Wang Xiaofei will be a hot girl:
Why is it so easy for men to find a partner after divorce?
Text/Yan Ling sheep
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Recently, the news of Wang Xiaofei and the hot girl's ten fingers rushed to the hot search.
The hot search title is: #汪小菲张颖颖十指紧扣视频 #
When I first saw the hot search, I was scared and rolled, thinking that he was with Zhang Liangying.
After seeing the woman's name clearly, my first reaction was: Who made this hot search? The idea of wanting a woman to be famous is too obvious, right?
Isn't the normal hot search title "Wang Xiaofei and a beautiful woman with ten fingers clasped"? Because we don't know who Zhang Yingying is.
In fact, before Wang Xiaofei and Big S announced their divorce, there were rumors that he and hot girls were dating.
It is said that in September last year, Wang Xiaofei also took her mother Zhang Lan and Zhang Yingying on a tour of Mount Tai. Zhang Lan and Zhang Yingying also wear photos with the same necklace, looking close
As for the couple necklace, the two have long worn it.
At that time, Wang Xiaofei was exposed to Zhang Yingying living together, causing an uproar on the Internet.
Just when everyone's discussion was in full swing, Wang Xiaofei posted a lawyer's letter denying that he had cheated and promised to sue one by one, and public opinion gradually calmed down.
Unexpectedly, there was a follow-up to this matter, Wang Sicong directly threw out a chat record, saying that Wang Xiaofei was a dead duck with a hard mouth, which once again caused public discussion.
Netizens suspected that the fish tank in the Beijing house posted by big S was similar to the height of the fish tank in the background of the woman's live broadcast.......
However, Wang Xiaofei has been denying it.
Now it has been photographed that the two people have ten fingers clasped, and the woman has a name and a surname, and netizens call directly: Wang Xiaofei, you admit it.
Soon, Zhang Yingying sent out such a weibo, and deleted it in seconds.
Subsequently, she forwarded the lawyer's statement, saying that the following content was not sent by herself, but was forged by others.
For his relationship with Wang Xiaofei, there is still no explanation.
It seems that this statement is like saying to Wang Xiaofei: My Weibo has been stolen, and this is not what I said.
But how to say it? The whole process feels like a hype of self-directed and self-acting, and I am afraid that the heat will soon pass.
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Some netizens asked: After a man divorces, how is it so easy to find a partner. You see Wang Xiaofei, and big S's divorce procedures do not know whether it has been completed, just like the young beauty ten fingers clasped, but also rushed to the hot search.
Here are my answers:
Generally speaking, a man and a woman who have reached the step of divorce feel differently in marriage.
The more scummy, passive divorce party often feels that "this day can still go on, why do you have to leave"; the less scummy, active divorce party, only feel "that's because you don't need to put up with me, and I need to put up with you, and even have to put up with your whole family."
Although everyone is in the same marriage, this marriage is only a hot spring for the former, and a fire pit that can burn and burn people to death for the latter.
The law in feelings is: who endures, who is uncomfortable.
It is not very uncomfortable for others to endure themselves, so they cannot feel the pain of "putting up with others". That is to say, in that marriage, the degree of pain is not as high as that of the party who initiated the divorce, and the speed of creating new intimate relationships after divorce will be faster.
This kind of thing is like stock speculation, you have to be too sweet, you are more willing to chase high. You've touched the moldy head and just want to avoid it.
So, for the less scummy party, divorce is followed by a pain.
On the one hand, the psychological trauma of "being bitten by a snake for ten years" is still there, and their vision will only be higher than in the past, and they will find a partner more provocative than before; on the other hand, it is difficult to get rid of pain, and they will also be addicted to this "no longer painful life"....
Taken together, they are less willing to enter new intimate relationships.
As soon as this kind of news came out, the attitudes of all sides were different.
Wang Xiaofei is estimated to think, you see how attractive I am, I have never lacked women. The old don't go, the new doesn't come.
If Big S sees Wang Xiaofei's scandal, he will only "breathe a sigh of relief": the old woman has finally got rid of this forty-year-old father with two children, and will still go to the night club to get drunk and the scum of the beautiful woman at night.
As a melon-eating masses, when we look at Wang Xiaofei's scandals, we will only think: Hey, that woman, on her looks, temperament, conditions, heart, and intellect, which point is comparable to the big S?
This last hot search, she also had to put on her own name, and her heart to be famous on Wang Xiaofei was clear (of course, to some extent, Wang Xiaofei was used in this way, which was also popular with the masses).
Of course, Wang Xiaofei is also worthy of this, before it was all mismatched, now everyone is in their place, the world is too peaceful.
Of course, let a man who is accustomed to objectifying women judge who is better in "big s and Wang Xiaofei's gossip girlfriend", they may generally judge by their own "materialized people" needs (that is, which can be "used" by themselves more comfortable).
