There is no such thing as pure leisure and happiness in this world. Only by understanding these three simple truths can we truly experience the comfort and comfort of life.
First, idleness comes from busyness
Romain Rolland once said: "The heaviest burden in life is not work, but boredom." ”
If people do nothing, they will have distracting thoughts, be prone to wild thoughts, and lose themselves in the midst of gain and loss.
In the "Vegetable Root Tan", it is said, "If life is too idle, don't think about stealing life." ”
The way of leisure is not right, a day of doing nothing, it will be boring, a boring is easy to think wildly, but it will let yourself fall into the entanglement of various delusions.
As the old saying goes: "All things are self-sufficient in contemplation, and idleness is idleness until the mind is idle." ”
It can make the heart comfortable and peaceful, which can be regarded as high-quality leisure.
The famous psychologist Mihaly once proposed the concept of "flow": the occurrence of flow will make people get a great sense of relaxation and satisfaction.
When flow occurs, it will make people completely intoxicated by what they are doing, feel quiet and pure inside, and even forget the passage of time and their own existence.
So, how does such "idleness" come about?
There was a joke like this:
Someone asked Xueba for advice: "You are tired of doing math problems, what activities do you usually use to rest?" ”
Xueba's answer was: "Do language questions." ”
After laughing carefully, I think there is really some truth: idle, you have to get it from busyness. The dwelling place must first be diligent, but it must be able to relax. Busy and idle is the most precious, and physical and mental peace is even more rare.
Second, it is easy to seek from difficulty
There is such a story:
In an alley, there are often people carrying burdens and selling, and one of them is an old man who sells oil and is very popular with children.
Because every time you go out with your own oil bottle, you can see the old man's superb oil pouring technology.
Only to see the old man scoop up a spoonful of oil, eyes look at the mouth of the bottle, the oil spoon is slightly crooked, the oil in the spoon is like an instant into a thin yellow line, straight into the bottle, never dropped a drop of oil.
Finally, a child couldn't help but ask the old man, "Why do you always easily pour the oil into the bottle perfectly?" ”
The old man couldn't help but smile: "Easy to come from the difficult, I fell to the ground at the beginning." Everything is difficult at the beginning, but when kung fu is practiced at home, practice makes perfect, and it naturally becomes easy. ”
The world-famous psychological effect, the "flywheel effect", vividly illustrates this.
In order for the stationary flywheel to turn, at the beginning you have to push it with a lot of force, round and round. Until a certain tipping point is reached, the gravity and impulse of the flywheel become part of the thrust.
At this time, without more effort, the flywheel can rotate quickly.
The difficulty of everything is actually the gift of life, and how much difficulty you have lived, you can reach the other side of how comfortable it is.
"Good things come from difficulties", encounter difficulties, understand the truth that it is easy to come from difficulties, and adjust your mentality.
Do it first, overcome it, solve it, maybe the first step is difficult, the second step is more difficult. But as you walk, you will find that it is not as difficult as you think, because gradually your feet are smooth and the road is smooth.
Third, gain comes from loss
A traveler, by a large river, saw a mother-in-law who was worried about crossing the water. Exhausted, he used all his strength to help his mother-in-law cross the river. As a result, after crossing the river, the mother-in-law did not say anything and hurried away.
The traveler was remorseful, and he felt that it seemed unworthy to exhaust his strength to help his mother-in-law, because he did not even get the word "thank you".
Who knows, a few hours later, just when he was too tired to walk, a young man caught up with him.
The young man said, thank you for helping my grandmother, who told me to bring something and said you can use it. Having said this, the young man took out dry food and gave him the horse under his crotch.
So, you see, there is never real loss in this world. Gain comes from loss, and gain must be lost. It is enough to gain calmly and lose indifference.
Whoever you meet, he is the right person; whatever happens, that is the only thing that will happen; no matter what moment it begins, it is the right moment; what has already ended, it is already over.
Life is a journey, and all that passes by is scenery. Even if it is painful, it is only a process, just strive to move forward, looking forward to the future, until you meet a brilliant rainbow.
If it backfires, believe that something else must be arranged; all that is lost will return in another way.