Hello everyone, after the End of this Winter Olympics, you have to ask me what I remember, I am full of Gu Ailing.
In my hand is the shuangwen big heroine script! World champion, studying at Stanford, a good family, comparable to the appearance and figure of a star, telling the truth novel does not dare to write this way.
Her achievements are obvious to all, but what I want to say today is that Gu Ailing, who created the current situation, is what is bound to succeed in the "big heroine thinking" that helped her!
If someone in the new age says you're a "little woman," that's definitely not a good thing.
Because the love of the little woman is flooded, sensitive, and dependent on others is no longer the pursuit of women in the new era, which is why Qiong Yao drama is scolded by everyone.
The big heroine is just the opposite, as big as Dong Mingzhu and Deng Wendi, as small as the excellent girls I know in my life, excluding their qualifications, backgrounds, and occupations, I will find that they all have some of the same mindset.
Today's article is to teach everyone how to get rid of the "little woman state" and cultivate the "big heroine thinking".
Strong in heart, reject internal friction
People with strong hearts always look directly at the disapproval of others, because we really can't get everyone to recognize and like it.
After receiving the reverse emotion, many people first find problems from themselves, and constantly reflect on why this person does not like me, which is an internal friction.
Even such an excellent person as Gu Ailing cannot be recognized by everyone. When confronted with people who didn't like her, she said this:
"I'm not going to waste my time on people who aren't educated enough, and who may and will never experience, the joy, gratitude and love that I'm privileged to feel every day." If someone doesn't believe me or doesn't like me, then it's their loss. ”
The first rule against internal friction is not to try to guess what others think, not to overthink the words and deeds of others, and not to punish yourself with other people's ideas.
Questioning and disapproving is nothing, learn to reconcile with your own imperfections. A passage from the recent Douyin super fire:
The premise of a strong heart and anti-internal friction is self-acceptance, which is self-confidence.
Dong Mingzhu was interviewed and asked which is more important for women, but her answer is not important, and self-confidence is the most important.
Wu Yue, who is still single at the age of 49, said: There is nothing to be proud of, and there is nothing to be inferior.
The big heroine must have the courage to be hated by others, there is no one who does not have a strong heart, and the hardcore mind is really more charming than any person.
Know how to make trade-offs, have a "give-up" personality
Gu Ailing not only cross-country, running, horseback riding, rock climbing can be mastered, but also plays the piano well. But she knew what was most important to her and decided to ski out of her many strengths.
Know the trade-offs to achieve your goals.
Yang Tianzhen also once said that it is not necessary to invest in high-cost and low-output things, and stay away from people and things that give up low energy and ineffectiveness and consume energy.
Each of us has a focus at each stage, figuring out what we want, distinguishing priorities and priorities, and giving up some decisively in order to maximize the key goals.
Don't give up because you have invested, this will only make yourself more and more tired, and you will not get anything when the time comes.
For example, you and your boyfriend love for 5 years, know that the personality is not compatible, the feelings have become weaker, but when you think of the time and youth you have spent on him before, you still think it is too bad to break up, so you want to wait, and you don't know what you know.
This is to invest in and then give up and feel reluctant, do not know the trade-offs, but are dragged down.
The reason is too simple, our energy is limited, focus on doing one thing well and doing 2-3 things too much.
After making a trade-off, do not repeatedly question your own determination at that time, but concentrate on doing your best to make a good choice. After thinking and weighing, we make a prudent decision and resolutely implement it.
Don't be Buddhist, keep the desire to win and lose and the internal drive
Gu Ailing can become a world champion, there must be a desire to win and lose beyond the average person, and this desire to win and lose is a kind of post-success pleasure that stimulates her.
So don't look at her usual smile and giggle, once it comes to the moment of the game, she will work hard to enjoy the pleasure after success.
This desire to win or lose is not seen in many adults, and people who think about how to touch the fish and lie flat every day can be written into a big heroine!
After all, in daily life, we are not going to be enemies with people (don't compete with women), and compete with ourselves, which is better than our previous self, nor is it a victory
For example, in two months, you will expose the meat, lose a few pounds of small fat meat that you have hoarded for a winter, wear beautiful clothes, and when others praise you for being spicy, is this not the pleasure after success?
Speaking of internal drive, Gu Ailing said that he was definitely not a genius, but the result of hard work.
Because she chose to love skiing, she was able to be the first to go to the training ground every day, make a training plan for herself during the holidays, etc....
