Sex and love have always been the most intimate topics in intimate relationships.
Is there sex first and love later? Or is there love first and sex later? Everyone has some sort of answer in their heart.
In the movie "Color Ring", Wang Jiazhi, played by Tang Wei, is a secret agent, in order to assassinate the traitor Mr. Yi, she plays "Mrs. Mai" to seduce him.
To this end, she experienced four physical relationships, "sex" accounted for only a small part, occupy more, is some inexplicable emotions.
Desire, sinking, emotion, passion, great love... Their different feelings are intertwined into notes, composing a moving elegy in her short life.
Wang Jiazhi was a student, her mother died early, and her father took his son away from home, leaving her alone to struggle in the turbulent situation.
Wang Jiazhi was very lonely, at this time the male classmate Kwong Yumin appeared, this big boy full of patriotic enthusiasm, expressed his good feelings to Jiazhi.
Wang Jiazhi was very pleased. This innocent campus romance is the only "pure love" in her life.
After that, the beautiful and intelligent Wang Jiazhi was used as a political prop and involved in the assassination operation.
Kwong Yumin organized several classmates to assassinate the head of the secret service, Mr. Yi, and he asked Wang Jiazhi to play "Mrs. Mai", and he hooked up with Mr. Yi's wife, and then met Mr. Yi.
The progress is very smooth, and Mr. Yi has a good feeling for Wang Jiazhi.
The description of Mr. Yi in the original work is "rat phase", which means that he is old and treacherous, but in the face of Wang Jiazhi, he exudes a hint of tenderness.
The fish had already bitten the bait, and the students thought they could "kill him early and just in time to go back to school", but they did not expect that their poor acting skills had long been seen through by Mrs. Yi and Mr. Yi.
Mrs. Yi and Mr. Yi prepare to leave the city, because they are jealous of Wang Jiazhi, and Mrs. Yi deliberately tells her finally, which makes Wang Jiazhi very broken.
For this assassination, she had just sacrificed her innocent virginity.
Mr. Yi and Wang Jiazhi are progressing rapidly, the next step is to go to bed, in order to keep the "Mrs. Mai" persona, the students discussed:
Find a man to have a relationship with Wang Jiazhi and break her place.
Wang Jiazhi originally thought that Kwong Yumin would volunteer to do this, but he did not expect that he would back down, and the last person to stand out was another male classmate.
The first time was gone, and the assassination failed.
This dealt a big blow to Wang Jiazhi, who dropped out of school and stopped contacting her former classmates and not knowing whether they were dead or alive.
Confused about the first sexual love that happened, Wang Jiazhi's feelings were "remorse and shame".
She let go of her love for Kwong Yu-min and wanted to live a life like this, but she did not expect that 3 years later, she and Mr. Yi would be reunited again.
After Kwong Yu-min and other students failed to assassinate Mr. Yi, the local government took care of them and incorporated them.
In order to assassinate Mr. Yi, Kwong Yumin, who disappeared for 3 years, found Wang Jiazhi and hoped that she would continue to play "Mrs. Mai".
At this time, Wang Jiazhi's feelings were very complicated.
Time passed, and she was no longer the girl who had just opened her heart, but after a short thought, she joined the government organization.
She was abandoned in her early years, humiliated as a teenager, and almost no good things happened in her life, only "dedication to the country" can bring a sense of need.
"Mrs. Mai", who appeared in front of Mr. Yi again, after systematic packaging training, disguised impeccable, mr. Yi was quickly attracted to her.
The second sexual love in Wang Jiazhi's life is like a storm.
Mr. Yi roughly tied her hands and forced her to have sex with her.
The experience was not beautiful, but Wang Jiazhi's feelings for Mr. Yi gradually changed as the two had a physical relationship.
It was as if a stranger suddenly broke into life and left a trace.
Before the relationship, Wang Jiazhi was acting and did not love Mr. Yi;
After the relationship, Wang Jiazhi began to fake the real thing, sometimes provocative, sometimes seduced, and looked at Mr. Yi's eyes more and more softly.
