Two days ago, Aoi Yu officially announced the good news of pregnancy through the official of the affiliated company
The true CP of this pair of "Beauty + Beast", since the announcement of the marriage news, the fans' heads full of "why" have not stopped.
As a funny artist, Ryota Yamazato is not only slightly inferior in appearance, but also nearly ten years older than Yu sauce, and the process of the two from acquaintance to flash marriage is even only two months.
The wedding official announced the scene laughing and blossoming yo-sauce
And not long ago, in the Japanese variety show "How about a snack machine" New Year special, Ueto Cai also revealed that Ryota Yamazato had sent himself a birthday CD for 10 consecutive years before marriage to express his admiration.
Uncle's expression was as shocking as those present, after all, after pursuing for 10 years, he turned around and married You sauce, and it is difficult to rule out the suspicion that Ryota Yamazato had a "wide net" before marriage.
But in any case, You sauce, who got pregnant smoothly after the flash marriage, seems to enjoy and be more satisfied with the married life.
In addition to Yu Aoi, there are many CP for "beautiful women + ugly men" in Japan, such as the announcement of the marriage with Hoshino Gen last year, which broke the hearts of countless otaku Yui;
Her husband Watanabe Was exposed to cheating on Sasaki, who was also decided to forgive (even when Watanabe, who had been temporarily suspended for a year due to a derailment two days ago, announced his comeback, Sasaki said that he would fully protect her husband from scratch);
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And Tomomi Itano;
Maki Horikita....
The wealth resources and industry status of many "ugly men" are even far inferior to those of women.
Including social networks and real life, the combination of "beautiful woman + ugly man" is far more than the combination of "beautiful man + ugly woman".
So why do beautiful women think so much? What determines their mate-choice tendencies?
01
The scarcity of beauty determines its universal adaptability
From the perspective of resource matching, when a certain resource is unequal between the two parties, other resources will cooperate accordingly to make up for it to achieve a certain balance between the sexes.
For beauty resources, even if there are various means to enhance the appearance of the day after tomorrow, there are still various high restriction thresholds for beauty.
For example, you can fine-tune the details of the facial features but it is difficult to ensure the naturalness, you can cut the bones to change the facial contour but it is difficult to change the shape of the skull, in addition to the head-to-shoulder ratio, head-to-body ratio, leg length ratio and other objective measurement standards that are difficult to adjust (can't help but sigh, beauty is simply a gift from heaven).
Artificial beauty always has a beauty preservation period
It can be said that naturally attractive beauty is undoubtedly still a scarce resource at present.
Those who hold scarce resources have correspondingly more power to choose exactly what other resources to exchange.
The most intuitive is wealth, status, and various interpersonal resources;
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Or talent and charisma that people admire;
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Or a thoughtful personality that provides high emotional value and security.
The "ugly men" who lack beauty resources are relatively more willing to use their personality, financial resources or talents to make up for the defects in appearance, such as being better at tolerance and understanding.
There is also a recency effect in social psychology, which means that when there are two or more stimuli of different meanings appearing sequentially, the determinant of impression formation is the new stimulus that appears later.
Similar to the way in novel movies show the characters to be suppressed first, although the first impression of ugly men is not good, but as other aspects of the shining point are gradually found in getting along, women's psychological feedback is more and more upward, and women's dependence on emotions is often higher.
The long-term love under this sense of contrast is also the reason why many ugly men can hold beautiful people.
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But one thing to note is that people who master scarce beauty don't necessarily have the upper hand in the relationship between the sexes when they are really together. Because the scarcity of beauty is also reflected in its time limit, in the final analysis, it is a depreciating passing product.
Beauty should not be the only dependent resource for beautiful women, because that would put themselves in a rather dangerous situation.
Love and hate are as clear as Li Xiaoli, she not only has beauty, but also has a strong career in the strong support, so her love can be infinitely dashing, want to go, want to stay.
02
Great beauties also have low self-esteem?
The aesthetic cognition of women embodied behind the choice of beautiful women
The types of aesthetic cognition that affect the choice of beautiful women can be divided into "beautiful but not self-aware" and "beautiful and too self-aware".
1. Beautiful but not self-aware
Some innate beauties who grew up in the oppressive environment do not have a clear understanding of their own beauty, do not pay too much attention to the resource of beauty, and do not maximize the value of beauty.
