What is mental strength? A: The carrying capacity of the heart. If the heart is large, the bearing capacity is large, and if the heart is small, the bearing capacity is small. A strong heart is a strong bearing capacity, and a weak heart is a weak bearing capacity. The difference between people lies in the strength of the heart.
One. The difference in mental strength is the difference in the fate of life. The difference between life and destiny lies in the heart.
In life or work, we can often see this phenomenon: in the face of the same problem, some people can easily cope with it, some are nervous, anxious, and some simply choose to escape - pick a pick. Faced with the same problem, different people have different performances. On the surface, it is a difference in ability, but in essence, it is a gap in mental strength.
However, no one is born with strong mental strength, and no one is born with weak mental strength. Mental strength can be consciously trained.
The great man Mao Jun, when he was studying in Changsha in his youth, in order to strengthen his heart and exercise his courage, he often spent the night on Yuelu Mountain and slept in the wild, although there was a cemetery around him, he could still sleep peacefully. Later, when we saw him entering the tiger's den in Chongqing alone and negotiating with the Kuomintang, that kind of calm atmosphere, and even when he was in various dangerous situations in his revolutionary career, his kind of cloud was light and breezy, thinking that he was born with courage and heart, but in fact, it was not.
Zeng Guofan is a typical historical figure who makes good use of "meditation" to unite his heart. Whenever he encountered major problems and it was difficult to make a choice, Zeng Guofan often lit a pillar of incense and shut himself in the room, no one was allowed to disturb, and he sat down for several hours. In a state of extreme calmness, condensing one's own conscious energy can often make surprisingly accurate judgments. Zeng Guofan's habitual incense-burning meditation is actually a very good way to enhance mental strength.
Lao Tzu said: Heavy is light root, quiet is restless. If people can be quiet, their hearts will gather; if they are irritable and anxious, their minds will be scattered. Therefore, when people are restless, it is often not appropriate to make major decisions.
Two. If we ordinary people want to gain strong mental strength, we can try the following three ways to improve ourselves, if we can do it, or have the joy of rebirth and phoenix nirvana.
1. Change, starting with self-discipline. Self-discipline is about achieving unity of body and mind. As soon as the mind is sent, the body is acted; once the mind is received, it is as quiet as a virgin, and as steady as Mount Tai. Therefore, self-discipline is the first step to a strong mental force. Those who are not self-disciplined can hardly have strong mental strength.
When people are trapped and confused, just like when a boat travels to the sea, there is no lighthouse guidance, the direction is unknown, and the mental strength is often the weakest. At this time, if you don't know where to start, you may wish to start with self-discipline, arrange the things to do in advance, first complete the small goals of the day, and then, repeat the cycle. Act first, act with strength, lie flat and scatter.
2. Facing fear head-on is the key to improving mental strength.
"The only thing we fear is fear itself," former U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt famously said. Fear is the biggest stumbling block to people. The key to mental strength lies in whether you dare to face fear. Faced with a question that scares you, do you choose to escape or face it? In the performance of dealing with this problem, the strength and weakness of people are at a glance.
I am a teacher, when I first became a teacher, the open classes every semester gave me a lot of headaches, anxiety and nervousness often plagued me, so that I often had a confrontational, repulsive psychology, trying to avoid the open class. Later, I thought that this psychology was not right, instead of being kidnapped by fear and living in the shadow of fear, it was better to bravely meet it, accept this kind of open class, and overcome this fear psychology. I started with careful lesson preparation, prepared very well, and rehearsed the class scene repeatedly in my mind, which I could control. This mentality and practice greatly boosted my confidence, and I was no longer afraid to go to public classes.
3. Condensing the energy of consciousness is to enhance mental strength.
Conscious energy is a psychological term, to put it simply, all minds are conscious. So how do you condense the energy of consciousness? Building faith, establishing ambition, and finding goals are all good ways to gather the energy of consciousness and enhance mental strength. The energy of consciousness is the root of mental strength. Therefore, the concentration of consciousness energy, such as: single-mindedness, then the mental strength is strong; the consciousness energy is scattered, such as: constantly changing the goal, the mental strength is weak.
Wang Yangming said, "In the way of the saints, I am self-sufficient and do not ask for anything. "Where do you ask for it?" Ask inward. If you want to strengthen yourself, you must first strengthen your heart. Only when the heart is strong can we control all things.