But if you ask him, do you want your daughter to be like the big S, or is wang Xiaofei's gossip object like that?
Well, their answers may be more normal.
It's just that the vast majority of men simply don't have the strength and qualifications to pick or judge.
Take Wang Xiaofei, for example, who has long lost the qualification to choose big S.
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Every time I see people commenting on a remarried man's "how long has he been divorced or widowed, and he came out so quickly", I wonder: Isn't this normal?
When men remarry, many times they have one more person to serve themselves for free, and they pull some property to distribute to others, and then complete this value exchange, why not be happy?
All they want is "a woman", and as for who this woman is, they may not be very picky, and it is enough to reach a certain standard line of their own.
Why is the rate of remarriage low for women after divorce or widowhood?
The truth is not that this part of the women no one wants, but that they are too picky eaters. Women really want to find a man at will, it will never be difficult, after all, there are so many men who can't find a wife.
Moreover, if they are not poor enough to sell themselves, most women can still take care of their children and take care of family life without men, but men are not necessarily (talking about high probability).
The older they get, the more dependent they become on women.
It is not difficult to understand why, from ancient times to the present, from the city to the countryside, the number of widows is far greater than that of widowers. Women are widowed, one can pull the children to grow up, and if they don't meet the right ones, many of them can never marry.
If a man is widowed or divorced, few people can persist for more than five years without a female companion.
Studying the celebrities of the Republic of China period, it is not difficult for us to find this.
Even if they are ideologically and intellectually superior, if they are widowed or divorced in their later years, they must ignore the opposition of their children and find a female companion, who can be completely different from them, and can be directed at their money, status or fame.
For them, it doesn't matter, as long as the other person is a woman and can serve themselves.
Moreover, there are some remarried men who slowly become obedient as they get older.
Compared with the age of twenty or thirty, I don't like to play anymore, and I have become a bit family-oriented.
On the one hand, I am older, my physical strength is poor, and I can't play. On the other hand, when I think of the pension problem, I know that I am afraid and dare not do it.
For middle-aged people, there is probably no longer "birth and separation" for the rest of their lives, only "death farewell". Parents grow old or even die, and children grow up, reminding themselves that sooner or later they will retire from the stage of life.
Don't dare to toss and turn, that is, "know to be afraid."
In other words, are they unable to afford to be a second time, and must not be obedient?
In the second half of life, sexual problems, housework problems, companionship problems, parenting problems, each problem may crush them, which prompts them - even if they take out the money at the bottom of the pressure box, they must find a partner to fill the void of their lives.
Some time ago, a fan friend asked me: Why did my ex-husband treat me so badly in the previous marriage, and the prostitutes continued to ask out Pao, but after I divorced him with my children, he remarried, but he was very good to the new wife? Is it really not worth it?
I said, don't think so, in addition to the reason we just said "men are old, can't play, know to be afraid", there is another reason for your ex-husband's performance - he wants to prove to everyone that the breakdown of the previous marriage is mainly your problem. The truth about the prostitutes you know that could affect his reputation, no one will believe it again...
That's his purpose.
In other words, he has always loved himself, and he loved his desires in the previous marriage. You, or the woman on the outside, are the containers that help him fulfill his desires.
In the latter marriage, he loved his pension interests, his own reputation, and his new wife was just a tool to help him improve his self-virtue.
It is unlikely that such men will love a specific woman.
It's just that she's luckier than you for the time being and stepped on the right spot.
There's another reason for that: new three-day incense.
During the hot love period, who does not want to perform well, who looks at each other is not like looking at Xi Shi, who is not immersed in the sweetness of love?
However, the hormones will eventually fade, and chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea will eventually occupy the protagonist of life..... In the end, we all have to get along with each other's human nature and true character.
Compared with the prodigal son does not change his gold, I think that the dog can't change to eat is the most reasonable thing in the world.
The dog does not eat later, it may just not eat it, and the fate of eating again will be more tragic.
In this world, true love is very rare, and people ultimately live by measuring the pros and cons.
Others, try to open it.
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Author: Yan Lingyang, post-80s, emotional columnist, new feminist author, member of the Chinese Writers Association. He is the author of the best-selling books "Those That Make You Miserable, One Day You Will Laugh and Say It", "May You Let Go of the Past and Be Worthy of the Future", "May You Have a Journey and a Way Out", "I Am Divorced", "There Is No Loneliness in Your Jianghu - An Alternative Interpretation of Jin Yong's Martial Arts Novels" and a children's picture book "Mommy's House, Daddy's Home". With 13 years of experience in the financial industry (management), he is now the founder of a cultural information consulting company in Guangzhou and the co-founder of a cultural media company. Born in Lijiang, Yunnan, he currently lives in Guangzhou. Welcome to pay attention to the WeChat public number: Yan Lingyang Weibo: Yan Lingyang ~
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