Tang Xianzu of the Ming Dynasty wrote in "Peony Pavilion": "I don't know what to do, but I have always been deep.
I don't know when I fell in love with a person, I was deeply attracted to the other party, quietly moved by him, and I fell deeper and deeper, and I loved him so much that I couldn't help myself.
If the other party does not love himself, then no matter how humble he is, no matter how he lowers his posture, he cannot exchange his affectionate gaze.
If the other party loves himself, then this love is more desirable and obsessive, because this love can get the other party's response, and it is no longer a one-man one-man show.
However, as the saying goes, it is easy to love each other and difficult to get along, and it is easy to get along with each other.
Two people in love together, only need each other's heartbeat, and if you really get along together, you will encounter many contradictions, a lot of disputes, and the feelings will gradually fade.
Many people who love each other, in the process of getting along, walk and walk and disperse, the two people's ten-fingered hands have been let go, and it is no longer difficult to fulfill the promise they made to keep each other for a lifetime.
After separating, they broke off contact with each other and wanted to forget each other and start a new life.
However, people who have truly loved each other cannot forget so easily, and they have to go through a process of pain and struggle between each other in order to gradually forget each other.
After the disconnection, two strong feelings arise, indicating that the two people have truly loved each other.
01. Often touch the scene and miss each other's goodness
People who have truly loved each other, after breaking off the connection, before completely forgetting each other, will not break the thoughts in their hearts.
The surrounding scene can easily evoke the thoughts of the other party in your heart.
When you hear a sentence inadvertently said by others, you will suddenly remember that the person once said such a sentence to yourself, so you can't help but fall into thoughts and memories.
When passing by the place where he and that person often go, the familiar figure of the other party will suddenly flash in your mind, and a beautiful picture of the two people once being together will appear.
When packing up things, if you suddenly see the gift or something that the other party has given you, you will always look at the object, and a pang of sadness will rush into your heart, and you can't help but think of its owner.
Even with friends around you, or re-embracing another person into their own world, they occasionally reminisce about that person's goodness and nostalgia for how the two were once together.
I felt that only that person who understood himself so well could truly enter his heart, so he began to miss the good of the other party, missed everything about the other party, and seemed to want to go back to the past, but found that time could not be turned back, and he could only secretly think back in his heart and miss silently.
And if you don't love someone so much, even if you are separated, you rarely think of each other, and you will not have so many feelings and nostalgia in your heart, so strong thoughts and worries.
02. When you recall each other, you have mixed feelings
If you have truly loved a person, even if you are separated and disconnected, you will involuntarily miss him and worry about him irrepressibly, especially when you have just separated, this feeling is particularly strong.
Not only that, when I think of the person I once loved deeply, my heart is like a five-flavored bottle, with mixed feelings. A variety of emotions and feelings, mixed together, lingering.
Among them, there are thoughts and worries; there are complaints and regrets; there are reluctances, and there are nostalgia.
From time to time, he would think of the other, miss the other, and sometimes even fantasize that he would immediately appear in front of him, still smiling at himself as before.
Will worry about each other, curious about how the other party is doing now, wondering if the other party is also thinking about themselves, and will not be able to let go of themselves.
Will blame each other, when they were too indifferent to themselves, when they were too stubborn and proud, they were unwilling to take care of themselves as they had just met.
I will feel regrets, I will fantasize that I can go back to the past, if we can be more tolerant and accommodating to each other, a little more understanding and understanding, will we not come to this step.
People who once loved themselves so much said that they left and left, as if they had never come to their own world, but they left so much reluctance and nostalgia for themselves.
This is the two people who have truly loved, there will be strong feelings, when recalling each other, the heart will have a hundred feelings, a thousand kinds of sorrow, all kinds of nostalgia, entangled in the heart, difficult to dissipate.
03. Instead of losing the precious knowledge, it is better to cherish what you have
People, always after the loss, deep regret. After missing it, I realized that it was valuable.
After losing the person you love, you know how important the other person's position is in your mind, and you begin to miss the advantages of the other party, but at that time, you can't regret it.
Many times, missing is a lifetime, and turning around is a lifetime.
What is lost may never be found again, and the person who misses it may never look back after turning around.
No amount of tears you shed, you can't get back what you've lost, and who you've missed. No matter how many regrets and reluctances there are in my heart, I can't go back to the past.
However, if you look at this problem from another angle, you will find that regret is the norm in life. Life is a multiple choice question, no matter how you choose, you may regret it.
It is the regrets and misses in life that teach us how to love a person, how to better manage our feelings, and let us learn to cherish.
Instead of losing it, it is better to cherish everything you have in front of you, cherish the fate and encounters in life, and don't let yourself leave too many regrets.
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