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There is a saying that "when a person reaches middle age, there are many disasters." ”
People, as long as they reach middle age, they will face many risks and disasters. The so-called "half ninety who walks a hundred miles" is this truth.
A hundred kilometers away, we can only walk halfway through ninety kilometers. The closer we get to success, the more difficult the problems we encounter.
The same is true of the course of life.
When we were young, we climbed at the foot of the mountain. Because you and I are still young and young, and have not experienced any storms, naturally there will be no feeling of hardship in life.
However, in middle age, we walked to the mountainside, looked up and did not see the peak, looked down and did not see the bottom, and were in a difficult environment. If we are not careful, we will face the result of "parting from the middle way".
Middle age is not as simple as we think. In fact, it is like a huge test to screen the strong people who deserve to have a happy life. The so-called "survival of the fittest" is this truth.
In this regard, I thought of a sentence in the workplace, insisted, on the position; could not hold on, out.
When people reach middle age, they will encounter the following encounters, which are the test of heaven for us.
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Encounter one: live more and more ordinary.
Zhou Guoping once said: "There are three times of growth in life, one is when you find that you are no longer the center of the world; the second is when you find that no matter how hard you try, you can't do anything; the third is when you accept your ordinariness and enjoy the ordinary." ”
At the age of thirty, we will eventually understand that we are not the center of the world;
At the age of forty, we will eventually understand that we are just ordinary people;
At the age of fifty, we will finally understand that ordinary life is just right.
However, in order to achieve the realm of accepting the ordinary, it is still a little difficult after all. Because there are many people in this world who feel that they are extraordinary, and they all think that they want to be rich and rich and achieve a huge career.
Ideas like this are actually quite normal and make people's blood boil. However, everyone has reached middle age, and if they still can't see through the truth of "vigorous" and "ordinary", it is still a little less understanding.
No matter how beautiful the fireworks, there will be a moment when they will dissipate and return to the ordinary; no matter how powerful the characters are, they will grow old in the ups and downs and become ordinary ordinary people.
Therefore, whether you can accept the ordinary or not is the test of heaven for you and me. Whether or not you can pass it depends only on your own experience and enlightenment.
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Encounter two: Backfire has become the norm.
There is a saying that after all, it is a luxury to think that things are achieved, and only the opposite of what is desired is the norm.
You want to have a life that you want to do, but life will backfire on your wishes, let you eat the pain of life, and don't let you enjoy happiness.
Therefore, many people will complain about the injustice of life, complain about the misfortune of life, and think that their life is simply unlucky to come home.
In this regard, I thought of a sentence by Li Shutong - the intersection of sorrow and happiness.
Life, after all, is a combination of sorrow and joy. The moment you have joy, sorrow will come unexpectedly. The moment you have sorrow, joy will creep up on you.
Everything is not as negative as we think. Perhaps, there is sweetness and bitterness, that is the truth of life.
For ordinary people, accepting the normal state of doing the opposite is the great realm of a person's calmness.
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Encounter Three: Recognize the smallness of life and the powerlessness of it.
I remember when I was young and crazy, I always thought that I was an omnipotent superman who could easily change the world.
After we have been smoothed out by life, we will fully realize that no one is an omnipotent superman, and the vast majority of people can only be small ordinary people.
When Su Shi reached middle age, he was relegated to Huangzhou, but he saw through the essence of this life, and then wrote in the "Chibi Fu": "The beard of mourning is born, and the envy of the infinity of the Yangtze River." ”
Lamenting your short life, I only envy the infinity of the Yangtze River, which makes people sigh.
After some sighing, Su Shi sighed again: "Flying Immortals swim and hold the bright moon and end up." ”
In a lifetime, it is better to live a dashing and comfortable life, swim with the gods for nine days, hold the bright moon and walk to the end of life, frank and frank, without entanglement. This is the attitude of life that should be there.
When people reach middle age, it is not that life is too difficult, but that we overestimate ourselves and do not recognize the small truth of life.
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Encounter Four: Previous ideas will be impacted.
The concept of young people is nothing more than black and white, hard work can make a lot of money, hard work can have a way out, my fate is up to me.
These concepts are the embodiment of young people's enthusiastic life. However, after reaching middle age, these concepts in our minds will change or even be replaced.
Slowly, you will know that this world is not a black and white world, but a gray that you and I cannot see through.
Slowly, you will know that hard work can only earn money to support yourself, not to support your family and parents.
Slowly, you will know how much you can eat, how much you live, how much you wear, how long you live, after all, it is destined to be good.
People seem to become negative, but in fact, people are living more and more mature. No longer live a childish and innocent life, no longer live a confused life, this is middle-aged people.
These encounters may make us unacceptable. However, it is the test of life, if we see through it all, look down on it, I believe that life will be more content and happy, a tree blossoms.
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