It is not an easy thing to maintain kindness in this society, you must be smart to be kind, otherwise it is easy to change from kindness to a fool, and the more kind you have to be, the smarter you have, kindness has high requirements for IQ, kindness is the result of careful thinking, not a simple spontaneous instantaneous reaction
Not everyone is worth treating kindly, not everyone is worthy of your tolerance, kindness has a ruler, tolerance has a degree, and people who do not understand gratitude keep a distance, and do not contact people who are inching forward
There is a saying: helping you is a sentiment, not helping is the duty, do not take the kindness and tolerance of others as your reason for doing wrong, outside the request for help is not successful to beat a rake of the person, it can be seen that the character is also bad
Zhang Xinyu posted on Weibo, buying something at the airport counter, met a man, said that he could not catch up with the plane, can not check out first, at that time the checkout was half, because he bought more things, if you stop at this time, you have to start again, and at that time also rushed to catch the plane, he refused to cut in line, but his attitude immediately changed, asking how long it would take to check out at the counter.
The counter was very busy and did not hear his questioning, out of kindness to tell him that there were still about ten minutes to finish, the man immediately said "I did not ask you", and then an aunt came over to consult about the current discount, the man turned back to the aunt and said: "Don't ask the people here, the people at the counter here have problems with their brains." ”
The image comes from Weibo
Hearing his inexplicable attack turn to him and ask him: "You say it again, who has a problem, who is going to catch the plane, who refuses your insertion, you are like this, who has a problem?" His eyes did not dare to look at me, just gently back to the other side, he looked very timid, but he had been attacking people and broken thoughts, but he did not dare to look at each other directly.
Sometimes we blindly be kind and compromised, but let the other party become a reason to be wanton. There is nothing wrong with kindness in itself, and some people just like to serve your kindness, endless exploitation, arbitrary oppression.
I remember when I was pregnant last year, I went to the hospital for obstetric examination and encountered similar things. At that time, the first blood test for the sugar sieve had been completed, and when the second time I queued up, I saw one window with three people, while the other window had only one person.
So I went to the window where there were few people and lined up, and when I came, the medical staff said to me: "I have identified this, and I will not go to other windows." ”
I replied that there were still people queuing at other windows. Even so, the staff still did not give the inspection, but directly left.
In fact, phenomena like this kind of jumping in line or bullying the small with the big still abound. On the surface, this kind of person seems to belong to the kind of "fierce god and evil" face, and the old saying is good, and it is born from the heart.
If a person is calculating carefully, such a person is afraid that there will not be many friends around him, and the people around him will stay away and feel that such people cannot be dealt with.
In life, everyone will encounter urgent or difficult times, if you have a sense of gratitude to ask others, others will try their best to help you.
But if you use a commanding tone to get someone to help you, then I'm sorry! There is no one in this world who owes you, it is a matter of affection to help you, and it is a duty not to help.
Don't let forgiveness and forbearance become indulgence and cowardice, don't be weak and deceitful people, tolerance and forgiveness must grasp a certain limit, low-key is by no means a sign of cowardice
Sometimes your forgiveness and tolerance are the reasons for the other party's repeated indulgence. One endure and then endure no longer need to endure, life is so short, why suffer for others, everywhere to endure it?
Your kindness must be a little sharp, otherwise it will equal zero, and may your kindness in this life live up to tenderness.
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