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Love is a very sweet emotion, and good love allows you to see the whole world through one person. But love is precious, rare, fragile, and perishable. Some people are lucky to be able to enjoy sweet love for a lifetime, and some people are very unfortunate and can't get it for a lifetime.
The hit drama "The Hunting Ground" is very popular with the audience, and during the time when the TV series was broadcast, it triggered a heated discussion among people, and in addition to delving into Zheng Qiudong's way of working, everyone also relished several of his loves.
Zheng Qiudong went to college and talked about a girlfriend, Roy, and later he became addicted to making money, ran abroad to dig cordyceps, and the two broke up. By the time he returned, Roy already had a boyfriend.
After her boyfriend died of cancer, they reunited. After that, in order to make a lot of money, he mistakenly entered the pyramid scheme, and was at ease to earn this money, unfortunately he was arrested and imprisoned, sentenced to several years, roy people wanted to wait for him, but he broke up fiercely. By the time he got out of prison, she was already on good terms with a Xia minister.
Later, they talked about each other, and the love road was quite bumpy, and several times they had the opportunity to be together, but they always missed it. When Luo was single, Zheng had a girlfriend, and when Zheng was single, Luo had a new boyfriend. After going around, they were finally together near the end.
At that time, everyone was sighing, if one of them could stop and wait a little, don't rush to fall in love with the next person, they would have had the opportunity to be together long ago, and they didn't have to go through so many ups and downs, heartbreak and sadness.
Recently I was re-watching some of the footage from The Hunting Ground and had a new idea, and I think they're having just the right amount of time together, one step earlier, or one step later, and their endings aren't necessarily that good.
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Let's first talk about why Zheng Qiudong and Roy people experienced a breakup and a breakup when they first started together.
The reason is simple, at that time, their goals were completely different, and their vision of the future was different. Roy is very eager for her boyfriend to be around, and she feels that as long as the two of them are together, it is good. But Zheng Qiudong is very eager to succeed, and he feels that only by achieving fame can he give a good life to the Roy people, which is his way of expressing love.
They go farther and farther away from different goals and eventually part ways, which is bound to happen. It is either today's points or tomorrow's points, and the ending must be a breakup anyway.
Later, they each fell in love several times, Zheng Qiudong and Xiong Qingchun, Jia Yimei, Roy Ren and Minister Xia and comedians.
These feelings they talked about are not very smooth, Xiong Qingchun will marry Zheng Qiudong, and finally abandon him to reunite with his ex-boyfriend, and Jia Yimei is very unconfident in herself, and finally took the initiative to quit. Roy was arrested for corruption with Minister Xia, and she was almost implicated, and later with the comedian, he cheated on the actress.
They each experienced these feelings before finally coming together. From this point of view, the phrase "there is no road in vain in life, every step counts" also applies to feelings.
We fall in love with anyone, or get married, and eventually separate, and that doesn't seem to be that good, but in fact it's a good outcome, because after you've been through it, you know that such a person is not for you.
This is the main meaning of the failure to fall in love, telling us that this person is not suitable, and to find someone more suitable and more suitable, we must continue to look for it.
Zheng Qiudong and Roy people have experienced different people, and finally come together, such an experience can make their feelings more stable, and they will go further in the future.
Because they already know who they are most suitable to be with, plus they are more mature and understand each other more, so they will cherish their hard-won emotions more.
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I can understand the feelings of a lifetime and a couple that everyone longs for, and I hope that the first person I meet in this life is the person I want, the only one who is myself, and I don't have to go through so many ups and downs.
But the probability of this kind of good thing happening is quite small, I believe everyone should have heard such a saying, each of us in this world only has one soul mate, assuming that we are two red beans, everyone else is green beans, then two red beans mixed in 1.4 billion green beans, may not meet in a lifetime.
That is to say, the first person we meet will most likely not be the person who is the best fit for us.
And most of us in the first relationship, in fact, are very immature, the understanding of love and marriage is not thorough enough, in such a situation to meet the people, often will not be suitable for themselves.
The reason why first love makes us feel beautiful is because it is the first time, the first heartbeat, the first time to hold hands, the first time to hold hands, the first time to kiss, even if it is the first quarrel, it will make people feel the sweetness of love.
It's just that love is not enough to be sweet, and sweetness doesn't mean that two people are suitable. Otherwise, there will not be so many people who do not end up marrying their first love, because after getting along for a long time, they will slowly find that they are different from each other, have different personalities, have different preferences, and have different views, which will lead to the end of the relationship.
My college psychology teacher once said that each of us has to talk about a relationship at least a dozen times before we meet the right person for us. I didn't quite understand it before, but now I understand more and more that there is nothing wrong with this sentence.
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We imagine that Zheng Qiudong and Roy people have not been separated from the beginning, so the final ending of this TV may be that their feelings have been consumed and then parted ways.
Because two people with different goals are together, it is originally a very consuming thing, which requires one of them to tolerate the other, Zheng Qiudong will definitely not give up the pursuit of success, then it can only be endured by the Roy people, and she is exactly the kind of person who can't stand men ignoring themselves.
So in the TV series, after they are separated, they are together again, which is the best ending for them.
Their love has stood the test of time, although they are all in love, they still care about each other, of course, they all have their own principles, and they will not destroy his feelings because they have each other in their hearts.
They have experienced the heartbreak of each other's love affair with others, experienced the regret of being able to be together but missed, and at the same time they are also cultivating themselves, Zheng Qiudong has pursued the success he wants, and they have become better selves.
Later they were very compatible, and it really had to be thanked for the experiences they had, because they had experiences, so they became more mature.
Don't cling to your first love, or someone who can't love it, because not being together already means that you are not suitable in the first place, it is best to talk more about love, to experience more different people, and then to know what you want and what kind of people are more suitable for you.
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Article illustration | Stills from "The Hunting Ground"