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Slow down and be more efficient
Life is not a 100-meter sprint, but a protracted marathon, know how to slow down, recharge, in order to go to the end without hurrying.
Rushing to make quick gains, not caring about the scenery along the way, not concentrating on polishing yourself, often want to be fast but not reached.
Wang Xianzhi, a famous calligrapher in the Eastern Jin Dynasty, was the son of Wang Xizhi, the "Sage of Books".
As a teenager, his calligraphy skills were already excellent, so he couldn't wait to make a name for himself.
He asked his father, "I can practice words in two or three years, right?" ”
Father shook his head, pointed to the eighteen large water tanks in the courtyard and said, "Use these waters to grind ink to write, and when you run out of water in this tank, the words will naturally be practiced." ”
Wang Xianzhi understood his father's teachings, no longer eager to succeed, and devoted himself to the study of calligraphy.
He slowed down the rhythm, kept improving, and practiced calligraphy "on a small fire" to a pure fire, and finally became a "sub-saint" in the book world.
Life is originally a gradual process, and everything cannot be achieved overnight.
Don't go too fast, focus on a field of deep cultivation, so that you will not be eliminated by life; do not perfunctory, fill in the gaps, the second half of life will be half the work.
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A comfortable relationship, no need to please
What is the most comfortable relationship between people?
A netizen replied: "I gave you the spring light of March, you gave me April peach blossoms, and the true feelings in the world can last forever." ”
We often go to great lengths to please others in the hope of gaining likes and approvals, even if not out of our own minds.
As everyone knows, the feelings that are obtained cannot last long no matter how good they are, and they will not be intimate no matter how close they are.
Instead of struggling to please, learn to love yourself first.
Su Qing, a female writer in the Republic of China, gave up her studies for her husband and taught her children at home, thinking that she could exchange such a good marriage for such a pay.
The reality is that her husband scolds and scolds at every turn, completely inconsiderate of her sacrifice, and her mother-in-law often sneers and speaks harshly.
After recognizing the reality, Su Qing divorced her husband, resumed writing, and finally wrote "Ten Years of Marriage", becoming a hot writer in the Shanghai literary circle.
The rest of your life is long, leave your heart to those who understand you, and leave your feelings to those who love you.
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Little things see people's hearts
The water does not test, does not know the depth; people do not give, do not know good or bad.
To see a person's true heart, you only need to look at his attitude from small things.
In ancient times, there was a taishou who stayed in Dongdu, and there was a local sage who came under his door as a doorman.
The other doormen in the house said that the doorman was selfish. Taishou couldn't recognize the truth or falsehood of it, so he asked the doorman to play chess with him.
The two men made an agreement to play chess, and the doorman won the reward of two or two pieces of silver. Halfway through, Taishou had an official document to deal with and walked away.
And the doorman took the opportunity to move the position of the chess pieces, turning his inferior situation into an advantage.
In fact, TaiShou had already sensed it when he returned, and he moved the chess pieces, but did not expose him.
The next day, Taishou asked him to go to another house as a doorman.
The doorman was very confused, why he was dismissing himself in a dignified manner, and asked the reason when he left.
Tai Shou said: "When you face interests, you are not thinking of solving difficult problems, but choosing to win me by means." If something really happens, you will only take care of your own interests and abandon me in danger, so you are not suitable to stay by my side. ”
Finally, the doorman left in shame.
Keigo Higashino said, "There are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart. ”
The human heart is the most difficult to guard against.
You don't know, behind the smile, there is a knife hidden.
People's hearts are indeed unpredictable, but they can still be seen from small things that a person is really not sincere.
If a person, in the face of temptations and difficulties, still thinks about us, such a person is sincere to us.
Only by seeing people's hearts clearly can we make friends with the right people and not let ourselves be hurt.