Wang Meng criticized his beloved disciple Sun Long for not daring to fight: some people who are close to him can say it, but others can't
We often encounter such things, people who have a good relationship with ourselves, we break up each other, or criticize and insult, we will not pay attention to it, feel very normal. But when we hear from other people's mouths that the other person is a little bit bad, we are often particularly angry, and even worse, we will go back.
In the past two days, I know that the last incident about Wang Meng criticizing his disciple Sun Long, and then Sun Long was attacked by the Internet storm, won the public's attention. As soon as the incident came out, Wang Meng stood up for Sun Long, "I said he could, because I am his teacher, and you don't want Internet violence." There is a deep affection between our teachers and students, he has always been watched by me, I can say this, why do you say that he is meaningless, scattered! ”
I quite agree with Wang Meng's statement that some things can only be said by people close to him, and when others say it, it is not possible!!!
1, people are emotional animals, we tend to favor people with good relationships with ourselves
Maybe just enter the workplace, someone will tell you that after going to the company, you should have a good relationship with the leader, which will help you in the future, maybe we as a workplace white, feel that we can rely on our own ability, why should we please others?
And when you are really in the workplace, you will understand why more and more people are willing to please the superior, because they have a good relationship with the superior, have good resources in the leadership, good promotion opportunities, and give priority to the people around them.
Some time ago, the company came to a new colleague, colleagues are very good, and old employees are getting along very well, but the relationship with the leader is the best, every three to five to invite the leader to eat, to the leader to give gifts, these opportunistic tricks in the eyes of our old employees are very dismissive.
Just two months later, something unexpected happened, the company's product manager Xiao Zhang left for family reasons, at that time, we thought that Xiao Li, who often took over Xiao Zhang's work, would be promoted to new product manager, there is no doubt.
That day, as usual, we came to our workstation early and sat waiting for the personnel announcement, but we never expected that this fledgling newcomer had become our new product manager, and he had been in the company for less than three months, and his ability was average. None of us expected this to turn out.
In history, there was no shortage of eunuchs in the era, and the reason why eunuchs were in charge was to gain the trust of the emperor and thus climb to the top step by step. Too, people who have a good relationship with them will be closer. Even if there are good things and good things, we all think about the people around us.
2, some words, some things, can only be said and done by people close to them
People are often rebellious, and we are not willing to listen to others judge ourselves, and we have always listened only to praise. But people who are close to each other are a different scene, because they are familiar with each other, they understand each other, they will not tear their faces because of three words and two words, and they will not die because of a few criticisms.
Everyone should have seen such a scene, at the Time of the New Year, relatives at home to visit the New Year, it is inevitable to talk about the life and work of their children, if there is an unfamiliar relative in front of the parents to evaluate how bad our work is, this time often waits for the parents will be very angry, constantly explain how good their children are, and when the relatives are gone, the parents begin to make a variety of provocations.
Some words, some things, only people close to each other can say and do, once others interfere, often the end will not be a peaceful, because we are born to protect the calves.