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I saw a passage on the Internet that said that after a girl returned home, the man who came to the house to kiss her lined up from the door of the house to the gate.
There is an old saying: a family has a hundred women to ask for. This example, which still exists in real life, profoundly confirms this old saying.
But obviously there are many young women and boys, obviously now women's conditions are getting better and better, and even most of them have cars and houses and deposits when they are single, why do most men still frankly dare not marry, why are there so many "older leftover women"?
Judging from the analysis of these older leftover women around me, the reason why this state occurs is nothing more than because of a few points:
01 Overconfident in looks
Open the circle of friends to see, but all the photos that have been sent out, which one is not beautified, p-chart?
The increasing power of various retouching tools, the constant updating of makeup tools and techniques, often brings two kinds of false cognition to women: I am already beautiful, and I deserve to be liked by more and better men.
There is no denying that there are many plain-faced beauties, but for most people, they are actually ordinary people. The skin is sallow, uneven skin tone, frequent acne, etc. are all normal. This is not a facial defect, let alone a flaw.
But women are keen to cover up with makeup, and use P diagrams to make themselves thin, beautiful and good-looking. When you see the picture in the picture that can be regarded as a "beautiful woman", women are often easy to fall into, self-hypnosis turns out to be so good-looking, so beautiful. After a long time, I can't extricate myself from it.
As a result, two phenomena occur:
One is that women have cognitive biases in the true situation of their appearance, so when an ordinary man pursues them, they naturally look down on them and will think that they deserve better men to love;
Second, there is always a gap between reality and photos, in the network, they can attract men with these beautified photos, but when they return to reality to meet, the so-called "see the light death" appears.
The root cause of the two phenomena is that under the influence of various tools, women do not recognize themselves clearly, overconfident in their appearance, not only let themselves be lost, but also make men disgusted, so that they can not find good people, naturally will be left, even if there is a house and a car and a deposit, they cannot successfully find the love that suits them.
In fact, everyone's appearance is born unique, there is no need to rely too much on makeup, there is no need to P yourself into another look, you are you, sincere, but more easily accepted.
02 There are many "temperamental" people
"Ten fingers do not stick to the spring water of the sun" women, it seems that there are more and more.
That's the case with friend Fluttershy. I grew up with her and played together until we were growing up. In her memory, she is not pretentious, we all belong to the kind of children who are forced by their parents to clean the dishes and sweep the floor at home.
I don't know when she became "flirtatious". After talking to her once, she said that women are not born to do those chores, not only will it make the skin rough, but also make men not know how to cherish you.
She said that the man she married would not let her do any housework, including cleaning dishes, cooking, washing clothes, cleaning up, etc., and would not let her suffer a little.
Although they are both women, they really dare not agree with her ideas. Two people can have the opportunity to know, fall in love, know each other, and form a family, in addition to love, essentially require two people to pay and work together.
It is true that many women are held in the palm of their hands by men, but they are not seen to give nothing.
Women really don't have to be so pretentious, don't approve of being a cow and a horse for men, paying for the family wholeheartedly, and even ignoring their own practices, but not so extreme.
This kind of behavior is to cherish the self from the perspective of women, love and self, and in the man's point of view, it is actually a pretense. Even if you have a car and a house and a deposit, men are generally reluctant to marry such a woman home as a "grandfather".
Advocate that women have correct cognition and have correct three views.
03 The traditional "male strong female weak" influence
"There is a car, a house and a deposit" These seven words look ordinary, put on any man, it is nothing, it is a basic configuration, if men do not have these, marriage and children will be more difficult than the men who have these.
But when you put these seven words on women, it's different. There are two reasons for this;
First, when women have a car and a house and a deposit, it means that the conditions are higher than those of ordinary men, but the influence of various factors such as the traditional "strong man and weak woman", "male and female protagonists" and "machismo" often cause men to feel pressure when facing this part of women.
In order to firmly grasp their own position, they would rather choose a woman with poor conditions than choose such a woman to override their position, after all, sometimes ability determines family status and discourse power.
Second, when women have a house, a car and a deposit, they have no worries about food and clothing, and their careers are successful, naturally they will not make it up casually, and their vision will be correspondingly improved, and they are eager to be with men who are better than themselves.
But when this part of the women think like this, they ignore the men who are better than themselves, one is that there are not so many, and the other is that this part of the people have more requirements for their partners.
Such a "yin and yang error" in such conditions has led to more and more leftover women with good conditions.
04 The older you are, the less likely you are to be accepted by men
Some people say that men always have a crush on eighteen-year-old girls. Although this sentence is a bit extreme, it is not denied that most men like young girls.
Therefore, the older a woman is, the less likely she is to be accepted by men, and the fewer opportunities for older leftover women.
Of course, you may say that women who have a house, a car and a deposit, and have such conditions, should not be popular even if they are older?
In fact, from the perspective of various factors, most of the younger men will tend to be women of the same age as themselves, two people can struggle together, older men, the economic conditions are generally better, more willing to accept young girls, the remaining men who can choose such leftover women are really pitiful.
What's worse is that the remaining types of men often can't get into the eyes of older leftover women who meet these conditions.
Why do older leftover women who have houses, cars and savings, but men bluntly say that they can't marry? The above four points can probably be explained.
In my opinion, as men say, if a woman's three views are not correct and her self-perception is biased, then even if she has a house, a car and a deposit, she really can't marry.
It is normal for such a woman to be left behind.
However, the reason why most women are left is not because they are not good enough, the three views are not correct, nor how high the man's vision is, but the fate has not arrived, and he has not yet met the person who is suitable for him.
Whether it is love or marriage, in fact, pay attention to a "fate" word, fate has not arrived, no matter how much desire is futile. There is also a very important point, love regardless of age, do not be intimidated by the four words of the elderly leftover woman, as long as the correct person appears, it is not too late at any time.
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