In daily life, it is often possible to hear someone evaluate someone and say that he is "born anti-bone", which actually means that he has a rebellious spirit, often acts different from ordinary people, bringing trouble and harm to other people and himself, but he is self-righteous, and even unaware.
The source of "born anti-bone" comes from the 150th time of the famous book "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", Zhuge Liang said: I see Wei Yan has a reverse bone behind his head, so he beheaded it.
At that time, in the "Battle of Wuzhangyuan", Zhuge Liang was already an old man in his 50s, his physical condition was deteriorating, he felt that his time was short, so he arranged the aftermath for his generals, he said: If I die, let Yang Yi and Fei Yi lead the retreat of the armies, and Wei Yan and Jiang Wei will be responsible for breaking the queen. If Wei Yan did not agree, he arranged for Ma Dai to kill him.
In order to find a legitimate excuse to convince other generals of the idea of killing Wei Yan, Zhuge Liang bluntly said: Wei Yan is a person born with anti-bones.
Zhuge Liang was a man of great wisdom and held a very high status in the Shu Han Dynasty, so there was no one to refute what he said.
Sure enough, shortly after Zhuge Liang's death, Wei Yan was soon poisoned by Ma Dai.
In fact, Zhuge Liang had always been uneasy about Wei Yan, believing that he had defected to Liu Bei halfway, and that it was possible that the same trick might be repeated and become a rebel, and that he would definitely be a scourge for the Shu state in the future. However, Liu Bei did not think so, and after Liu Bei maneuvered from it and knew how to make good use of people, he immediately let Wei Yan exert his great potential and become a member of the late Shu Han Dynasty.
After Liu Bei's death, Wei Yan lost his patron, and at the same time, Zhuge Liang also amplified his suspicions about Wei Yan, resulting in the death of a generation of famous generals Wei Yan.
So, what exactly is "anti-bone"?
The anti-bone is actually the "occipital bone", which is the second half of the skull centered on the later brain.
After all, the head should be resting on the pillow when sleeping to be comfortable, and if the backbone is not flat enough, it is not easy to sleep well.
And those who have anti-bones, are the back of the head bulge, the whole head looks round and full, so some people in the folk think that those who have just been born with a big and round head, the brain is careful, the thoughts and behaviors are not the same as ordinary people, the future may become a big instrument, become a generation of heroes, may also become a big adulterer and evil person.
In modern society, those who disobey discipline, do not listen to others, do not play cards according to common sense, are stubborn, and are destructive are called anti-bone people. They were like springs, and the more they pressurized him, the more he bounced back.
Whether such people are good or bad is difficult to make a conclusion, just like the views of "sexual goodness" and "sexual evil", it is not easy to say whether human nature is good or bad, and in different situations and occasions, the boundaries of the concept of good and evil in human nature are often blurred.
Through the observation and summary of some scholars, as well as the general public, people who are "born anti-bone" have the following three distinctive characteristics.
First, he was born rebellious and insecure.
In the concept of modern people, people who are born anti-bone are not directly related to whether they have long anti-bones at birth, especially after the environmental influence of the day after tomorrow, he has become a wild person.
Everyone has just been born in fact, in terms of personality is similar, some parents will educate their children, often through encouragement, praise and rewards, to stimulate the child's potential and initiative, so that children as if living in the sun, do everything feel tasteful, physical and mental health growth.
And some parents, the child is either reprimanded or punished, or even scolded, so that the child lives in a long-term loveless environment, how can such a child be physically and mentally healthy? Therefore, the child's hostile emotions and rebellious thoughts slowly breed, and they are against the parents in many things.
When a child with hostile emotions grows to about 14 years old, which is often referred to as the "psychological rebellion period", if the parents have not corrected the child's bad emotions and let the child go, then the child is very likely to become a "natural anti-bone" person in the future.
Such people often prove their sense of existence to others through abnormal behavior, essentially because of psychological insecurity, which is the same as a person's state when walking in the wilderness at night, and must dispel the psychological darkness through abnormal behavior.
Second, maverick, not very social.
The reason why people who are born anti-bone like to be mavericks is because they are not socially accustomed, their thoughts and behaviors are completely different from the people around them, he is different in everyone's eyes, no one wants to deal with him, therefore, he pursues the life creed of "go your own way, let others say it", and even some self-abandonment psychology.
Such a self-enclosed lifestyle will eventually lead him to become more and more unsociable, less and less good at handling interpersonal relationships, and become a maverick person who does deviant things.
Of course, people with natural backbones are much more mature in thinking than their peers, and have too few common topics with their peers, which is also a big reason why they are not social.
Third, he is often self-centered, quite narcissistic, and forgetful of righteousness, and prone to betrayal.
People who are born anti-bone, lack of responsibility and dedication, do not have the concept of benevolence, do things only in their hearts, rarely or never think about others, in the subconscious there is a sense of arrogant superiority, thinking that they are excellent in any way, others are not worthy to do anything with him. Even if others do it, he will not appreciate it.
Because they look down on others, feel good about themselves, and have no dedication, people who are born anti-bone are often people who see profit and forget righteousness, often use others as their own tools, and kick them away when they are finished. In the process of cooperating with others, if you find someone with a higher use value, you will immediately do something that is profitable and unrighteous.
Lao Tzu once said: Heaven and earth are not benevolent and take all things as dogs. In the eyes of a person who is born anti-bone, everything in the world is his "sword dog", which is a treasure when it has use value, otherwise, it is waste.
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