience in the future, rather than letting him follow the path you think you want. Children are not the whole of parents, they are individuals with thoughts and can grow up independently.
If Shi Guangrong had more love for his children, maybe everything would have been different. No matter how successful you are in the workplace, you can't erase emotional failure. Shi Guangrong's three children are examples of his unworthiness to be fathers. That's why Chu Qin would cry and say: You hurt me, and you also hurt my children.
Shi Guangrong refuses to grow, refuses to think, he has been living in the illusory war he has created, unwilling to face reality. In that world of nothingness, he commands thousands of armies and horses, and in the real world, he chooses to control the fate of his family.
Everyone will experience the role of husband and father, but some people are stumbling and looking for a suitable way to get along, and some people refuse to grow and impose their thoughts on others. A person like Shi Guangrong, who does not understand love, how can he talk about love, how can he talk about being a husband and a father?