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Even after knowing their beauty, the long-suppressed inferiority psychology and traditional educational concepts will make them have the idea that "it does not matter how the other party looks".
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Similarly, some acquired beauties will always have the idea of "I am not worthy" because of their long-term inferiority. These are active withdrawal types.
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2. Beautiful and overly self-aware
Beauty and excessive self-knowledge lead to two states of mate selection: very passive and very active.
In the innate beauty, if you live in a growth environment that attaches importance to education, life is wrapped in kindness and love, and is guided by the correct values of the outside world, and has enough discernment ability to soberly protect yourself, then your life will basically be smooth and happy.
However, if daily life is in an environment that constantly emphasizes the utilitarian value of beauty, and develops a pampered and arrogant personality in a bad atmosphere, then this aesthetic cognition of beauty and over-self-knowledge will also directly affect their concept of mate selection.
Some people are accustomed to enjoying the convenience of beauty, and in the relationship between the sexes, they will also passively wait for the other party to send them to the door because of the burden of idols.
The other part will make full use of the beauty characteristics to take the initiative in exchange for other resources.
There are also some acquired beauties, who have been hurt by their appearance during their growth, and after experiencing a painful and long transformation process, they will have a lack of compensation psychology due to their previous inferiority.
Be sure to exchange your hard-won beauty for something, or you will feel like suffering in vain.
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Why is there far more "beautiful women + ugly men" than "beautiful men + ugly women"?
1. In terms of quantity, there are more beautiful women than beautiful men
From the external overall point of view, the social evaluation system is generally more harsh on women's appearance, more tolerant of male appearance, and women are more dependent on non-dominant positions in gender relations.
The blessing of "Lang Cai Female Appearance" has continued since ancient times, and has never become a "female talent and lang appearance", and the society has given women a much heavier shackle on their appearance.
From the perspective of individuals, compared with men, women are more sensitive to the perception of beauty and pursue harder and diligently.
So a basic phenomenon that emerges under the dual drive is that women are much higher than men in the ultimate ownership of beauty.
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2. Psychologically, men are more confident and women are more introspective
The acquired social environment also has different effects on the psychology of men and women.
Self-confidence is the basic personality chassis of men, and women are often placed on the weak side of being selected and harshly criticized under social discipline, and are better at introspection rather than taking the initiative.
"Ugly Woman + Beautiful Man" configuration classics such as "Jane Eyre", the story focuses on emphasizing the character charm of a woman who is not very beautiful in appearance to defend herself.
We rarely tell the story of how the "ugly man" defends himself, because the whole society seems to tacitly accept that men are born with self-will and individual dignity, and women who want to have this quality need to experience a series of acts of resistance and a bumpy fate.
3. In terms of behavioral motivation, "beautiful man + ugly woman" is complicated by "beautiful woman + ugly man"
If beautiful women love ugly men, and love is simply wealth status or personality charm, then beautiful men with ugly women, the intention is much more profound.
In feudal society, the stories of ugly women and beautiful men are generally used to promote and emphasize women's virtues, such as the allusion of "raising eyebrows in cases", and meng Guang, the wife of the protagonist Liang Hong, was rated as one of the four ugly women in ancient times but was very feminine.
In addition, beautiful men are rarely willing to stay in the stage of "eating soft rice", and they will use the various resources that "ugly women" can provide to develop their careers.
In the Japanese drama "The Battle of the Ugly Women", why did the two male protagonists compete for her? One is because of the ugliness fetish, and the other is that it is practical to marry a wife.
Finally, beauty, which is both precious and dangerous, may be a tool for achieving class leaps, or it may be a poison that paralyzes and consumes the self.
It is not necessarily a good thing to have this scarce resource without the means and ability to use it.
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What makes Shu happy is that women's cognition of self and society is becoming more and more sober, and the internal driving force for the pursuit of beauty comes more from the self than from the outside world.
But we need to realize that we must not only pursue beauty, but also firmly take the initiative to choose in our own hands.
There is the freedom to choose which traits to be attracted to, and there is also the confidence that you do not have to replace resources with beauty.
Finally, while seeing through this large-scale PUA, we also look forward to the early arrival of the era of male appearance inward volume.