Original author: Li Zhong| Inner Mongolia Alxa League
poetry
Transcendent "solitude"
Wave after wave of epidemics hit, and "staying at home" has become a current boom. Staying at home, excited at first, depressed over time. "Loneliness" seems to have become a hurdle that you and I need to face. Instead of enduring loneliness, enjoy it. To endure loneliness is to suffer, and to enjoy loneliness is to be happy. Find a quiet spot in today's bustling downtown area. Lonely? Non also. She quietly helps you open the window of the heart, listen to the voices from the heart, and talk to your heart. In the vast sea of people, it is a great blessing in life to find yourself back and let your soul inhabit your body.
I used to be afraid of being alone for a long time. Whenever a person quietly stays at home, there is always an inexplicable melancholy and loneliness. So, trying to find some change. I threw myself on the street, and in a trance switched my gaze in the crowd of traffic, bored, because the bustle belonged to them, and I he jiaye; I also tried to find ways to call for friends, but the loneliness and embarrassment of not speculating for more than half a sentence at every turn were more than one person alone; I also placed myself on the active or passive table countless times, when I raised my wine glass again and again, searched my stomach and carefully prepared a toast, Only then did I realize that what I was gushing out was not my own voice at all, even I couldn't listen to my ears, I was extremely exaggerated, extremely hypocritical words, as if I was goosebumps on my body, extremely uncomfortable! When your sense of existence is extremely low, the hustle and bustle is like forming a huge insulating protective film, isolating you and making yourself bored! Being alone is a person's carnival; revelry is the loneliness of a group of people.
Not all the groups are dispersed with "fun", and they often can't disperse when they are happy, so when they are scattered, most of them obviously have the color of "disappointment". After being discouraged, the ground was forced to leave the scene, and how could it be compared to refusing to enter the seat beforehand. The new crown has taught us a hard lesson and forced us to open a new way of thinking. Su Shi's "Only the breeze on the river, and the bright moon in the mountains, the ears are sounded, and the eyes meet the color, and I am compatible with the son." The argument has been here and there. Since the "breeze" is not clear, then the best thing is to "raise a glass to invite Mingyue and make three people to the shadow." "It's safer. Communication between people can enhance friendship and exchange information, but when the "epidemic" is passed, it is more than worth the loss, and it will cause extremely big accidents in the country and at home. In this way, you can gather gatherings that cannot be gathered, do not gather, and keep time for yourself; you can go to the dinner party that you can not go to, do not go, and keep your stomach and stomach for yourself; you can see the bustle that you can not see, do not look, and leave the safety to yourself and to others. The scenery is every year, waiting for the mountains and rivers to be beautiful, and relatives and friends say to go away, see enough together; good food is not afraid of late, and "the epidemic is gone", you and I meet in the warm spring of a hundred flowers, lively, not drunk spring and no return.
In fact, "solitude" is also a good state of life and a beautiful scenery. Staying at home, we eagerly pick up the spiritual food left to us by the ancient philosophers and sages - books, talk to famous chinese and foreign celebrities in ancient and modern times, and seek our spiritual comfort in their joys and sorrows, home and country.
Alone, plug in your own battery and fill it with enough power, and look forward to starting again. Only by calming down and removing impetuousness can we recharge ourselves and replenish our energy without distraction. It is also at this time that we can better be alone, continue to learn, and make ourselves a better self.
When gathering in groups, it is for the sake of virtue and unity; when alone, we often think about ourselves, which is for self-cultivation. Alone, open the floodgates of memory and comb through the past. At the highest level, throwing one's soul into the air and then looking down on one's own body from the air is straight and straight, or deformed and distorted. We must bravely and timely get out of the psychological blind spot and light the heart lamp. At this time, you can examine yourself in an all-round way, analyze yourself without reservation, torture yourself from multiple angles, use a stronger self to collide with the constantly updating era, and have a better self, in order to be able to do a good job in the complex and changeable group, "If you bloom, the butterfly will come." ”
To be alone is to enjoy a meeting with a person who is not someone else, but the inner self. Awaken the optimistic self when sinking; awaken the calm self when angry; awaken the successful self when desperate. To be alone, you don't have to look ahead and take care of other people's preferences; you don't have to think about other people's language carefully; you don't have to rack your brains to guess other people's thoughts. Just in the ticking sound of the hour hand, gently smell the flowers, accompany yourself, and truly live yourself. To be alone is not to play a supporting role in other people's dramas, but to play a leading role on your own stage.
Mr. Lu Xun said: If you lose Thaksin, you will be suspicious, and when you turn around, you may only believe in yourself. Losing "Thaksin" is not terrible, what is terrible is losing "self-confidence". Losing self-confidence is like a machine being dismantled from its engine, just like a bird has lost its wings. Being alone is also a way to find yourself. The world is too chaotic and noisy, and we are tired of dealing with slightly complicated relationships with various people every day, trying to make ourselves look not isolated from the circle. But what about the facts? Although our form seems to play in the crowd, is our soul really so freewheeling? We are constantly cultivating and improving our communication skills, but because we have completely lost ourselves and our true selves, so that this communication ability is plausible, the face with heavy makeup is most afraid of removing makeup, and the swollen face pretends to be fat! Solitude is not so much a state as an ability. Getting used to being alone and finding ourselves can help us reduce our dependence, take off our disguises, and build a comfortable and natural interpersonal relationship.
Being alone is also a pivotal moment of self-zeroing, which allows us to organize ourselves lightly and leisurely. It's like a computer that's flooded with viruses and spam, suddenly reformatted and refreshed. The heart is only the size of one's own fist, and if it contains sorrow, it cannot contain happiness; if it contains hatred, it cannot contain gratitude. It is better to see clearly than to look down, and it is better to worry than to put it down. If you can throw away the baggage, pack lightly, and start clean again, you will look energetic. The moment of solitude is the most sacred moment of life, she is a station in the journey of life, and it is not a proper pause in life, but also an indispensable filtering or cleaning of the fuel tank of life.
The days of the "epidemic" at home are as slow and long as clouds and smoke, and inadvertently, the sunlight of books has transformed the charm of loneliness. Being alone is not a luxury to become famous and a family, but at least you can become yourself. Schopenhauer said it best: "One can only be oneself when one is alone." Whoever does not love solitude does not love freedom, for a person is truly free only when he is alone. "Yes! Many, many times, we always feel that we are not ourselves, or that we have lost ourselves. We are anxious about the noisy world; we are fussing about the strange things in the circle of friends; we follow the so-called trend and follow the crowd. When have we ever really cared about ourselves? We're not even quite sure who our last name is; where do we know where we're going from? Mr. Yang Dai said: "In this life, people are nothing more than knowing themselves, refining themselves, and voluntarily and consciously transforming themselves. Why can't we be the "ourselves" in the Schopenhauer style of "solitude"?
The years during the "epidemic" period are still quiet, precisely because someone carries the weight for us, we have no reason not to cherish this hard-won quiet, self-preservation, self-interest, the best of both worlds; the "epidemic" will eventually dissipate in the near future, and at that time, will we still enjoy this kind of "solitude" that releases ourselves in the depths of the soul as always?
I think I can!
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Li Zhong, who started his career in 1994, is now a physical education teacher at Azuoqi First Experimental Primary School.