Recently, I was touched by Wang Feng's blessing to Zhang Ziyi.
Not only do you wish each other happiness, but you also mention the reasons for your happiness.
Children are healthy, parents are carefree, partners are by their side... Because of gratitude, so happy.
When Wang Feng and Zhang Ziyi were just together, they were questioned a lot.
The eldest woman of the man is 7 years old, as well as his ex-wife and daughter, many of Zhang Ziyi's fans are upset.
Now the two have been married for 7 years, love as before, and have two children.
Why did Zhang Ziyi choose Wang Feng? The answer may be found in the show "Wife's Romantic Trip".
The program team asked the husbands to write a letter to the wives, and Wang Feng wrote 5 paragraphs and 10 pieces of paper.
The title is "Ziyi, whom you are familiar with but don't know much about."
"She's a girl who likes simplicity and whose personality doesn't like to cover up. The premise is that as long as you sincerely tell her and simplify the communication of complex issues, she will return your warmer feelings.
She is very good at taking care of other people's emotions, and she is the one who takes care of others everywhere.
Ziyi is the most authentic girl I have ever seen. From 20 years in the shadow, she is very strong and can endure hardships, and she has suffered many injuries, and so far she has not been able to lift one arm, and every treatment is very painful.
Finally, I hope you can really get to know my wife, a real Ziyi. ”
In the eyes of others, she is an excellent and dedicated international film queen, and she is admired and appreciated.
But in his eyes, she is a simple and real girl, and she understands and feels sorry for her.
Liao Yimei once said: "In this life, when people encounter love and encounter sex, it is not rare, what is rare is to meet and understand." ”
The best marriage is when I know you deeply and love you.
And the most distant distance is that they don't understand each other and are lonely.
When you don't understand me, you're the farthest away from me
In intimate relationships, there is our deepest desire.
We want the person we love the most to understand us best.
Understand the small grievances in our hearts when we are angry, understand the reasons for our sadness and fragility when we are sad, understand the entanglement of mixed feelings when we are helpless...
It is precisely because the relationship is the closest, so the pain will be doubled when poking at the sore spot.
There is a situation where no matter how you explain it, the other person cannot understand you.
This kind of lethality must be deeply experienced by many people. The person who made us feel the emotions in our hearts when we hugged, but said things that made us unbelievable, and did things that made us chill, especially:
I'm making a point about things, and you're still attacking my traits;
I express feelings and needs and you still can't see my emotions;
I sincerely propose improvement plans, you are still stubborn, tough attitude...
I can only sigh: "You don't understand me, I'm so disappointed." ”
When we encounter a situation where the other party does not understand themselves and is unable to persuade and change them, how to be good?
Eliminate "can't" and "should" from your mind
Be wary of certain voices in your head: "He actually did this to me, he can't do this!" /ta should understand me! ”
Others are not roundworms in your stomach, and we will also have times when we don't understand each other. Know that everyone has limitations that are temporarily unable to perceive and break through to themselves.
So, acceptance is the first step.
Accepting that "in many cases oneself is not understood" is the norm;
Accept the fact that "no one understands our obligations";
Accept that "the other party has its own temporary difficulty to surpass" limitations...
Truly accepting these, there will be less insomnia in the long night, silent two tears, more comfortable and calm.
Make big things small, seek common ground while reserving differences
Many people can't help but say angry things when there are differences of opinion or fierce contradictions, such as:
"The three views are not compatible, and I don't think we are suitable to continue to be together."
"You actually look at me like this, and you really fail to live up to my sincerity to you."
Don't be too emotional when communication is not smooth, and decisions made under impulsive recklessness are often regretted.
We should consciously remind ourselves that we are responsible for our emotions, rather than taking it for granted that others should have the same three views and feelings as us.
Make big things small, seek common ground while reserving differences.
When there are contradictions and disagreements, you may wish to do a small ritual that can quickly calm yourself down (deep breathing, self-suggestion, and soothing movements).
When talking, we must discuss things on the facts, neither side criticizes or accuses, and does not expand the situation to make it serious. Think more positively afterwards and avoid drilling the horns.
When you don't understand me, you are the farthest away from me, but I know that we will continue to love each other and overcome difficulties and face the trials and tribulations that life has given us.