What relationship in the world is the most difficult to get along with? Then someone will definitely say about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The question of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a major problem of the century. This is not only because of the differences in personality, living habits and concepts between the two people. It is also because two people who are not the same person are deeply in love with the same man.
After a man and a woman get married, as a daughter-in-law, it is very difficult to successfully integrate into a strange family. If you meet a more tolerant and easy to get along with the mother-in-law, it will naturally reduce a lot of contradictions. However, if the relationship with the mother-in-law is not harmonious, not only is his life a mess, but the husband who is sandwiched in the middle will also be embarrassed.
Yu Chengqing's son graduated and took a family portrait, a family of four intimate with the same frame, smiling and betraying the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!
Yu Chengqing's marriage with Yi Nengjing was once widely acclaimed. The two were married for nine years and gave birth to two sons. However, because of the problem of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he finally chose to divorce. In the eyes of many people, the reason why two people divorced is not entirely because of the scandal of that year.
It was more because Yu Chengqing's mother did not like Yi Nengjing, the daughter-in-law. After the two divorced, Yi Nengjing married Qin Hao and gave birth to a daughter, Xiao Mi Grain. Yu Chengqing married Zhang Jiaxin and had a son and a daughter.
On the social platform, Yu Chengqing publicly shared the photos taken by the whole family when his son graduated. I saw that the family in the photo was all full of smiles, and only the atmosphere between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law was a little strange. Judging from the divorce between Yu Chengqing and Yi Nengjing, Yu Chengqing's mother was not a particularly kind person.
Although in the eyes of the public, Zhang Jiaxin is a host, proficient in foreign languages and doing a very good job. Any family would love such a capable and beautiful daughter-in-law. But in yu Chengqing's mother's eyes, she didn't like it very much.
Some people broke the news that the most fundamental reason why Yu's mother and daughter-in-law are not in harmony is because she does not like her daughter-in-law's work. Therefore, after Yu Chengqing and Zhang Jiaxin married and had children, they quickly moved out of their hometown and lived alone. Such a situation also makes everyone can't help but sigh, even if there is a change of daughter-in-law, there is still an irreconcilable problem of mother-in-law.
In fact, in life, it is not uncommon for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems like Yu Chengqing's family to occur. Many couples are deeply troubled by the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and have to choose divorce to end. This also makes many young people more worried when facing marriage.
So, when facing the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, how should it be handled?
1. Mutual respect and mutual understanding
The mother-in-law relationship, like other relationships we encounter in life, is a kind of interpersonal relationship. If you want to avoid the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, everyone should first correct their mentality. Understand that living together as a family will inevitably have some bumps and bumps. Fighting with parents, or having a disagreement, is normal.
Instead of avoiding problems, the most important thing for everyone to consider is how to properly deal with and solve problems after they arise. Generally speaking, as long as both sides can respect each other, understand each other, and do not interfere and interfere in each other's lives. Then, the occurrence of contradictions can be greatly reduced.
2. Learn to communicate
Because of the difference in the concept of life between the two generations, it is very normal for problems and misunderstandings to occur in life. Instead of trying to avoid contradictions, it is better to learn to communicate effectively and reasonably. Young people often tell the elderly their thoughts clearly and clearly.
And the elderly also have more respect and understanding when facing the lifestyle of young people. Be honest with each other and communicate well when encountering things, and you can avoid the estrangement to a large extent.
3, worry more about the elderly
In ordinary life, daughters-in-law should remember their mother-in-law more. When it comes to festivals, you can prepare some simple small gifts for your mother-in-law. While expressing their filial piety, they can also make the elderly rejoice. After all, there is no one who does not like the feeling of being remembered and remembered.
Instead of arguing with the old man on some trivial issues. It is better to change yourself and adjust your behavior, which may help to ease the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
summary:
Whether as a daughter-in-law or as a mother-in-law, you should refuse to be stubborn in life. Be considerate and understanding of the efforts of others, and be more tolerant and patient with the mistakes of others. Most of the contradictions in life arise from inconsiderate and disrespectful to others.
In addition to this, in the family relationship, the husband is definitely the most important presence. In order to balance the contradictions between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, the husband should act as a mediator in a timely manner. While communicating in time, don't let two women hurt their feelings because of some small things. After all, wife and mother are irreplaceable roles in their own lives.