Love is fluid, and emotion is transmitted to Mr. Yi's heart.
This cold-blooded and ruthless traitor has many lovers, and he uses them as a tool for sexual discharge, but he has real feelings for Wang Jiazhi.
The third sexual love in Wang Jiazhi's life is almost tender and sweet.
Both she and Mr. Yi had a hint of confusion and emotion in their eyes, as if they had been caught off guard by the love that fell unexpectedly, and they were a little dizzy.
By the fourth sexual love, Wang Jiazhi confirmed that she was in love with Mr. Yi, and her expression became painful, because she had already foreseen the end of this love:
Either you die or I die.
Wang Jiazhi said to her superiors:
Like a snake, Mr. Yi not only drilled into my body, but also into my heart. Only if I have him in my heart, he is willing to accompany me to this scene.
Mr. Yi gave Wang Jiazhi a huge pigeon egg ring, and the moment he got the ring, Wang Jiazhi sank.
She forgot her tasks, forgot her duties, and became an ordinary woman who was deeply in love.
She couldn't help but say to Mr. Yi: Run.
Mr. Yi fled in a hurry, and the assassins of the ring shop also chased after him, and the assassination failed and the mission was exposed.
Wang Jiazhi took out the poison hidden in the collar and wanted to die.
But she hesitated.
She wanted to wait to see if Mr. Yi would save her.
In the end, Mr. Yi did not save her, he personally issued a shooting order, and both Wang Jiazhi and Kwong Yumin were shot.
In this life, Wang Jiazhi experienced four sexual loves:
Once absurd, once tyrannical, once tempted each other, once deeply rooted in love.
Sex and love fused together in Wang Jiazhi, she could not distinguish or see through, and eventually was indulged in it, losing her precious life.
Back to the original question: sex and love, who is in front and who is behind?
The answer is:
Sex and love are two sides of the same coin, and who happens first depends on who we need more.
Wang Jiazhi was abandoned by her father, lonely inside, and she needed to be loved.
Kwong Yumin's overtures and Mr. Yi's shows of love are the two rays of light in her dark life.
Wang Jiazhi is almost paranoid about love.
The first time she was confused, she did not contact the other party again, sex was only a carrier of love for her, and sex without love had no meaning.
This paranoia of hers awakened the human part of Mr. Yi's heart.
At the beginning of the acquaintance, he looked at the lipstick mark left on the glass, and at that time he liked this somewhat clumsy girl.
Therefore, from the very beginning, what Mr. Yi gave wang Jiazhi was not only sex, but the most basic desire for love in human nature, which was in line with Wang Jiazhi's attachment to love.
Mr. Yi and Wang Jiazhi have love for each other, but politics, intrigue and lust make this love less clear, causing them to miss each other.
In life, we do not need to experience such a complex environment, sex and love in the end is more important, you can make a rough judgment.
The easiest way to judge is to observe whether each other is willing to compromise for each other.'s sake.
If we are willing to give and change for each other, the relationship is not just sex.
Compromises range from big to small, as small as quitting smoking for you, to leaving your hometown for you.
Sex is just about seeking comfort, and when a person is willing to withdraw from the comfort zone for you, it is not just comfort, love is more important.
Although we have learned to distinguish between sex and love, as a rational person, we must also judge how long the shelf life of this love is and whether it is worth investing.
Mr. Yi's love for Wang Jiazhi was only a short warming, and in order to protect himself, he abandoned the woman he loved.
In life, such love is not worth investing in.
Love that has a long shelf life and can be stable and sustainable is "loving others as yourself".
Whether sex happens first, or love happens first, "I am willing to love you in the way I love myself", love can usher in a good ending.
Sex and love are complex and intertwined, but happiness is clear and simple, and the ability to grasp clearly see oneself and others can break through the cognitive fog.
No matter who we meet first, what we want most is the love of holding the hand of the son and the old man.
Like that popular saying:
In this life, encountering sex and encountering love is not uncommon. It is rare to encounter understanding.