The coach who changed Su Yiming's life
Su Yiming won two medals, one gold and one silver, becoming one of the biggest winners of the Winter Olympics. The relationship between him and Japanese coach Yasuhiro Sato has also been talked about by many people: the two masters and apprentices have supported each other in recent years, and they have gone through a very difficult three or four years together, and Coach Sato has repeatedly said "I love Xiaoming" in front of the camera.
Especially when Su Yiming participated in the big jumping project, Coach Sato knew that he was under a lot of pressure and was very eager to win the gold medal, so in addition to giving Su Yiming some technical guidance, before he set off, he said "I LOVE YOU" to him to express that he would always pay attention to and accompany him. He did not put more pressure on Su Yiming to win the gold medal, but to support him emotionally and do his best.
After Su Yiming won the championship, he hung his gold medal on the neck of Coach Sato, and repeatedly said in interviews that Coach Sato was the person who changed his life, gave him a lot of professional guidance, and there were many other changes. It can be seen how deep the feelings of the two people are.
Interestingly, in the final, in addition to Su Yiming, there are also players brought by Sato before, who not only has to guide Su Yiming and lay out tactics; he also takes time to guide Japanese players - how did he do it to guide both sides in a fierce final, and let them not have "emotions"?
This brings us to the Japanese coach's emotional intelligence.
Wholehearted dedication is always the only magic weapon
Looking at some interviews with Yasuhiro Sato, you will find that he is not only a person with a high IQ and emotional intelligence, but also gives people a very comfortable feeling in his communication with people. The reason why he can make Su Yiming grateful again and again, in addition to the improvement of technology, is more importantly emotional support to help this teenage child grow up quickly.
Coach Sato said that in the game, because the Chinese and Japanese teams have their own players, he has to run back and forth. He said that when he accompanied Su Yiming, the Japanese players were completely OK, and when he coached the Japanese players, Su Yiming was completely fine. All he needed to do was put on the outside of the Chinese team's uniform and a coat of Japanese team uniform.
How did the opponents on the field become so harmonious and obedient under this coach?
A very important reason may be that no matter which player he is with, he is fully committed and 100% dedicated, rather than "in Cao Ying's heart in Han". And it is this kind of wholehearted companionship and guidance that will make the players feel that they are cherished and valued, which will reduce the comparison between each other.
When he gives guidance and help without reservation and dedication, as a contestant, it will be very clear that the rest depends on his own efforts and abilities.
In addition, he also has a little admiration that he is very good at finding excellent seedlings and is willing to give guidance, rather than being a "world-renowned coach".
On the short video platform, someone posted a video, there is a small skater named "Nezha" who met Coach Sato and Su Yiming while skiing before, coach Sato offered that he could skate with Su Yiming and give him some guidance himself. Although the cool little boy turned down Coach Sato because he wanted to play with his friends, he still accepted it very happily and happily clapped with the children.
It is also very easy to use in the family
When reading "Children, Give Me Your Hand", it also talked about the phenomenon of "competing for favors" that is easy for families with many children, especially parents who are careful to walk on thin ice and hope not to be biased, and try to be fair and just. But I don't know why, children always feel that it is not enough, because a little thing will produce emotions, and feel that parents have not done fair.
Is it really the best way to treat children with two children and above?
Not.
In a multi-child family, what parents have to do is not to love their children "impartially", let alone to divide love in two, and to pay attention to fairness and justice in everything, because objectively speaking, this is also impossible to do.
What is really to be done is to give each child a unique, complete love.
Different children have different needs, parents should pay attention to and support according to the child's need for love; at the same time, to ensure that there is a period of time every day that is exclusive to each child, and in the process of accompanying this child, it must be fully devoted, without worrying about other children - now is the time that belongs to the boss, then don't always think about whether the second brother has eaten or drunk, such a half-heartedness will make the boss feel very unhappy, you seem to be accompanying the boss, in fact, did not do it, Of course, the second brother did not feel that you were accompanying himself.
Let each child make sure he receives a unique love, not an "equally distributed love."
What children want is complete "customized" love, not a fair and carefully divided love of parents.
In Coach Sato's dealings with Su Yiming and the Japanese players, it seems that he has done this.
What an admirable person, first-class level, advanced emotional education, can make us learn a lot.