Even the training hit her head, the concussion caused the amnesia on the spot, she did not give up skiing, this is the internal drive.
Putting it on ordinary people may be afraid from now on, but Gu Ailing did not, and after a lot of experience, he still did not give up skiing, and the more frustrated he became, the braver he became.
The cultivation and education of this Gu mother are also inseparable, because when Gu Ailing was injured many times, her mother's rationality and calmness and rapid discrimination of the situation all gave Gu Ailing a very good example.
Speaking of ourselves, many times we can't choose the job we like, so add one thing we love to our lives, and this persistence and endurance can also be migrated.
Makeup, dressing, food, traveling... Sticking to your hobbies, slowly developing your own tenacious mind, and doing other things you don't like or don't want to do, you will become more endurance.
Why are the giants willing to find a world champion as a daughter-in-law (like Guo Jingjing, Zhang Yining, Wang Nan)?
The reason is that the internal driving force and endurance of themselves to become world champions are beyond ordinary people, and women with this trait and thinking are proper heroines, and marrying giants are all giants
Understand your strengths and choose the right track
Before seeing an analysis, Gu Ailing originally belonged to the US national team, but in the United States, a country with developed outdoor sports, Gu Ailing may not be able to appear in the Olympic Games even if she skates well, so Gu's mother has aimed the track at the country.
In the case of the lack of popularity of domestic skiing, the national team has not had a bright representative player, so Gu Ailing joined the Chinese national team and concentrated national resources to train her.
In other words, there may be hundreds of Gu Ailing-style female athletes in foreign countries, but there is only one in China. Therefore, analyze the advantages and choose the right track to stand out.
And choosing the wrong track will pay more than others' efforts, and it is difficult to get out.
For example, a girl with a five-point score and a girl with a 170 model figure have chosen the path of wearing a blogger, and it must be that the latter is faster, because it is difficult to see where she wears.
In response to this sentence, choice is sometimes more important than effort, and only when the choice is right, effort can have greater significance.
The premise of choosing the right track is to understand yourself as early as possible, and spend time and energy on yourself, so that you can know your advantages and competitiveness.
Of course, there are many people who do not know what their advantages are, I recommend you to look at the "Fantastic Journey of the Shepherd Boy", the book uses metaphorical techniques to tell the story of a shepherd boy looking for his "destiny" and finally finding the treasure, which can help everyone think more.
Strong execution, no limit
Many times, the reason is understood, but it cannot be done, that is, there is no rapid execution.
The general trait of girls in the big picture is to know what they want, move quickly, and don't give themselves the opportunity to drag mud and water.
The execution mentioned here is not only in action, but also in thinking.
After many people encounter things, the first thing they think about is not to solve it but to escape, thinking that as long as they don't think about it, they can mix it up.
In fact, our daily large and small things are basically thinking first and then acting, and if you habitually avoid from thinking, then the execution must not be strong.
The first step in making yourself stronger is not to run away from thinking, just like you want to eat, and do it when you think about it.
Procrastination and evasion of problems are harmless and must be changed.
Speaking of no limit, many people make a mistake, accustomed to setting limits on themselves, worried about not doing well, higher expectations do not dare to have, anxious to stay in the comfort zone.
And Gu Ailing's "turn 1620 action" of impacting the gold medal this time was decided temporarily before the jump immediately, which successfully won the gold.
A friend of mine said something that is very valuable: doing anything is not about knowing the result and doing it, but doing it to have the result.
Of course, fear of difficulties is also a common human feeling, and Gu Ailing is the same, but her grandmother told her, "What you feel afraid of is not because it is difficult, but because you are not familiar with it and do not understand." ”
We avoid something just because we are not good at it, everything is difficult at the beginning, in fact, there is nothing that cannot be done.
Including topics such as love, marriage, and non-marriage, for this kind of two-person cooperation and uncontrollable things, don't set limits to ineffective thinking.
Give yourself a little more psychological expectations in order to be as unconstrained as possible.
But setting no limit is by no means indulging yourself, ambition and down-to-earth is the premise of no limit, sisters remember, impulsiveness and recklessness are not the characteristics of the big picture girl.
I recommend you to look at Leik Hu Zhe's "Life Without Limits", the author was born without limbs, tried suicide 3 times, and now has become a world-renowned orator.
Have you found that the "big heroine" thinking of women is transparent, confident, decisive, and often these characteristics make them more dazzling than ordinary people, sisters hurry up to get it.
What else would you like to see?
Clothes that fit round shoulders and thick backs?