"Parents are too close to their children."
Do you have such a situation, for the family, always have an impatient attitude, but for outsiders, but can be polite;
When outsiders have something they don't understand, we patiently explain, afraid that the other party will not understand, and teach parents how to fiddle with their mobile phones, and run away in five minutes.
Why is that?
Psychology explains that the relationship between people close to us is the closest, safest, and most stable.
This view stems from our initial, deepest cognition, our subconscious mind, and is also an objective fact. Deep down, we feel that even if we lose our temper with someone close to us, it will not damage the connection between us, or rather, the loss is very small, so we are more unscrupulous.
For our relationships outside of people, we think that they are unstable and distant in psychology.
Deep down, we think that throwing tantrums with outsiders or not listening to outsiders' advice is a huge loss for our contact, and there is a great possibility of losing this relationship, so we are more cautious.
"Parental requirements are not fixed, resulting in a decrease in prestige values."
There are many parents who have made this mistake, including my mother.
As a child, she said, "This afternoon, write three volumes." As a result, when I was halfway through writing, she came over with fruit and said, "Don't write, take a break, eat some fruit, and write the other half in the evening." ”
This will give me the illusion that I only need to complete half of the tasks given by my mother in the future?
Over time, my mother really couldn't control my studies, and I wanted to write as much as I wanted.
In short, I hope that the children will share more patience with those close to them, and hope that parents will implement their decisions.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Director Li of Orangutan Village
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