Women often begin to face all kinds of troubles after middle age. There are old people on the top and young people on the bottom, not only facing the bottleneck period of work, but also facing a series of problems such as the "seven-year itch" of marriage.
When stress and troubles hit at the same time, many women also have to face the end of marriage. At this time, middle-aged women seem to be abandoned by life and abandoned by the world.
Many women are trapped in the multiple dilemmas of career, love, and family. These make middle-aged women a synonym for anxiety.
However, in a show, when Ni Hongjie was asked about age anxiety, she said frankly: "Anxiety seems to be that girls of every age will have it, and when they are teenagers, they may think, I want to go to graduate school."
When I was in my 20s, I thought, I'm going to find a good and handsome boyfriend. By my 30s, I wanted a promotion, I wanted a raise. That's like I'm now, I want to shoot more good scenes, so anxiety is not about what age group it is. ”
As Ni Hongjie said, anxiety is everywhere, alleviating the anxiety of middle-aged women, and helping middle-aged women out of a failed marriage is the key to reconciling with themselves.
A woman who loves herself is an economically independent individual, she does not have to suffer because of the existence or disappearance of her husband; she has her own circle of life, and loving herself and loving others should be synonymous with her.
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Regain self-confidence and live your true self
Previously, a photo of Tong Liya attracted public attention. It was the first time she had celebrated her birthday on Weibo since her divorce.
I saw her wearing a blue and white shirt and smiling happily, as if a breeze was blowing on her face, bright and moving!
Tong Liya also wrote on Weibo: "Grow up on time." It is completely invisible to a divorced woman, some of which is confident and content.
In the face of such an ex-wife, Chen Sicheng also stepped on zero point to send blessings: "Happy birthday, happy birthday, youth forever." ”
Tong Liya herself replied politely: "Thank you."
It can be seen that out of the haze of divorce, Tong Liya at this time has more self-confidence and more "self". It is no longer the "ugly duckling" who used to follow her ex-husband, and it is no longer the "woman behind the back" of a man.
The wonderful host at the 2020 Spring Festival Gala once again amazed everyone.
A bright red dress, a long waist-length hair, with her standard Mandarin, people had to admire, everyone exclaimed: "This is no less than a class host." ”
Confident women are always the most attractive. Even if you are divorced, you can regain yourself, find self-confidence, and live your true self.
In reality, most women, because of a failed marriage, often deny themselves and doubt life. Yet every woman should be a unique landscape.
Middle age is not the end of life, and marriage failure is not the end of life. Only by once again finding the shining point in the self can we regain self-confidence again, can we live out ourselves, and we can live out our true selves.
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Financial independence, self-esteem and self-love
There is a saying that middle-aged women fight for wealth in the second half of their lives. Divorced women need financial independence even more.
Although life has given us a blow, the backbone of independence and self-improvement, self-esteem and self-love cannot be less.
During the Republic of China period, Xu Zhimo's ex-wife Zhang Youyi was ruthlessly abandoned by her ex-husband. Zhang Youyi, who was pregnant with Liujia at that time, could only endure in silence in the face of her husband's determined heart.
Shortly after the divorce, looking at Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman's "wedding of the century", she was even more sad and sad.
She knew very well that Xu Zhimo had never loved her, but she couldn't believe that her son was so young and she was still pregnant with Liujia, but her husband wanted to abandon their mother and son and run to another marriage.
In that traditional era, her hard work was no less than every woman in modern life.
However, she did not bury too much grievances, did not complain. Because she didn't have time to complain, she still had an elderly in-laws to take care of, and young children to discipline. Only by being independent and self-reliant and working hard can she support this family.
She went to Germany to study pedagogy, and after returning home, she founded a girls' school. Her keen business acumen has also allowed her to break the mold in the stock market.
She did not give up on herself, achieved financial independence, and gained the approval of her in-laws. Even later, when Xu Zhimo was poor, he had to go to her for help.
An economically independent woman, such as a plum blossom in a cold wind, whether it is a cold or a cold wind, can stand tall and bloom proudly.
Even if you are now in a deep marital dilemma, even if you are divorced and single at the moment, if you do not give up on yourself, strive for career, and strive for financial independence, you will eventually find the meaning of life again.
As the saying goes, "God will open a door for you if he closes a window for you." ”
When you give up laziness, give up decadence, give up sinking, you will reap a better life.
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Be grateful and believe in love
Before, a photo online attracted me.
On the day of Jia Jingwen's eldest daughter's graduation, Jia Jingwen, as a parent, and her ex-husband Sun Zhihao attended their daughter's graduation ceremony, leaving an intimate photo of the three standing together.
Just ten years ago, the two people tore their faces and fought for the custody of their daughters, which was red in the face and once caused a storm in the city.
Jia Jingwen, 30, did not hesitate to cry in front of the media, crying about her husband's unbearable behavior, and even spent 26 million Taiwan dollars to exchange for the custody of her daughter.
Now, perhaps she did not expect that she, her ex-husband and daughter could stand together so calmly and take photos.
I have to say that time is really a sharp sword, which can change everything, let people put aside hatred, let go of resentment and unwillingness.
Now, Jia Jingwen, who is over 40 years old, has met Xiu Jiekai, who is 9 years younger than herself, and the two have combined, and have given birth to two daughters, living a sweet and sweet life.
On the day after Jia Jingwen won the film and television film for starring in the two dramas "The Distance Between Us and Evil" and "Waterfall", she said: "I can have today's achievements, thanks to God teammate Xiu Jiekai. ”
Jia Jingwen, who has experienced wind and rain, has more calm and calm, and has more gratitude in her heart, thanks to life and destiny. No more complaining about others, no more complaining about the unfairness of life.
She can have today's happy life, inseparable from her good attitude. Because of gratitude, so cherished; because of optimism, so regain love.
Haruki Murakami once said: "The so-called growth is that people fight against loneliness, hurt, lost, lost, but have to live." ”
Life is not easy, sometimes you need to be brave, brave to believe that the world is still beautiful, brave to love. Even if you have been hurt and shed tears, you must once again summon up the courage to be grateful and find love.
Middle-aged women often lament the difficulty of life, they are no longer young, they do not have the vigor of youth, but they have to face the elderly and children who still need to be taken care of.
Divorced women are more difficult, they also look forward to a warm family, but now they have to face their own lonely soldiers, they are easy to pity themselves, but life does not allow them to complain about themselves.
Middle-aged divorced women seem to be the most anxious group in the world. However, life is not always like this, to believe:
If the heart is sunny, fearless and sad, if the love is still there, what a desolation!
Author: Xiao Xin, new media author.